The fact that you're using statistics about violence to collectively demonize men and trans women is an example of pushing people into getting angry. Domestic violence doesn't happen just to women, and women typically aren't killed for their sex in this country. Women also assault men, and same sex couples assault each other as well, and there's no pathologizing about that. They're simply viewed as abusive partners, but when someone who happens to be a man who hits someone who happens to be a woman. then it's 'violence against woman'. You can see the contradiction in play when the subject of violence against trans people comes up. When a trans person is assaulted or killed, people like yourself come along and say "But who says they were killed for being trans? Maybe it was for another reason." So where does that sentiment go when men hit or kill women? Who says it's because they're women? The fact that it mostly happens in relationships is a testament that men aren't generally just going around assaulting women just for being women. It's not the same as gay bashing.
"Women in the UK have not been killing or threatening to kill trans identified people"
Anti trans people, both men and women, have celebrated the suicides and murders of trans people, whether they personally make threats or not, which was my point. They aren't against violence toward trans people. It's a prejudiced movement. When you trivialize people's trauma and mental health issues regarding their sex as a violent, perverse, woman hating sex fantasy, the way most anti trans people do, then why would you expect anything but a negative response? And violent and extremist rhetoric exists for all causes. Even animal rights activism is full of threats and abuse and at times even terrorist activity. A cause shouldn't be defined by bad behaviour. Anti abortion activism has at least 11 murders associated with it, that doesn't have any bearing on the anti abortion argument or stance. The same applies to everything else, including trans people.
If you're reaction to people who disagree with you is to instantly brand them hateful bigots, then you're the bully in that scenario.