No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

[Thomcat]

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

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Gooner: Welcome, and many thanks for letting us loose on your dilemma...hope we weren't too naughty!

And good luck with asking him.

Seriously, I hope it turns out to be something completely boring and understandable, and no threat to your happy future.

We have all pursued the disappearance issue, rather than the ejaculation issue - you probably need to do some sensitive probing into that matter.....Actually, i'm not clear - does he not have an orgasm AND not ejaculate? I think i have read that some men have orgasms but don't ejaculate - or is it the other way around? Maybe he is very discreet / inhibited when he comes, or only ejaculates a miniscule amount of semen?

Or is it clearly not happening at all?

Don't some anti-depressants, like Prozac, have an effect in this area?

hello Gooneress,
really hope it sorts itself out and is not as bad as some of the scenarios we have had fun dreaming up... power breakfast with Blair

best wishes

I just phoned her to get her on here for a chat with you all, but he's there with her now, so no can do.

but he can come on as well

Maybe he'd like to chat too?

No, he can't come at all RTKM, that's part of the problem.

Spray

SD

Still........ I am sure baked potato and wine on a flat screen will be the next big thing.

TC can you ask her in code to ask him....i really wanna know!!!!!!

ok well get her to ask him in the morning or something the suspense is killing me.......

PMSL at you funny mad lot.
I don't think she'll ask him tonight. She has another guy friend there and it won't be right.
She will ask him soon though, probably the weekend, and I promise she, or I, will tell you what happens.

Hello Gooner

Thanks for providing us with this - you are a star, we have so little to entertain us now the aptamil row has dies a death (sorry ).

Seriously, if you want this relationship to last I really hope it does and hey, a marxist who has to poo/wank/drink/have a power breakfast with Tone isn't that hard to live with!

Hi Gooneress, thanks for providing the most memorable thread title ever and hope it turns out to be nothing awful. Have to say though, the suspense is killing me! Had an ex who couldn't come very often & used to make lots of funny noises trying - he isn't called Simon is he? He always wanted a shag on Clapham Common but I was too nesh. Maybe HE was the wolfman/goatman?

TC - can she not cut out the middle man, and put HIM on the PC - so we can talk with him direct?

Ediemay - rofl

yes, ediemay, rofl too!
I live quite near clapham Common, and am temted now, to roam about listening for funny noises. Could you be more specific?

can i bring a friend?

'I never thought it would happen
With me and the girl from Clapham
Out on a windy common
That night I ain't forgotten '

got something you want to share gingerbear.we need to chat while we all await the out come(so to speak) of this thread!!!!!!

Too young to remember 'Up the Junction' by Squeeze?

almost! know the group. go on.

And when the time was ready
We had to sell the telly
Late evenings by the fire
And little kicks inside herrrrrrrrrrrr