Hi y'all...
londonboots, sorry I never posted. wrote a long post and then (new) laptop deleted the whole lot. then was busy. then forgot! sorry. will do so now, but sounds like you have loadsa info.
barbs, hang in there mate. i've got a fab book to lend you called '60 minute mother' (you're supposed to be able to read it in 60 mins). it's really funny and just puts loads into perspective...basically it doesn't tell you what to do, but offers loads of sympathy. And says us poor mums are under so much pressure from so many different parenting 'gurus' we end up feeling very guilty all the time (something our parents didn't really have to go through).
Northern Lasses. Have a great time tomorrow. Am . Daisy, I have achieved nothing too, although did manage to clear up the big poo ds1 did all over the living room carpet! And the wee he did on the stairs....