Journey after miscarriage support thread March 2023

[SMG1992]

Hi All,

I've started a new thread as the other was at page 39.
I hope everyone had a good weekend. I'm still just about in my fertile window - I got my LH surge yesterday.

The clocks going forward has hot me a little bit, but I'm looking forward to brighter evenings.

got everything crossed @mollibu
@SMG1992 hey how are you feeling? Have u had any symptoms yet. I have lots of aching/cramping I had this last time which makes me quite nervous my boobs have also started to be tender and that’s about it so far. Xxx

@VillageFete how are you xxx

@Chocolatebean nothing yet symptoms wise, I know it’s still super early but I’m wishing I’d get something
my frer tests are as dark as control line now and took a cab today which said 2-3 weeks so that’s all on track
I just go through phases of being super chill about it and then panic!
it’s going to be a long few months!

@mollibu thinking of you today, hopefully you get a bfp with the fmu! X

@SMG1992 pretty much the Same here. Because I ovulated late by my period I’m 5 weeks but sure I’m actually 4 weeks 2 days. I’m sooo tempted to do another test to see if it’s gone darker but if the line is fainter I’m not sure how I’ll cope so trying to just leave it. Xxx. Have never wanted to feel sick so much in my life 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

@Chocolatebean with my first the nausea didn't hit me till 7 weeks so never fear! No symptoms doesn't mean anything necessarily!

@YearoftheRabbit23 thanks so much sweet☺️. The pregnancy I lost I had every symptom under the sun and it didn’t work out so I keep telling myself that xxx how are you xxx

Morning guys - wishing everyone so much luck going forward. Hope to see plenty more BFP’s.

@Chocolatebean I’m sick of testing - need to step away! Lines are darker but I know it means nothing anyway! My lines were SUPER dark with the miscarriage and I had a 3+ on Clear Blue.

My boobs are getting a bit tender now and I can’t stop peeing. According to my IVF calculator i’m 4+5 (14 days post embryo transfer)

I’m going for HCG bloods today and again on Thursday as per my clinic’s request.

Just so wishing these weeks away!

@VillageFete ooh that’s all sounding very good 😀. Getting your bloods done will be a better indicator than any pregnancy test, you are literally 3 days ahead of me.
I guess there’s no clues which ones are going to stick and which ones aren’t. I just keep telling myself that if it doesn’t stick then it’s for a reason.xxx

@mollibu how are u doing, thinking of you xxx

Hey everyone - Just wanted to pop back in and say I had my reassurance scan at the EPU this morning and they’ve confirmed everything is looking completely normal this time and baby’s heart is beating!

They measured me as 7+1 and due date 28th Nov.

It still doesn’t quite feel real tbh but I’m sure it will sink in soon.

Sending best wishes to everyone else who is now pregnant again from this group, and to those trying to conceive sending you fingers crossed for the future ❤️

Hi @Fairylight102 that is absolutely wonderful news so so so pleased for you bet u feel like u can breathe a bit easier xxx once you hear a heart beat your chance of mc massively drops 😀😀😀

@Fairylight102 Thanks for updating with the lovely news!
I'm hoping to book in a scan for 3 weeks time which will be just over 7 weeks so hopefully will be in the same boat then.
I'm not sure when to tell my GP that I'm pregnant again to get in contact with the midwife etc, do you think it would be best to wait until 5 + weeks?

@SMG1992 @Fairylight102 yes I’d defo go about 7 weeks last time I booked it for 6 weeks to the day and of course there was just a empty sac and then I had to wait 2 weeks to see if it was viable and then they sent me away for another week. So I’d defo wait till 7 weeks. I’m a bit stuck as I have an appt on Monday when by my period I’ll be 6 weeks exactly or by ovulation I’ll be only 5+2. This is to evaluate to see if I need progesterone as I needed it last time. Weirdly I really don’t want to scan as I know there won’t be a heartbeat this early but without confirming there’s no ectopic I can’t get the progesterone if I need it it’s a bit of a funny one xxx

@SMG1992 I told the GP and self-referred to the midwife as soon as I found out, didn’t see any reason to wait and thought it would be good to start the ball rolling with appointments!

Hope your scan in a few weeks goes ok! I was advised by the EPU that 7 weeks was the best time to come as there should be something clearly visible by then assuming all is going well.

@Chocolatebean That is a tricky one, atleast with a scan they can rule out ectopic and that's all you need to worry about at this stage

Such brilliant news @Fairylight102, congratulations!

@SMG1992 yeah I’m just kind of going to switch my mind off when I have the scan as I know there won’t be what they expect at 6 weeks as I ovulated 5 days late. I imagine they’ll get me back for another scan in 2 weeks when I would be 7 weeks and I’ll class that as my first scan and if nothing at that one then I can worry xxx

@Chocolatebean good thinking, I know easier said than done but try not to worry
I’ve actually had a pretty big promotion with a lot more work and responsibilities which is helping take my mind off a little bit… still can’t wait to break the news I’m pregnant though! 😁

@Fairylight102 Amazing news! Completely thrilled for you. God, I can imagine the “scanxiety” before your appointment.

Technically, I can scan from next Friday (6+1) But I think i’ll hold off until the following Tuesday (6+5) as work commitments are in the way before then. I feel sick evening thinking about it.

I had my first BETA at 14 days past embryo transfer and it was 1,638. Apparently that’s a decent number. Having my second lot drawn today and feeling very nervous- We need them to double!

Congratulations on the BFPs, so lovely to hear this positive news!

I'm currently 13dpo in my first cycle post MC. Since yesterday at 12dpo I've experienced on and off cramping (including some sharp pains) and light brown spotting when I wiped yesterday morning and this morning (nothing rest of the time). Wondering if it's AF on her way... did anyone else experience this in their first cycle?

Sorry to hear about your mc. I experienced the same. It has taken 3 cycles for my periods to be back to more 'normal'

Hi @SMG1992 huge congrats on the promotion it will be good to keep yourself distracted.xxx
@VillageFete oooh good luck for these beta results got everything crossed.xxx
@fleur89 what you describe is exactly how my periods started back as you describe xxx
no news from my side really I suppose no news is good news. I had a major panic last night as had some cramping after I went to the loo. But just have to get on with it dont we xxx

@Chocolatebean 2nd bloods are in, they’ve more than doubled in 44 hours, an increase of 107%, apparently that’s excellent, particularly as it hasn’t been a full 48 hours, so I couldn’t ask for more at this point.

Scan will be next, and my nerves are shot. Seems to be so many hurdles to overcome 🙏🏼

@VillageFete ih wow that’s absolutely wonderful woohoo you scan sleep easy tonight 😀😀😀xxx

@VillageFete if you don’t mind me asking did they do anything different with your ivf protocol which made it work this time. I’m so so so happy for you those betas are amazing xxx