Twins / 3rd preg / termination?

[ForLilacStork]

trying for a third but have found out it’s twins. We have a 3 and 6 year old already and twins hadn’t even crossed my mind.
I have some health issues which terrify me + the anxiety I’m already feeling which are making me lean toward termination, but I don’t know how I’m going to feel after.

atm I wake up depressed, sad and sick (plus being sick ALL day) and just want it be over and wish it would just go away but I feel so guilty because we wanted one kid, not two.

we are fortunate to have family around but I can’t help but think how much are they really going to help? People are so busy with their own lives that the help is short lived.

then there’s the issue of how I’m going to manage 4 kids, 4 schedules, working, husband that works long hours etc
hubby is happy to support me no matter what but would be thrilled to have two more.

we live an easy life right now and I don’t want to struggle (mentally, physically, emotionally, financially) but is this selfish?

I’m also entirely terrified of what it will do to my body + have had two natural births but have already been told I’d be having a C-section which I’ve already had a really hard time processing.

Is there anything that helped you make this decision?

There’s a difference between not being shamed by having an abortion, but being ‘proud’ of it? Come on ..

"Stop trying to police their decisions".

It’s a forum. If OP doesn’t want to hear other people’s opinions, then she shouldn’t post here. And if you don’t want to hear what other people might think, perhaps a forum isn’t the place for you.

OP wants a discussion about her options. Not ranting guilt trips form pro lifers.

I’m proud of any decision I make that means I get to continue my life happy and healthy, yeah?

@Loverurarliving01

no one is interested in your internalised misogyny though 🤷‍♀️

Not quite the same thing is it
yeah 🙄

Of course it is. No different to me than having a cyst removed or another minor op. I don’t see it as ending a life or killing a human or any of that nonsense.

You don't get to tell women what to do with their own bodies.

Or, according to you. The bodies of her children she us carrying. Right now she has 3 hearts, 6 lungs, 3 brains, they don't all belong to her.

This is one of the coldest things I have read so far.

They are not children and you have no idea how far along she is.

It is her body and hers alone.

Such dramatics.

I have 4 kids with twins in the middle. I could have written your post when I found out I was having twins. I so vividly remember those feelings. Twins are hard, there’s no getting around that (although as always it depends on the baby/ies). Twin pregnancy is hard. Sometimes twin life is hard! It’s nothing like having one baby and there are times when I worry that they’re being shortchanged. But two beautiful individuals come into your life who will amaze you as they grow into completely different beings. You will find your right path as a family and whatever you decide to do but all I can tell you is these feelings you’re having are TOTALLY normal. In the end we had another after twins. And I can tell you a houseful of 4 kids is very wonderful (and very noisy). Thinking of you.

My comment was not a judgement on the procedure, it was querying the term ‘proud’ in relation to it.
There’s a difference..

This!

"I have some health issues which terrify me + the anxiety I’m already feeling which are making me lean toward termination, but I don’t know how I’m going to feel after.atm I wake up depressed, sad and sick (plus being sick ALL day) and just want it be over and wish it would just go away"

Surely this would be the same with a pregnancy with one child? (Although I guess twin pregnancies have more risks so maybe that's what you mean here)

Termination seems to be fast becoming an acceptable form of birth control nowadays, which is really not okay......Surely you knew that some pregnancies result in more than one baby 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ I am assuming you had a 'It will never happen to us' attitude and to be fair when we went for a 3rd I was rather scared of it being 4 as we would have struggled to cope with in various ways, but would have had to just step up and get on with it somehow if it had happened.... it's a risk you take and if having 4 meant you considering termination then sorry but you should never have tried for a 3rd.

Well of course it's ending a life! When a heart stops beating, that is a life ending. Whatever someone's views on termination, that much is undebatable i'm afraid.You can't deny facts because they make you feel uncomfortable.

Sorry, but you are very selfish. This pregnancy was planned, you are getting 2 healthy babies instead of one. Be grateful you fell pregnant as planned, instead of worrying about how it will affect your life and body.

@grapesstrawberriespleassyou sound like a bitter and not very nice person.

Are they kittens

Last night I cried myself to sleep. Not for myself but for the horror unfolding in this world we live in.
Women, designed to protect and fight to the death for their children are discussing killing the unborn like it's scraping leftovers in a bin.

I hope to God the moderators are brave enough to allow this post to stand because I feel sick and desperately sad for women who choose abortion or who support others who do. I'm sad, not angry, sad, frightened and desperate for them. I know that they will not appreciate this but "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do" (Jesus)

This is Eugenics. Is this how low civilisation has sunk.
As a Christian I don't fear your mockery or your anger. The words I live by in Zulu...
Ubani ongathinta lawa mabhubesi?" ( who would dare to touch these lions)

Please reconsider.

@Rubyupbeat

OP is absolutely well within her rights to worry about her body. Are women supposed to just not give a shit about themselves??

@ThisWiseRobin

you sound unhinged. Get help.

OP never came back, so I'm hoping it was a troll post.

@Sarah2891

why would it be a troll post?

Sometimes people post things they know are controversial just to stir things up. It might not be, but just a thought..

Like the film Sophie’s Choice? I think that would be harder to live with than aborting them both. Imagine the surging twin finding out.