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Pregnant after IVF

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countrypunk · 09/02/2023 14:45

Is anyone out there pregnant after IVF? I'm on an IVF thread but don't want to keep posting about being pregnant when women there are still going through treatment and also getting BFNs.

I had my first round of IVF in November and we got 2 embryos. My first fresh transfer failed and I'm now 5+2 after our frozen transfer.

I'm feeling a bit wobbly today because my symptoms (cramping and super sore boobs) seem to have disappeared, even though I got 3+ on a digital test yesterday.

Just fancy talking to other women who are pregnant after treatment and can relate to all the emotion and worries.

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Feelslikeforever22 · 20/02/2023 17:04

@Purrrrr my friend had this and bled heavily from about 10 weeks on and off until about 16 weeks. She obviously thought she was miscarrying the first time it happened and even though she got an explanation, every time it started up again it was quite traumatic for her. But she had some extra scans just to check and reassure and now she’s 22weeks+ with a very healthy looking baby.
I hope it’s not too bad for you and will stop soon.
And happy birthday! 🥳

countrypunk · 20/02/2023 20:08

@JuliaIVF83 That's amazing. Congratulations 💕

@Purrrrr Happy birthday! 🎈 Hope you're having a lovely celebratory evening.

I'll update after my scan tomorrow. Have good eves all.

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MsSandyToes · 21/02/2023 07:00

@Purrrrr happy belated birthday!

@countrypunk thinking of you today. Let us know how you get on.

MsSandyToes · 21/02/2023 07:03

@Feelslikeforever22 awesome that you had a great time in rome. I used to live just outside it's such an awesome place. I'm off to Lanzarote in a couple of weeks just for a weekend. I'm looking forward to hopefully not obsessing so much too!

@JuliaIVF83 so glad everything went well with your scan. How amazing to hear it and know everything is going well. I can't wait for mine next week!

ali2021 · 21/02/2023 10:25

Very best of luck, @countrypunk with your scan today! Hope all looks great. Delighted to hear yours went well, @JuliaIVF83.
@MsSandyToes I actually have a scan this Friday now! So I'll have one on Friday and on Wed 1st also. When I made contact with my doctor, he wanted to meet me this Friday and is going to scan me. I feel like this wait is so much worse than for a positive! I really am so anxious, even though I've no reason to be. Just petrified it'll be an ectopic, or an empty sack. I think my lack of symptoms is the main reason I'm worrying! But I just keep telling myself that it was a euploid embryo, so hopefully this helps.

Does the worrying ever stop 😵

countrypunk · 21/02/2023 10:43

Hi everyone, it was bad news. The pregnancy has stopped developing and there was no heartbeat. I've been referred to the EPU who will call to discuss my options. I think I can wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally or I can have surgery or take some medication to speed things up.

Devastated doesn't cover it.

I wish everyone all the very best with your pregnancies. I hope I'll be back at some stage. Thank you for all the support - everyone here is amazing.

Love x

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ali2021 · 21/02/2023 11:23

@countrypunk, I am just devastated for you. I can't begin to imagine the heartbreak that appointment must have caused you. I am so sorry. Hope you have friends and family you can reach out to for support xxx

JuliaIVF83 · 21/02/2023 11:24

oh my gosh @countrypunk - my heart just dropped for you. I went through that on my last round so know how you are feeling. I'm so sorry to hear this - it's just the worst.

Please look after yourself these next few weeks.

If you have any questions about the process just let me know - mine ended naturally after I had finished taking the medication.

Thinking of you so much today. I am really sorry and i'm sure you will be back sooner than you know it! xxxxx

Purrrrr · 21/02/2023 11:32

Oh I’m so sorry @countrypunk Sending you lots of love xxx

MsSandyToes · 21/02/2023 11:36

@countrypunk I'm so so sorry. I'm absolutely devasted for you. Take care of yourself and feel free to reach out if you need to vent in anyway. Sending big hugs and lots of love xxx

countrypunk · 21/02/2023 11:50

Thank you so much everyone. Your messages help more than you know xxx

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runningismytherapy · 21/02/2023 13:45

@countrypunk im so sorry to hear your news.
Sending lots of love. Look after yourself. X

Dbop100 · 21/02/2023 13:54

Oh @countrypunk I am so so sorry to hear this, my heart just broke for you reading your message. It's so unfair. Sending you lots of love and strength xxx

Laur0606 · 21/02/2023 14:21

Oh @countrypunk my heart sank reading this. There are no words. I am so sorry 😞 xxx

BH2023 · 21/02/2023 16:42

So sorry to hear this @countrypunk I’m so gutted for you 😢

My positive tests with no symptoms have ended in a chemical pregnancy unfortunately. My HCG was only at 22 by 4 weeks and 4 days. Now just waiting for it to pass.

Life is so unfair sometimes but try not to lose hope. We will get our babies one day 🙏🏻 x

Feelslikeforever22 · 21/02/2023 17:35

@countrypunk that’s so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Hope you have all the support you need and are able to take some time to process this.

@BH2023 sorry it’s a chemical. This really is such a difficult process. I hope the pregnancy passes soon and you’re able to move forward.

countrypunk · 21/02/2023 18:06

Your messages have all been so lovely. They've made me (even more) weepy. Thank you. It's fucking hard this IVF lark, and no one really understands except for the people who've been through it. I feel like I want to just get going on a new cycle immediately after I miscarry but my nurse said this morning that I'd probably need to wait 3 months. Silly I know, but if this pregnancy had worked out I'd have given birth while I was still 39. 40 feels like a really scary milestone to me because I know my chances of this working drop off a cliff then.

@BH2023 I'm so sorry to read your update. It's all so cruel. We will get there, we will. I'll be thinking of you this evening and sending strength and support. Xx

Lots of love to everyone else. Xx

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Laura23FE · 22/02/2023 08:22

@countrypunk so sorry to hear this 😢 IVF really is the hardest thing 💔 I’m absolutely heartbroken for you, sending so much love and always here if you need us x

@BH2023 so sorry to read that it is a chemical x

praying you both get good news on your next rounds ❤️

acaciabluebell · 22/02/2023 11:05

@countrypunk I am so so sad to read this. I'm honestly gutted for you. This is so unfair! You go through so much for IVF and then this happens. Sending you so much love.

@BH2023 I'm so sorry that you are having a chemical. Its awful. I've been there in the past. Sending you love xx

acaciabluebell · 22/02/2023 11:16

Have any of you had a bleed observed on an ultrasound? The sonographer said its not technically a subchorionic hematoma but an area of bleeding. I had a bleed last week and now I have brown spotting again. Feeling super nervous. I've had two scans already now so I feel like I should wait at least a week or two before the next one but it's hard.

MsSandyToes · 22/02/2023 11:37

@BH2023 So sorry to hear about your chemical.

@acaciabluebell glad you found the thread.

Dbop100 · 22/02/2023 15:21

@acaciabluebell I'm sorry I haven't had the same experience as you. I did have a very sudden heavy bright red bleed yesterday (at work 😩) and it really freaked me out as I had strong cramping so rushed right off to the nearest EPU and they found a haematoma. have they said any more info about your bleed or if they will monitor it? Surely if it was something serious they would have given you more info? Still scary though I'm sure xx

@Laura23FE thank you for sharing your experience of basically the same thing it helped me so much yesterday. That's not to say I didn't cry at work thinking I was having a miscarriage before my husband came to get me. Very relieved to have seen a heartbeat at 6 weeks 1 day 💕

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Laura23FE · 23/02/2023 14:01

@Dbop100 its the most gut wrenching feeling isn’t it … you automatically think ‘miscarriage’ when you see blood, i cried ALOT too, I had another little bleed yday but not as much as last Thursday and rang the EPU again and they didn’t seem worried and said only need to come in if I’m soaking through a pad every hour so gave me some reassurance (again) maybe I’m just a bleeder 😭 we have our next scan on Monday when I will be 7 weeks so praying the heart has stabilised as it was slow at the scan last Sunday.. I was only 5 weeks 6 days though so hoping it was just the first day of a heartbeat so that’s why it started off a bit slow ?

So much to worry about constantly 😭🥺

Lucy5yearsttc · 23/02/2023 22:07

@countrypunk so sorry to hear this shit update. It really is the worst club that we’re all in. After my first miscarriage I waited 2 months for the next transfer. I think it’s down to your cycle and mental state so if you’re ready I’d push it. Wishing you all the best for the next step x

Lucy5yearsttc · 23/02/2023 22:10

@acaciabluebell ive had bleeding for all 3 of my pregnancies and only this one did they say it was a haematoma. Epu and my clinic have never been concerned so I wouldn’t let it stress you. Easier said than done I know! Sometimes I think it’s good to know there’s a reason for the bleed too x

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