December 06: For my first birthday mummy I would like.......

[Indith]

Here you go Eli!

I almost put 'your clothespegs' on the end there. Ds loves clothespegs. Came home from Rainbows the other day and dp had made a deal with ds. He could play with the clothespegs as long as he did it in his playpen and let dp make dinner.

Ooh, I love new threads!

I really would love a playpen, but we haven't got the room, sadly. I have one of those inflatable doughnuts that I can put DD2 into for half an hour of so with some fvourite toys, but I reckon she's soon going to pile-drive her way out.

I was feeling all pleased with myself yesterday as I gave her a pile of soy beans as a snack. She loved them! They were gone in seconds. Unfortunately, they emerged today in exactly the same state as they were ingested. Surely she should be digesting these things by now?

DH and I have just had 'words' (we don't really row), in which he implied that I don't really do anything all day, and my life is nowhere near as stressful as his. I am going to go to bed now, safe in the knowledge that tomorrow is another day.

It's going to come as such a shock when I go back to work

Oh dp and I have 'words' pretty often. He always knows just after he's said it that it was a bad idea. the other day it was getting cross that I asked him to fold the laundry after he got home from work and he complained that he was only doing it because I 'hadn't bothered' No dear I just put the laundry on, got the baby up, fed, dressed, to creche, went to lectures, picked the baby up, cleaned, entertained the baby etc etc.

I think they all know deep down that it is a tough job and that if they were left with a baby all day the house would be a pig stye by the end of it but dp still gets a bit miffed if there is anything to do after he gets back from work. I'm always pointing out that if I'm still going he can jolly well pitch in too!

I am very spoiled with the playpen. the rooms in this house are huge. In a couple of years when we can afford to buy there is no way on earth we will get anything this nice!

Oh thank god there is a new thread! I have lost track with the old one

We have a travel cot that doubles up as a playpen but ds1 doesn't like it. He wants to crawl everywhere and destroy everything in his path

We are still having sleep issues here and I have had about 10 hours sleep in the past 5 days

Me and dh have 'words' often but deep down he knows that I really do sit on my arse all day

I sometimes wonder if in fact do sit around all day and just don't realise it!

Take today, ds was in creche all day and I only had one lecture. Theoretically I should have done loads. I gave the house a seriously good clean but I don't feel like I've put that big a dent in the pile of uni work.

Ah well. As Bp has said, tomorrow is another day and I suppose I should go to bed too but I'm currently working my way through a few fave songs on you tube and enjoying the quiet as dp is out

Ooh, a brand spanking new thread - there's lovely - sticker for Indith.

Eli, hope you're feeling better. And Dd.

Mags, about the sleep. Hope it improves for you quickly.

DG, go and show the horrible woman what for - hooray for crawling.

The salt issue I think about occasionally but I don't add salt to anything so I figure that's the best I can do as it's impossible to feed them any kind of normal food, no matter how freshly prepared, without some salt already in it.

The one single advantage of DH working away is that he has no idea what I have or haven't done all day so I can tell him what I like .

I frequently look around at my house and admit that it does look like all I do is sit around all day. I just can't figure out when exactly I'm doing all this sitting

Naps - did I contibute already? Can't remember, brain cells have died since...but ds2 is still doing a nice one in the morning and hit or miss in the afternoon. He spent his first night in his completely finished nursery last night We had it almost done before he was born and it has taken all this time to get the last bit At this rate we will finally have the house done when we close with the new buyers next summer...

Have you found a new house then jabber, must have missed that? Are the schools much better then?
Magnolia on sleep, it's hard to just keep going I imagine...
dp is sooo much better since we had ds2, it's as though 2 children means I'm working, one was apparently a doddle. So he does his 'chores' without complaint and doesn't say I've emptied the dishwasher 'for you' anymore which used to drive me mad. It occurs to me that he has never had both kids for a whole day on his own yet, the idea scares him

AQ, I have to go away for work for 1 day before I officially start back. DH is taking the day off so that he can look after the kids. Both of them. From 6:30am until 8:00pm.

I'll let you know how he does!

DH had dds all day yesterday. He went to Lakeside shopping centre then to his mums after. He said it was a nightmare. I smiled sypathetically whilst putting a bit of makeup to go out for the evening with NCT mums.

Oh and finally we have cracked the lack of mojo in the margo household

Where has everybody gone?

Was my last posting TMI?

sorry to gatecrash, but wanted to say happy birthday to all your LOs . I posted on the Dec 06 AN thread as daisybump, and although I MC'd very early on, your threads always jump out at me.

I now have a beautiful DD of 23 weeks so have my happy ending

I'm so glad there is a happy ending for you Dynamite. Have you seen the Spirit babies thread? It's very touching.

I'm so sad that you MC'd. x

...now that we have our funny, happy, gorgeous DD, it is much easier to cope with the MC.

I will look for the spirit baby thread.

I remember my DS at nearly one....he was such a delightful little being. He's now 5 and a typical boily boy, although he loves his new sister dearly.

have fun with the 1st birthday parties

Daisy, thanks for the update and congrats on your dd! Do look at the spirit babies thread, I love it.

Devongirl, keep meaning to say hello and welcome back

margo - hurray! nothing is TMI on this thread. At least, nothing we have found thus far.

AQ, just re-read my post and I wasn't clear at all. Have been very tired the last few days. But actually we are going in January to house hunt. With the market the way it is here we figure we'll probably wind up buying the new one before this one sells. but the general feeling is that come summer the housing market will be in better shape so I feel that surely (hopefully!) this one will sell by then. We have found an IB school that we really like. The kicker, I have to get in line the night before to get him in and in March!!! So I'll be there with my sleeping bag and thermos of coffee, I guess.

bp, can't wait to hear details of your dh's day with the kids Can you rig up some kind of videocamara?

Hey Jabber, thanks for the welcome - I'm enjoying being back but I forgot how you have to check at least once a day to keep up! I will try and be better with it!

I have been working since February, from home, plus trying to run the house, look after DS, shop, cook etc etc but still feel like I should do more once DH gets home from work and his eyes flicker over everything. He doesn't mean to, I know that, but I suppose it must be hard when they're out all day and don't see how much work is involved.

Hello Dynamite/Daisybump - hooray for your lovely daughter x

Right, off to decorate the bathroom (it's been an epic - you should all breathe a sigh of relief that I HAVEN'T been poting over the lat few months cos you would have been SO bored with me)
x

Ooo, thankyou, Indith, good title

Daisybump as was, hurrah! Congrast, and thanks for coming to tell us about your dd...so good to hear

Margo, I started reading at top end of thread (ie most recent) and worked back, and was expecting far more TMI than that Congrats to you too, and , think we were on the verge of rejoining the human race when this lot of viruses joined us instead.

No energy at all here, but cough getting better - guess ABs are doing their thing. dd2 now has cough/cold am keeping all crossed she doesn't need ABs As it is, HV has spoken to GP and we have to get her fast tracked back to ENT because of her weight charts - last thing we need is more runs !

Go margo

Hi Daisy - what a lovely thought to pop in and say Hi. Congrats on your DD

Both DDs winding me up this weekend. Need a break. Anyone remember what one of those is like?

Hello Daisy, congratulations!

Margo...TMI? What TMI?

We went to our first 1st birthday party yesterday!

AQ I finally have the back carrier from my mum, it is fab thank you! (but how does the raincover go on?)

Ds pulled himself up to standing this morning But I missed it Obviously getting ideas from little Caity at ther party who was walking around with just one safety finger.

Oh dear doesn't sound like dinner is going well.....ds is still teething and last night also woke up with his eyes totally glued shut by yellow goo and has been spedning his day expelling more yellow goo from his eyes. Dr tomorrow I think. The screaming has turned into silence. I am informed by dp that it is the sound of a baby troughing

Hello to all the old faces, lovely to see you back!

Managed to miss that there was a new thread

We are having a nightmare this last weeks with naps, Hannah has decided not to have any unless they are on me!!

By 4pm she is crying with tiredness and doesnt know what to do with herself, but she just won't go to sleep for me, she is fine at night though.

I just dont know what to do, spoke to the Health visitor who told me to leave her to cry, which I tried and she cried for 2hrs, and in the end I had to leave to pick DD1 up from school.
She will fall asleep in my arms but the moment I put her down she wakes up. Have tried her in the pushchair and she will fall asleep while we are walking but wakes up once we stop.

Am at the end of my tether with her after only a week as I am not able to get dinner cooked without just leaving her to sit and scream at me and poor DD1 is fed up with it as well.

She was having a couple a day of at least 30min each and sometimes up to 2hrs.

ANY help/suggestions, please????

Will she sleep in a sling?

Otherwise I don't know. A few of us have had night sleep results with controlled crying recently, suppose there is no reason why it might not help for naps too. When do you try to put her down? I find ds goes down best if I catch him as soon as he starts to get fussy and is losing interest in his toys. If I wait until he is rubbing his eyes and yawning then it is often too late and he refuses to sleep.

OOOooooooh am all excited, invited a guy from my college at uni round for dinner tomorrow as his baby was due, girlfriend at her parents' as they had a few house problems and he has been getting a hard time of things in college (I would dearly love to kill some people for what they have been saying). Just got a reply saying that he is with his girlfriend and between reading the e mail and replying to it her waters have gone!

Briefly popping in, had the ds's to myself this weekend (which was actually really nice) and need to catch up on work - this is me putting it off..Work work I mean, not the chores which of course are still waiting.
always good to hear of good news after m/c, daisy
Margo, you go girl! Have you been reading Jennifer Crusie? Anyone? My sister is loaning me one tomorrow I haven't read so guess dp's in for a good week!
Indith, hmmmm, didn't actually know it had a raincover and have never actually used it myself. But pleased you're happy with it!
WB, I'm sorry, that sounds horrible, I remember ds2 doing it in the early months but you don't expect it at this point. Is she now eating a lot more, does this co-incide with changes in eating as I think you'd said she'd stopped throwing up so much? Gut discomfort keeping her awake? Phaps post on sleep, sorry no help but

wb - try putting her to bed for naps a bit earlier in the day. I have found lately that DD is exhausted and stroppy about 90 mins after getting up in the morning. I thought it was too early to put her to bed but if I do she can sleep for over an hour. If she missses this because of pre-school run then she plays up and fights sleep. I have been known to take her to cot, bring her down, and take her back again if she is faffing. She does go to sleep eventually.