2 choices commit fraud or be a single mum

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My husband has said as he works away weeks / months at a time I should tell the government I'm single.

Yes he has a good job however he travels a lot and they only pay him a % back.

We have loans and store cards too. Things we have needed rather than wanted. He has a credit card I don't. Our phones are constantly cut off. I've said phones and sky are luxuries and for now we should cancel. We have another year left on our phone contract.

I've spoken on here a lot about our money situation (under a different name) and people have made me feel awful. But I need advice.

My husband is right. Apart from 2 weeks at Christmas. 3 weeks in the Summer and one weekend every2 months he isn't home.

I had a mini breakdown 10 years ago and since then I haven't been able to work. My nerves and anxiety is shocking.
I'm currently having assessments for Aspergers. I've had an assessment for PIP but I don't think I'll get it. I really cannot work but are struggling for money.
My Husband (notice I don't use DH) has said if I don't put a claim in for a single person then he will leave and I'll have no choice. I feel sick. I'm not doing anything illegal. If he does leave I don't know where me and the kids would go.
I'm fed up of being treat like an idiot. I have lots of mental health issues and I just can't cope with life.

Please don't have a go at me. I'm not thinking straight. Thank you.

Would he continue to support and be the main income earner for the family, or would be cut off the money too? It's not about how long he's home for, but that he contributes to and is part of the household financially. So yes it would be fraud if he continued to pay for everything. And who's name are the debts in? Yours or his? If he left properly/ what would you be left with and coping with financially?

It could be possible he's on the path to ending the relationship without telling you.

You claim as a single parent, he turns up even less, gives you even less money as you "don't need it", no intention of sharing his pension with you and give up being able to live a double life.