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argh i have a crush i thought i'd left these at the school gates

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nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 17:36

ok basically i have liked this person for about 3 months. he works in a bar i regularly go to. he seems really nice and he has no gf oh and he lives near me too. he even does crazy dancing and uses phrases that i use. it's like we are a match made in heaven haha. i once got talking to his brother in the pizza place but didn't find out til ages after he was his brother. typical!

my way of getting to talk to him was that i was going to message him on myspace saying oh aren't you the one that works in so and so. but on his profile page he says i work in so and so and now i'm out of ideas!!

there's no way i could just go up to him. i always try and get served by him, cos then i wouldn't mind chatting to him whilst he served me cos there'd be a reason but i couldn't just go and say hi. i have been served by him a few times. he remembers me cos when he does he always takes the piss about how much blackcurrant i have in my cider and black. (i know not v sophisticaed but its the cheapest thing in there!)

i wouldn't know what to say. i mean its a bit infantile to say oh i really fancy you isn't it. he does know 2 people i used to go to school with who i could possibly get to drop a hint but isn't that even worse. its like in the playground when you'd have to go and say my friend fancies you. and then there's the fact he's bloody gorgeous and probably wouldn't look twice at me.

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ledodgy · 19/07/2007 17:41

Message him on my space and say 'I was going to message you to see if you were the bloke who worked in so and so but see that it is you as you've written it on your profile! I go there regulary and just thought i'd say Hi.' This leaves the ball in his court.

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 17:51

oooh good idea. not feeling brave enough at the moment but may do it later. if he doesn't reply i will feel really embarassed when i next see him though.

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nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 19:40

any other ideas people?

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Fireflyfairy2 · 19/07/2007 19:44

How about just a msg that says "Oh I go in there!! cool place!!" or something like that???

TinyGang · 19/07/2007 19:48

Crikey I've just peeped at your profile - I'm over twice your age , so dinosaurs and cavemen roamed the earth when I was last in this situation.

But...you are sooo pretty. How could he not be interested fgs woman! Go get him!

Sorry, that's not really a plan of action is it - more of an observation! Probably no help at all

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 20:09

i suppose i lack confidence in that area. no man has ever made me feel particularly pretty or special. at school i was bullied by some boys who said i was ugly and likened me to ronaldinho. i've only ever had 1 "proper" boyfriend. there have been other men but i always think they only went anywhere near me cos they thought they could use and abuse me so to speak. when i look at other girls my exes have been with they have all been pretty which you would think would convince me that they must have thought it was attractive, but i just can't see it. i just can't see why anyone would fancy me of all people.

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electra · 19/07/2007 20:16

I agree with TG. FWIW I understand about having low self-esteem but you have to forget what's in the past. You are very attractive and even though you don't believe it other people do!

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 20:19

now you're making me feel stupid!! i always think these girls that are anorexic and think they're fat need to get a grip but i'm no better am i really.

thing is i'm quite happy talking to people that i don't know if there's a reason to talk to them iyswim. i'm not at all shy in that sense.

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princessmel · 19/07/2007 20:21

I'd just go up to him and chat. Then ask him out.

It used to work for me.

Go for it. You already like him and know you get on a bit.

TinyGang · 19/07/2007 20:32

Any parties etc going on that you could accidentally 'bump' into him at?

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 20:32

i did try that once when i was very drunk. he was in the bar but not working. but he was always in a big group of people and i can't handle that, especially as i used to go to school with 2 of them. it would far too humiliating if he said no. maybe if i manage to get served by him i will strike up a conversation. that would be very hypocritical of me though. i always moan at this one girl who works there cos all she seems to do is chat up men and not actually serve any drinks.

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BillWeasleyBeast · 19/07/2007 20:33

I like ledodgy's way. You could also say "fancy a cider and black?"

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 20:34

no parties that we would be at together. although he lives near me i did not go to the local school so we don't know any of the same people . the 2 people who i went to school with work with him. unless i can get a job there lol....but that's not exactly feasible and a bit extreme!

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nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 20:36

i will offer to buy him a drink if i can ever get him to serve me. but he might just think i', being generous. people sometimes offer me drinks at the pub i work in. i don't usually assume they fancy me!

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princessmel · 19/07/2007 20:37

Next time you see him at the bar say ,'can I have your mobile number so I can txt you? Maybe we could meet up one day' then walk off and leave it for a while. Then go back for another drink and see what he says.

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 20:48

thinking about it, he wouldn't be able to have a drink if he's working. what i really need is for him to be out, not working and for us to just happen to be standing next to one another at the bar.

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nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 21:04

ok so i've plucked up the courage to message him. how shall i end it?

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princessmel · 19/07/2007 21:05

'Next time I see you buy me a cider and black!!!'
Love nappyaddict

nappyaddict · 19/07/2007 21:24

ok sent. didn't put love nappyaddict thought he might find that a bit odd!

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JoMa · 19/07/2007 21:29

oooh, how exciting! you have to keep us updated! and you're much braver than me, well done!

smellymelly · 19/07/2007 21:35

You are gorgeous, and you sound funny, and intelligent too. Go get him, and sneak a photo on you mobile of him on to your profile so we can see him!!!!

smellymelly · 19/07/2007 21:35

make that 'your' mobile.

smellymelly · 19/07/2007 21:47

FGS - have I killed another thread??

Dumbledior · 19/07/2007 21:58

If he teases you about your drink, he probably fancies you!

princessmel · 19/07/2007 22:00

Yeay well done NA!!!

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