What sexist behaviour would be the most shocking if reversed?

[GrumpyOldNag]

I was thinking feminist thoughts to myself (as you do ), and I was thinking about how this belief that sexism doesn't exist anymore creates a huge backlash against anyone who speaks out against it, which in turn makes people who do in fact believe in equal rights for men and women try to distance themselves from feminism because it's perceived as crazy and unreasonable. The problem is that a lot of it is so ingrained in our culture and society that it is completely normalised, and the majority of people don't even notice it anymore.

So what would be the most obvious, outrageous sexist behaviour, if we swapped the genders? Would it be men being followed, harassed and intimidated in the street, or on the music channel men gyrating and grinding dressed increasingly revealing clothing while women are all fully clothed? Men dancing in the windows of the red light district, or the overwhelming majority of politicians and CEOs being female?

What in your opinion would bring about the most uproar if one day sexism suddenly switched genders?

Sorry if any part of this doesn't make sense, I had a beautifully written OP all typed out and then my iPad lost it all for no apparent reason...

that even when you're on a predominantly male site, all the adverts still reinforce sexist stereotypes, thereby making you look weird and odd for trying to talk about equality, cos it's so obvious that this is how life should be cos the media says so.

Having a group of six superheroes working as a team, five female with various grotesque/bizarre outfits/talents and one male in a skin tight faceless suit with an enormous codpiece whose superpower appears to be leaping into the air in a variety of sexual positions.

(That is a reversal of DS2's fave Marvel Heroes show btw)

Great thread!

Being in a meeting and it being dominated by the women in the room

Those women being the most senior people present

Women routinely sitting next to male colleagues with their legs fully apart, hands back over their heads in a "look at the size of MY package" kind of way

Men saying sorry, I can't make that 9am meeting, I have to do the school run

Men saying "I don't work Fridays, I'm at home with the children"

Boys being discouraged by peers at school from taking maths and sciences as they are "girls subjects".

Fantastic thread btw. Vote for classics.

Men would be expected to remember all family birthdays, including those of their wife/partner's family and organise presents and cards.

"Women routinely sitting next to male colleagues with their legs fully apart, hands back over their heads in a "look at the size of MY package" kind of way" SamanthaJones, I am actually going to do that next time I see a male colleague doing it, or perhaps in a waiting room. See what reaction there is, if any.

I just posted a link to this thread on my facebook feed and it hasn't got a single "like" yet.

This picture however has got over 30,000.

Can you imagine a similar post about cunnilingus?

Sorry, in case you can't read it, it says,

"I heard that your dreams came true. Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you."

Anal. I bet it was anal.

2 men in glossy tight suits planting a kiss on each cheek of the female winner of the women's cycling tour.

Lines of men grinning inanely as they applaud the F1 winners up to the podium.

Men in short shorts holding up cards saying Round 1, round 2 etc. in a Nicola Adams boxing match.

So following on from that:

Talking about female masturbation and sex acts that pleasure women and involve men's anuses are mainstream, but talking about male masturbation or sex acts that primarily pleasure men is seen as a bit icky and not something that men would admit to enjoying.

A man, lips pursed sexily, draped provocatively across the bonnet of a sports car at Paris car show.

Samantha: I've done the chair leaned back, hands behind head, feet on office desk thing when I had to deal with with sexist males at work years ago - it really discombobulates them

Industry shows and conferences have handsome young promo boys working the crowd, wearing muscle T-shirts and tight shorts with company logos printed across the arse.

Sitting on a train with my legs so widely apart that is impossible for anyone else to be able to sit down, cos I've just got to have enough space for my vulva
Crushing whatever fool who manages to sit down beside me but explaining loudly that it has been crushed all day like

Grazia magazine pondering over Poor desperate George Clooney, single and childless
Every week for a year

Instead of female labels like "Katie Price 30FF", we'd hear about male celebrity dick size or chest circumference.

Men would be wondering how to juggle career and family. They would know about basic childhood illnesses like conjunctivitis and following a BRAT diet after vomiting. They would be baking cakes for cake sales and trying to find a green stripy t-shirt for the dressing up day that was announced the day before.

There would be more news coverage about important men's fashion sense and red circles showing the moment that David Cameron's hair blew in the wind and he looked less than perfect for a moment.

Men would be told that they need fillers, lotions and potions to look acceptable once they were past the age of 20. Young boys would feel like they should show as much skin as possible and dress to satisfy the insatiable sexual appetites of girls.

TV shows where a lesbian presenter tells men how to make themselves more sexually attractive to their female partners.

Yeah, enderwoman "Brad Pitt, 40-32-5½-38 poses for the cameras."

A male blogger who posts a masculinist point of view is freaked out at receiving rape and death threats from WRAs. Like Mark Beard, the famous historian, or Laurence Penny, the leftish writer.

Teenage boys sitting in class and saying 'well I can always marry a rich guy. I just need to get some pec. implants and I won't bother with a degree.'

Pec. implants being a thing

Samantha jones. I so know what you mean about male collegues sitting with legs apart. Its so offensive anf unnecessary. When i started work in a male dominated industry 10 years ago all the men in the office i worked in had calenders with topless women pinned up by their desks. These calenders were supplied by the subcontractors as gifts. I remember thinking it was outrageous and feeling annoyed but didnt think i could complain as it was just how it was.

"Ms May, tell us more about Home Office policy on sentencing guidelines?"

"Mr Cameron, brown brogues for the Tory party conference?"

If a young woman couldn't get a boyfriend, posted on hate filled sites with other young women who hated men, posted a video on YouTube saying how she was entitled to sleep with hot young men and to get her revenge, went out and shot 6 people. And then people were saying it wasn't cos she hated men, it was because she had mental health issues.