No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

[Thomcat]

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

LOL, and origina, I kind of wish the story was made up, not my mate, I'd hate it if she didn't exist. she's posted on her herself anyway, well I suppose I could have pretended to be her, but I promise you the Gooneress is a real life person very seperate from me and sorry to say the story is very much true. Don't think I could have made this one up, it's beyond my imagination!
Let's all hope he stops leaving and starts cuming! LOL! in fact PMSL at that, sorry Gooneress but I know you'd laugh too.

TC what time are you going out n where you going, just out of interest - im surrently 38 wks pg so havent been out clubbing in absolutly ages n need to know ppl still have lives plus will give me something to take my mind off this thread lol

Hi Kelli, I was just thinking I'd start a thread saying I decided to stay in but then though well what do people want to know that for!
I lightweighted out I'm afraid. I was torn but the baby's head or feet are digging in up high and making me a bit breathless and causing heartburn and I'm tired as well. If someone could have got Lottie ready and taken her to nanas and then washed and blowdried my hair for me I would have gone. But as it was D was useless and no help and didn't exactly make me feel like making the effort. The Gooneress and another friend did a good job in trying to persuade me and if D had been more accomodating and stopped playing records and helped I'd be there now, but it's probably for the best. This might have been the last time in a while so it's a shame. We were going to go the Cross in Kings Cross do you know it? Such a lovely club. D plays in the end and smallest room and there's always such a great atmosphere. Anyway here I am while all my friends party without me

awwwwwwww dont worry you'll soon be out there giving it stacks again (as will i at the end of the yr) how many wks are you TC? i havent felt like going out in ages n ages hence the reason i havent plus money doesnt grow on tree's, i havent been to london clubbing as its a bit far for a night out.

im hopeless now i feel so old- tho im only 23 i just have no energy even b4 i was pg i used to need the whole day before and after to be able to enjoy myself while i was out if i had to look after my dd i was just too shattered to go so only went out now n again when my dp's parents would have dd for the weekend (they are amazing) they have even said they will take dd to greece next yr and if we get someone to have the baby they will pay for us to go to a festival while shes away - how nice is that!

will someone who has my mobile no pls text me with the result???

You sound properly, grumpily pregnant TC
Ah, you wouldn't have enjoyed it fat and sober anyway. Put your feet up love!

Damn you all! My fellow students thnk i'm mad and several are currently sniggering behind me. And for what? NO NEWS!

I demand that you call him now and ask him what his problem is.

I wasn't going to be the first to admit checking on this thread.

see you at 2 then. Right, off to do some tidying now!

Ok, still plenty of time for a sweepstake. Place your final bets here............................

I vote: Going for a poo.

I was not convinced at first but the more I think about it...hang-ups about the body cause sexual dysfunction too, so the poo theory explains everything.

he's not going to tell her that though is he?

No, I did wonder if we will ever get an answer. He might own up if he is a sweet but shy type, and they have just had a good night out. I would think most women would find it quite endearing.

Well D got in at 7.30 this morning, as I was getting up, LOL! So if he left with the Gooneress and her man we've got a long wait.
I can't see him 'running' off this morning and after a very long night out like that don't think the other problem will......errrr.... come up. Oh God, could this drag on another whole week? I hope not for your sakes!

Can't you ring her ? The whole of MN is waiting with bated breath...

Snort!

Not if she got in at 7.30 I can't.

D bought me a cup of tea in bed and took Lottie downstairs for breakfast and I thought, oh bless he's letting me sleep a bit longer so got back into bed and fell asleep till9.30. Came down, he's snoring on the sofa and Lottie has covered herself, and the sofa in his cup of tea! Hmmm, great, thanks for the lie in D, hext time don't bother aye! He's still on the sofa now covered in dolls clothes that Lottie has covered him in and she keeps scrunching up her shoulders in a smile and putting her finger to her lips saying 'sssshhhhh'!

Give Lottie a felt pen and get her to draw on him.

PMSL, shall I????

only if you post the photos

Covered DH and a friend in soft toys once. I have a whole sequence of photos as more and more toys were added.

Do this to him TC

pmsl lou

oooooooh don't think could wait til next week

Sure it is pooing {perhaps his mother read weird books about not pooing in other people's bathrooms}

Or going to feed some pet animal of his or someone elses.

Look, if it is pooing, it's not that weird. He may have a very stinky tummy. Men aren't like us!
If the flat/house is small, it's perfectly understandable that he may feel the need for some more privacy.

We built our loo separated from the main living area of the house, so that it is very private, and much more comfortable that way. You can make as much noise/smell as you want without disturbing anyone
People have different standards in such personal matters, and it isn't true to say that it's weird not to want to dump in other people's houses.