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Would private schools expect us to remortgage before offering a bursary?

275 replies

Tootandcomeinagain · 02/06/2026 09:48

Hi - seen a lot here about bursaries and wondered if anyone has remortgaged for school fees - we live in a 700K home (all paid off) in London. Salaries 90K gross. Potential school fees are 12K a term so 72K a year for 2. Would we qualify for a part bursary or would we be expected to remortgage? Do they look at the home first? Id be interested in any bursar views as there have been a few posting?

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AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 11:36

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 11:26

So say :

I am fed up with Tesco food .
now I demand harrods food .

Harrods has bursary. Other fee paying customers MUST share the pie 🥧 ?
my kids now can some crumbles off their plate . But has to stay until 9pm to do some cleaning . ( or even not )

now we are a family of IBS life long condition , we can only eat harrods food , or we will have accidents everywhere we go .
so every fee paying healthy customers who spent in harrods MUST share their pie ?

This is obviously very distressing for you.

I feel you will only be content if your children secure places at the top schools (where bursary will not be from your investment) and is affordable for the school without any cost cutting or sacrifice of standards.

If however you must attend a regular or regional independent school (who are struggling financially and your fees will go into the pot) I don’t feel this would be a good fit.

The government are working to support SEN but this is now a rapid shift in resources so it will take time to ensure all children receive the education they are entitled to.

Best of luck for your family. If you do have to attend a state school I would strongly recommend giving people a chance, you may be pleasantly surprised just look at the success of others at state who have posted above. Look to the majority of our NHS incredibly intelligent, hardworking people. Children can survive, be successful, integrate and reach their true potential. Statistics show, more so than the school, the parental and home influence nurture high achievers.

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 11:42

Expecting a private school bursary for 2 children when you live in a £700k house with the mortgage paid off is a real cheek! I’m sorry - I think it’s greedy.

Bursaries are for people on low incomes, not people who think they’re entitled to subsidised luxuries when you easily have the means to remortgage if you wanted to.

AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 11:50

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 11:42

Expecting a private school bursary for 2 children when you live in a £700k house with the mortgage paid off is a real cheek! I’m sorry - I think it’s greedy.

Bursaries are for people on low incomes, not people who think they’re entitled to subsidised luxuries when you easily have the means to remortgage if you wanted to.

Over Half of all bursaries are non means tested.

Thats the problem with independent schools, not VAT.

Babablacksheep12 · 24/07/2026 11:53

😂😂😂 OP you have made me laugh- no you can’t get a bursary with that asset- cheeky as anything and hilarious post!!!! We could have all paid our mortgages off and asked for a bursary 😂😂😂😂 what a funny post and entitled

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 11:56

Well if they’re not means tested then anyone can clearly apply. But the OP is looking at a means tested bursary. Only on MN do
you see relatively well off people trying to get bursaries.

There are a tonne of things I would try before going down a route of applying for a bursary under the OP’s circumstances. Even moving out of London would give the OP much more money to use. It just comes across as expecting other fee paying parents to subsidise them so that they can sit on their capital which imo, is unfair.

Since the VAT thing, private schools in my town have tightened their bursary criteria right up, also.

AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 12:00

Babablacksheep12 · 24/07/2026 11:53

😂😂😂 OP you have made me laugh- no you can’t get a bursary with that asset- cheeky as anything and hilarious post!!!! We could have all paid our mortgages off and asked for a bursary 😂😂😂😂 what a funny post and entitled

Many of the senior staff at independent schools have no mortgage yet their kids still receive 50% bursary (fee remission ‘discount’) as do their friends, their family, long lost cousins twice removed… Over half of all independent school bursary are non means tested.

There are other posts on here somewhere where there is a link to the report. So OP and the positive responses to OP is common place amongst those with ‘access’ to the administration.

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 12:10

AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 12:00

Many of the senior staff at independent schools have no mortgage yet their kids still receive 50% bursary (fee remission ‘discount’) as do their friends, their family, long lost cousins twice removed… Over half of all independent school bursary are non means tested.

There are other posts on here somewhere where there is a link to the report. So OP and the positive responses to OP is common place amongst those with ‘access’ to the administration.

That’s called a ‘perk’. All jobs have perks.

AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 12:11

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 12:10

That’s called a ‘perk’. All jobs have perks.

When their business is doing well and can afford them. 🤔

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 12:16

None of this is a reasonable argument to justify a well off person with huge assets expecting to receive charity.

MonGrainDeSel · 24/07/2026 12:28

I don't think any of you seem to understand how this works, in a number of different ways. It's really extraordinary.

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:34

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 11:29

Why are you picking up the bill from your £10k council tax? I don’t think anyone pays £10k council tax, and that doesn’t go towards private education anyway.

My full fees are paying for my DC, no one else.

Don’t u know your council tax goes to all SEN kids inside your borough ?????

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:39

AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 11:36

This is obviously very distressing for you.

I feel you will only be content if your children secure places at the top schools (where bursary will not be from your investment) and is affordable for the school without any cost cutting or sacrifice of standards.

If however you must attend a regular or regional independent school (who are struggling financially and your fees will go into the pot) I don’t feel this would be a good fit.

The government are working to support SEN but this is now a rapid shift in resources so it will take time to ensure all children receive the education they are entitled to.

Best of luck for your family. If you do have to attend a state school I would strongly recommend giving people a chance, you may be pleasantly surprised just look at the success of others at state who have posted above. Look to the majority of our NHS incredibly intelligent, hardworking people. Children can survive, be successful, integrate and reach their true potential. Statistics show, more so than the school, the parental and home influence nurture high achievers.

Edited

I have NO issue with state
no issue with nhs . Don’t put words into my mouth .

I just wonder why all scholarships based on merit have disappeared .

now they digging holes 🕳️ for themselves deep enough to invite all calculating financial parasites swimming to loopholes .
in the name of “ bursary “

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 13:46

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:34

Don’t u know your council tax goes to all SEN kids inside your borough ?????

My council tax pays for SEN kids to go to private schools?

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:46

So if u don’t want to give money to hard working kids .

why should I give money to poor kids ?

being poor has financial reward more than working hard ?

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 13:46

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:39

I have NO issue with state
no issue with nhs . Don’t put words into my mouth .

I just wonder why all scholarships based on merit have disappeared .

now they digging holes 🕳️ for themselves deep enough to invite all calculating financial parasites swimming to loopholes .
in the name of “ bursary “

Why would a private school want to jeopardise themselves by giving bursaries to ‘parasites’?

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:51

charitable business rates relief?

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:51

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 13:46

My council tax pays for SEN kids to go to private schools?

Why u ask me ?
call ur council !

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:53

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 13:46

My council tax pays for SEN kids to go to private schools?

Welcome to U.K.

MonGrainDeSel · 24/07/2026 14:03

The vast majority of SEN funding comes directly from central government, not council tax.

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 14:12

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 13:51

charitable business rates relief?

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Would private schools expect us to remortgage before offering a bursary?
AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 14:21

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 13:46

Why would a private school want to jeopardise themselves by giving bursaries to ‘parasites’?

A means tested bursary as per “charitable status” is such a benefit for the school. The candidate will be assessed as gifted. This is morally acceptable. Resulting in meeting charitable obligations whilst contributing to the results of the school.

The greatest cost at independent school is the staff. They can no longer afford staff perks. When they reach a point that they no longer need to annually increase fees for full paying families then and only then they are in a strong financial position to offer “perks” a downturn in business immediately perks should be restructured or removed.

Independent schools are closing and merging due to simple overspend. Staff fostering a champagne lifestyle on lemonade budgets. Unsustainable. Many more regional private schools will close.

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 14:30

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 13:46

My council tax pays for SEN kids to go to private schools?

You begrudge this? The private schools that children with SEN go to are specialist schools which only the most disabled in society would get places at. They also are only available via council agreement. Don’t listen to goady posts. It’s the summer holidays after all 😉

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 14:40

Palomiino · 24/07/2026 14:30

You begrudge this? The private schools that children with SEN go to are specialist schools which only the most disabled in society would get places at. They also are only available via council agreement. Don’t listen to goady posts. It’s the summer holidays after all 😉

No, of course not. I have a SEN DC myself at an independent school, which we fund privately, not the council. I was making a point at the ridiculousness of that poster.

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 14:43

AntediluvianViews · 24/07/2026 14:21

A means tested bursary as per “charitable status” is such a benefit for the school. The candidate will be assessed as gifted. This is morally acceptable. Resulting in meeting charitable obligations whilst contributing to the results of the school.

The greatest cost at independent school is the staff. They can no longer afford staff perks. When they reach a point that they no longer need to annually increase fees for full paying families then and only then they are in a strong financial position to offer “perks” a downturn in business immediately perks should be restructured or removed.

Independent schools are closing and merging due to simple overspend. Staff fostering a champagne lifestyle on lemonade budgets. Unsustainable. Many more regional private schools will close.

Edited

Yes, this is a tricky one as it’s great for staff retention if they have DC at the school themselves. But I do agree in the main.

Ayaboo · 24/07/2026 17:15

Rewaw · 24/07/2026 14:40

No, of course not. I have a SEN DC myself at an independent school, which we fund privately, not the council. I was making a point at the ridiculousness of that poster.

U r welcome . U just realised today that u miss out .