Porn: Would you consider this as being unfaithful?

[BlueRuby]

Apologises for the language in advance but I'm hugely fucked off and drinking wine.

Have had issues with DH's porn use before. I have tonight found out (he has admitted it) that he has been on a website where you pay woman to do sexual things on the web cam whilst he watches and wanks. basically he has been having internet sex with a fucking prostitute!!!

I am so fucking mad that I swear I'm going to smash something in a minute.

I think he has been unfaithful, he has had a sexual interaction with another woman. He doesn't see it like that.

PWF...well done to you for putting respect for yourself before a relationship, no matter how bad , with a man

I like Paul Weller too...apart from his daft barnet

I can't read the whole thread.
I can't because I'm in floods

Just discovered mydickheadhusband has done eactly the same thing. Apparently he doesn't see it as cheating but he's sorry blah bla blah
fuckitfuck

I want to rip my heart out and stamp on it it physically hurts so much

Please someone, anyone. I don't even have the to start my own thread

I just need to not feel so alone

He won't even leave to give me some spa ce

I am so sorry, RBSW

you don't need to rip your heart out and stamp on it, because your husband did that for you

I'm calming. Mainly because he's busy outside. Can't vouch what I'll do when he comes back in. I can't believe he's done this. I can't believe he doesn't see it as cheating. I can't believe he didn't realise it would hurt me. He knows I hate porn for so many reasons. The lack of trust and the lack of respect hurts more than anything.
Oh fuck
fuck
FUCK

Thank you

Sorry, if it seems like I am highjacking this thread- just wanted to say thanks to PeterAndreforPm- and with regard to Paul Weller- yep- totally agree- his hair is awful- but i am abit biased because i am a lifelong fan (well since i was 13- many, many years ago!!!) of The Jam- so i will always love Paul Weller, despite his hair do!!

RBSW- please know that you are not alone in this- I hear your pain and I totally understand what you are going through- my stbxh also has refused to leave- saying he still wants to be with me- he wont lift any of my guilt from my shoulders and leave- instead he wil leaving that to me- so that he can say it is me splitting up the family- what a t**at!

These men have done a very good job of making us feel so horrible- we need to rise above it, hold our heads up high and look forward- at least we can look our kids in the eye and know that we have tried our best- i have already decided that when my kids are older (they are now 7 and 9) that if they ask questions about their dad i will not hold back- i will let them know that their mummy had no choice but to leave him behind.

This forum is great- i feel very supported just knowing that there are other women out there that understand and are kind enough to offer advice and support- wouldnt it be great if we all lived close to each other- I would love to meet up with other, like minded mums like you guys.

PWF, if you look under the meetups topic, you will find, depending on where you live, some active meet-ups going on

if you are in the Manchester area, there is one in a couple of weeks

And now he's gone out for some fags. Apparently it's my fault as he only gave up today. I think he thinks I should just ignore this.
He can fuck right off and then some

Lots

Lots of whining what am I supposed to do, what do you want me to do?
Won't even respect I need some space. Cock

Thanks PAFPM- I will defo. look at that- I am in Shropshire btw.

what has he actually done, RBSW ?

do you want to talk about it ?

I can't tell you about Shrops

maybe send a shout out on the meetups topic

btw, hijacking hese kinds of threads is really ok

the OP will get support and validation if she is feeling shit, and helpful advice, even if she is personally not ready to action it yet

these

my t key sticks, sorry

Thanks PAFPM- this mutual support is fantastic- just knowing you ladies are here to listen to me rant if i need to and to feedback to me with support and encouragement is a huge source of strength- thank you.

Blueruby- are u ok?
RBSW- i am here if you ever want to chat.

there is always someone around

if a thread goes quiet, join another, people dip in and out

or start one of your own, you will be boosted by people commenting on your particular situation

Thanks people
I'm going to bed.
I am so drained

get some rest x

PaulWeller - I'm Shropshire but it's a BIG county.

Blue where are you? x

RBSW - I hope you get some sleep. So sorry to see that you too are going through such a shit time. x

at your T key Peter - maybe you can get a new laptop/keyboard for your birthday from DH?

I got windscreen wipers once. From the fucking cat!

God, I'm sick of this bolding fuck up. Grrrrr.

Tech - sort it out!

my birthday isn't until November !

Mouseface- I am in between Telford and Wolverhampton-

Not that far from me PaulW

I'm nearer to Wales but the train from here is fab.

Peter - is that a hint?

if MN would just like to do a whipround...that would be ok