No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

[Thomcat]

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

please up date us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Damn - saw this is active convos and thought we had an answer!

bonym same here

He is staying over tonight isn't he?????

So by tomorrow we will know the answer

I can't believe i am actually accessing the internet in the middle of the night from a conference centre just to find out if there is an outcome to this thread yet, but that is the sad truth. I have an exam at 9 am too.

am going to go to bed now.

and here I am, before 8.00 on Saturday morning, with baited breath... any time now, gooneress's man will be waking up... and then what????? If he leaves the house, I hope gooneress will immediately log onto mumsnet!

Is there time to organise a sweepstake?

thinking about this at work,sad? we want some news!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

put money on it that money's involved!!!!tenner.

What???? Still no news?????

come on, i have to know

Give the girl a chance. If he hasn't rushed off straight away, she might be otherwise engaged!

I agree, he has obviously "managed it" for the first time and they are having a blissful post-coital lie-in.

OK, it's gone half two now, that's quite enough of a lie-in.

Let us know!!!!

I have just wet myself laughing, oh my God, thank you, ohhhhh, tears still rolling, ahhhh, right......

he din't stay!

Sorry!

He was in the pub all night and they did their own things.

He'll stay tonight though.

We're all going out clubbing. I'll be leaving first and then those 2 will probably fall out of the club when my man has packed his records up and the lights are on. So about 5amish. And they'll both be smashed and very tired at that point. So if he wakes up and runs off tomorrow morning, well we've got trouble.

Sorry to keep you waiting.
I have rung the gooneress who is washing up and can't log on at home so I'm the middle man for now.
She says she's really, really sorry and hopes to have something for you all soon.

Although what are we going to do when we know?

You lot are hysterically funny.
Logging on in the middle of the night at a conference centre and thinking of it as you open your eyes. .........
Ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, off here come the tears of laughter again, honestly, you're all deliciously mad
I think you're all great! TC x

This is going to be so much of an anticlimax (snurk) when we find the answer.

Ha haaaaaaa, it is isn't it!

Please make up something exciting if it turns out to be very dull.

we have been in london all day and are due to go out again in a mo

but I said to DH that I wanted to know what had happened before we go

And nothing

So will have to wait again

... and that's pretty much what happens before he goes too, nothing.

snort!

thomact
you can go off people.

Sorry mate. Hopefully we'll have something for you tomorrow.

i have only just had time to read this thread and its soooooooooooooo funny, thankyou all, i mean all, isn't life good sometimes!
good luck gooneress
i take it you're watching the match?
xx

AAAAAAAAARGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH

Am going to have to find an internet cafe in the airport tomorrow or failing that in greece. Can see dh being delighted, after a day's travelling with a 3yo "oh am just dumping dd on you and off to fine an internet cafe so I can find out why someone on mumsnet's bf won't ejaculate and then legs it in the morning"

hmmmmmm

Gooneress if you could possibly post early if he legs it I should be most grateful

hahaha countess looking for one of those oh-so-reliable greek internet cafes for your update! This thread is so huge, trying to load it will strain greeknet's capacity.... get a MN mate to txt you when the news is out!
ps: TC, if you made this up, and gooneress is an imaginary friend of yours, it still couldn't be any more riveting....!