No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

[Thomcat]

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

I've been thinking on this one all day - and shared it with my group of mums at our weekly meet up. Then it just came to me (if not him!)....

...he's a Catholic priest! Has to get up early to conduct the service every morning. And feels so guilty about breaking his vows and having sex that he can't manage to come!

Case solved.

You're all so funny!
I will of course let you know the outcome.
I think she may want to come on and tell your herself anyway!

PS, it's not always just an hour, sometime a bit more.
Last time he said he had to go and walk his mums dog, so she siad I'll get up and come with you. To which he replied, okay cool, i've got a few bits to do first and then I'll get the dog and come and get you, be back at 12, and he was, having left at 10.15am, having woken at 10! They then stayed together all day and all night.

Personally I think it might be a case of he really does enjoy a morning beer, and a bit of space to drink it in, goes off to do just that and freshen up and that drinking problem is effecting his sexual performance, or lack of it.

However I'm loving the poo and catholic priest ideas, and secretly running off to log onto MENSnet.com!

ok something dodgy going on here!! my mates husband started doing this, turned out he was delivering dodgy parcels and ended up inside!!!! Hope this isn't the case here!sorry to be such a pessimist.she has got to ask him or run!!!!

so he fended off that enquiry pretty smoothly then Thomcat!

fishier and fishier

He sounds too much hassle to bother with

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Nice to see you back Lou

shhh

Sorry

Not bad thanks NOddy, but i don't want to hijack TC's thread

Move to here

Hey Lou, nice to see you around

what a fabulous thread, well done everyone.

btw, does he smoke?

yeah, yeah, yeah

Hello Lou how nice to have you back

Hey girls,
Well, I never realised when I spoke to Thomcat that my ikkle problem could create such a thing!!!! I have read all your posts the positive and the neg ones and have laughed alot, got quite concerened and even thought about finishing the relationship as don't know if i need the grief it may entail. I am gonna bite the bullet and be bold and ask the questions at the weekend when he tries to escape! I promise I will be back to let you all.
My gut reaction is that cause he drinks a lot it is making it hard for him to ejaculate therefore he runs off so as not to put himself through the ordeal, Oh I don't know??????????
A girl will only find out when a girl asks so watch this space.........
Gooneress
xxx

good on ya goon (did TC mention all names get abbreviated )

welcome on board

Personally I think its the poo problem ... SNURK

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Good name by the way.

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Gooneress welcome to the mad world of mumsnet

I really hope it is something like the poo idea

Thank you for agreeing to TC telling us and letting us have funfunfun

Hmmm, she may be my best mate but I'm not approving that name!

However I like the shortened version - oi GOON!

Speak to you later. don't worry to much chicken, it'll all come out in the wash. you know what me and Ma Thomcat say, 'everything's always ok in the end'.

TC xx

oh and bloody hell - Lou, fanbloodytastic to see you back babes.
TC x

NIce to see you too x

what about he has premature ejaculation problems so he goes for a quick wank then once the tension is off he comes back more relaxed and able to do it , knowing that he will last longer , it would also explain the no ejaculation theory as he`s already downloaded and theres nothing else left.. but then again who knows these males hmm!!strange breed