I will be reading the full thread later as its clearly an emotional journey...
Meanwhile, can I suggest this process:
- buy a pud from pots & co (from Sainsbury's, Waitrose etc) - various flavours come in different colour pots to co-ordinate with your kitchen
www.potsandco.com/lemon-lime-possett
Eat said pudding (force yourself) strictly to check that your teaspoon is a good fit 
Instead of bleaching tea spoon rest, repeat this process every couple of months to replace spoon rest/build up a charming selection of ramekins