When I reread my post back it says 'made it up to me', I meant physically made it to visit me and the DC.
I know CB, the thing with FIL issue is he is fairly well off but retired and so his ex trying to claim on his finances is pretty out of order as his estate was established by nhim and my DHs mother before she came along (DHs mother has died). DH and SIL are obvipously concerned as it is their inheritance (sounds very materialistic) but would be one thing if their Dad spent it all while he alive but to basically give it to someone for nothing is hard to swallow.
My Dad has bad history. My Mum had an affair, my Stepmother had a mid-life crisis brought on by early menopause and screwed him over, I am hoping 3rd time lucky. Also, somewhat selfishly, I am hoping that if this new lady is going to be involved in our life that she sticks around because my DC were very fond of my FILs GF and she wants nothing more to do with them/us.
ANdy my Mum is a farking cowbag! She was actually a right cow to me at Xmas and then she has come back to set up over here to so say be clsoer to her GC and she can't be arsed to send a card on Leos birthday or reply to my messages asking if she wants to come up half term week, Excuse my language but I am beginning to think 'fuck her'.
Blah, blah, blah (yawn). Sorry for the rant.