argh i have a crush i thought i'd left these at the school gates

[nappyaddict]

ok basically i have liked this person for about 3 months. he works in a bar i regularly go to. he seems really nice and he has no gf oh and he lives near me too. he even does crazy dancing and uses phrases that i use. it's like we are a match made in heaven haha. i once got talking to his brother in the pizza place but didn't find out til ages after he was his brother. typical!

my way of getting to talk to him was that i was going to message him on myspace saying oh aren't you the one that works in so and so. but on his profile page he says i work in so and so and now i'm out of ideas!!

there's no way i could just go up to him. i always try and get served by him, cos then i wouldn't mind chatting to him whilst he served me cos there'd be a reason but i couldn't just go and say hi. i have been served by him a few times. he remembers me cos when he does he always takes the piss about how much blackcurrant i have in my cider and black. (i know not v sophisticaed but its the cheapest thing in there!)

i wouldn't know what to say. i mean its a bit infantile to say oh i really fancy you isn't it. he does know 2 people i used to go to school with who i could possibly get to drop a hint but isn't that even worse. its like in the playground when you'd have to go and say my friend fancies you. and then there's the fact he's bloody gorgeous and probably wouldn't look twice at me.

one problem. he's just told me he doesn't drink. whaaaaaaa

So? At least you know if he likes you he hasn't got beer goggles on!

Come on, it looks as if he does like you, or he wouldn't respond.

oh I would love to have a crush, they're fun

right when i run out of things to say i promise i will ask him. although if he doesnt drink there's not much point asking him out for a drink is there.

Have more confidence in yourself. You seem lovely if he doesnt know it someone else will.

I had never had to aska bloke out but since i became single i have asked out loads, some have said yes and not one has said no actualy.

Why dont you say' do you fancy going for a drink next week?' or ask hm what days is not working first then say it, as you hold you drink in your hand so if he blushes or says no you can walk back to the table and not be flustered.

It does get easier i dont have any problems now but i used too.

also ask him questions that he has to talk to you about rather than ' you alright?' 'What time you working too' etc.

well he's gone offline now. i asked him what pubs he went to cos he told me he was going to the pub tonight. now he's gone offline hope i didn't scare him away!!

I dont think you did maybe he lost his connection mine does everyday.

so if he doesn't drink any ideas where i can ask him to go to with me?

cinema, nappyaddict. or a band. or a gak-fuelled night of lust. goodness, what would you young folks do without us?

we wouldn't get to talk very much though at the cinema or seeing a band though would we. that's why going for a drink would be so ideal. you get the chattiness of going for a meal without the scariness and formalities of it actually being a date. you can pretend going for a drink is just something casual and not actually a date. wonder if he'd mind just drinking coke.

it's bad that i am stunned that a 19 yo doesn't drink isn't it. what on earth does that say about "youngsters" of today.

actually that's why i like a cinema date, it gives you the pre-cinema drink (which on my best ever dates have always ended up with us not going to the cinema), the excitement of the old hand on the leg during the fillum, and then you've got something to talk about if the conversation runs dry. the film, rather than the hand up the trouser leg.

oooh your good. had never thought of that. i dunno cinema dates just take me back to being 12 again i think. and asking someone to go to the cinema definitely makes it a date. you can't pretend its just a casual let's do something for the heck of it thing.

the cinema dates a good for once you've already been on that pre-date and sort of know eachother a bit better.

im just paranoid!

Why pretend it is casual? Ask him out so he is under no illusions - then, if he says yes, you know he fancies you.

i agree with dior (who i haven't seen around much lately and Have Missed). why pretend it's casual? you like him, find out if he likes you and then if it's a no you can take your gorgeous ass elsewhere.

likes you In That Way, i mean. he obviously likes you...

cos by pretending its not a date if he says no my ego won't feel as dented

if he says yes then i afterwards i can ask him (or hopefully he might ask me) on a proper date!

god i swear it's easier being single.

Aitch - I've been here, whinging about my life as usual

NA - listen - yes, your ego will be a bit dented, but you will KNOW. I doubt anyway that he would go out on a one-to-one with you as 'friends', because you aren't friends yet are you? Listen, if he says yes to going out with you alone, he likes you - BELIEVE me. He won't waste his time going out with just you if he doesn't fancy you.

HONESTLY. Now just go for it...

very true. i'm basing this on past dates where i have been friends with the bloke first but that's not the case here.

ok well i'm still waiting for a reply to something i sent him yesterday so if/when he does i will ask him to go for a non-alcoholic beverage with me!

ooooh how exciting. i hope he says yes.

hiya nappy, i have just read thru the thread. I had a crysh a while back, and it really is a matter of confidence isn't it? You are very pretty, and sooooooo young, you have to have more confidence.

I did eventually tell someone I liked him, nothing has comeof it, and i was a bit deflated for a time, but it was driving me bonkers that he didnt KNOW I liked him. So in the end, I thought, I HAVE to let him know.

I have felt a bit rejected, mainly cos of my lack of confidence, my weight, my age etc ( like I'm twice your age), yet I am glad I still asked him.

Good luck, i realy hope you have success. will be keeping up with your progress

Hi NA,

I agree with Dior, just ask him to the cinema then there's none of the worry that he'll think its a friends thing. AND its good that you can't talk much at the cinema as you get to be with him without worrying about what to say.
Then if it goes well you can arrange to meet up another time.

hiya
just got to say that I've been lurking on this thread since it started and am loving it. It's like a really good girlie film, where the two main characters eventually realise they are meant for each other, fall in love, have a bg wedding, lots of babies and live happily ever after! [sigh]
Seen your photos and you are of course, like everyone says, really naturally gorgeous. Unless he has someone else lined up/is gay/is blind/is stupid/is only in love with himself, then I can't see any reason why he shouldn't fancy you too.
Just go for it. If he doesn't respond how you want, then just move on to someone who deserves you. Simple.

Lots of luck

Hi fellow princess, are you loving Jordans new baby's name??

hello princessmel
no, haven't seen the name yet, will check it out.
Have only recently changed over to a royal title and LOVE it. Everyone calls me princess! Should always have been this way, I say! And makes me feel so feminine!

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