Twins / 3rd preg / termination?

[ForLilacStork]

trying for a third but have found out it’s twins. We have a 3 and 6 year old already and twins hadn’t even crossed my mind.
I have some health issues which terrify me + the anxiety I’m already feeling which are making me lean toward termination, but I don’t know how I’m going to feel after.

atm I wake up depressed, sad and sick (plus being sick ALL day) and just want it be over and wish it would just go away but I feel so guilty because we wanted one kid, not two.

we are fortunate to have family around but I can’t help but think how much are they really going to help? People are so busy with their own lives that the help is short lived.

then there’s the issue of how I’m going to manage 4 kids, 4 schedules, working, husband that works long hours etc
hubby is happy to support me no matter what but would be thrilled to have two more.

we live an easy life right now and I don’t want to struggle (mentally, physically, emotionally, financially) but is this selfish?

I’m also entirely terrified of what it will do to my body + have had two natural births but have already been told I’d be having a C-section which I’ve already had a really hard time processing.

Is there anything that helped you make this decision?

😂 You might need to seek help if you’re crying yourself to sleep over medical procedures which don’t affect you.

Bitter? How? I’m not the one coming onto a desperate woman’s post trying to guilt her into keeping two children she may not be able to cope with. I love my life ♥️

That’s just not true in so many ways. The ‘you can't deny facts’ line is so ironic when you're using emotionally charged language to make a much bigger moral argument. Yes, embryonic development involves early cardiac activity. But it’s sooo different from a fully functioning, viable heartbeat that will lead to a life. And having that cardiac activity doesn't automatically establish that an embryo has the same moral status as a born person or that it’s more important than the woman forced to grow, carry and birth a foetus she doesn’t want. At that stage it’s literally a parasite, reliant on the host to survive. And at later stages, take late stage abortion, well that’s a conversation between a woman and her doctor and I’d still staunchly support it if it was best for the mother.

Wanting one baby at a time is not eugenics its a practical life / health choice based on the reality of everyday life.

Eugenics was a historical movement where groups and governments tried to control who could have babies based on race, wealth or disability, aiming to change the genetics of the human race.

@ForLilacStork only you and your family are going to live with whatever choice you make. Have councelling and talk things through alone and with your husband. You need to make a considered decision that works for you. Don't do through fear. Its a hard decision that one way or another you wiill have go live with forever.

Yeah for me this decision would have been made based on whether I could cope with a twin pregnancy (I'd also had a single pregnancy with complications that are worse with twins) and whether we had the resources to cope with twin newborns. Nothing to do with eugenics.

So being upset at someone else's sadness is somehow a joke to you.
I would be more worried about myself feeling nothing to be honest. That's a bit psycho really.

There’s some right twats on this thread. As someone who has gone through four miscarriages, I will defend a woman’s right to make choices about her own body to the end. Don’t like abortion, don’t have one. OP should do as she sees fit for herself, and her existing children.

As for crying yourself to sleep about abortion @ThisWiseRobin get a bloody grip. I’d be more concerned about the women needlessly dying due to lack of access to medical care. Usually because so called ‘Christians’ are obsessed with policing women’s bodies.

OP, I would advise you contact BPAS to look into some counselling sessions with them. But if you feel an abortion is the best option, that’s ok. Anyone casting judgement on you should mind their own uterus.

@ThisWiseRobin

your internalised misogyny is the only thing that’s psycho.

You’ve got nothing to feel sad about. You’re just trying to guilt trip OP due to your own beliefs. Don’t have an abortion if you don’t want to. Other people’s choices have absolutely no impact upon you whatsoever and your dramatics are ridiculous.

You’ve got nothing to feel sad about. You’re just trying to guilt trip OP due to your own beliefs. Don’t have an abortion if you don’t want to. Other people’s choices have absolutely no impact upon you whatsoever and your dramatics are ridiculous.

WTAF? Are you winding us all up?

I could easily cry myself to sleep every night over the horrific shit going on in the world every single day.

A woman considering an abortion for a very early pregnancy should genuinely not be upsetting you this much. Do you cry every night over the number of actual living children suffering to a much greater extent every single day?

I can’t imagine they’d do that unless the baby had a health condition and you’ve have to
be far enough along to know. Exactly - would he horrendous