Journey after miscarriage support thread March 2023

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Hi All,

I've started a new thread as the other was at page 39.
I hope everyone had a good weekend. I'm still just about in my fertile window - I got my LH surge yesterday.

The clocks going forward has hot me a little bit, but I'm looking forward to brighter evenings.

@Ttc2023x sorry to hear that, that would have been a tough date 💜

@DmcinT My symptoms haven't been too bad, backache is the worst one. Boobs are a bit sore and very mild nausea but nothing like previous pregnancies. How about you?

@Nmvasey85 for some reason there don't seen to be frers in any shops now. I find the boots early response ones just as good. I think digital might be less sensitive but hoping you get a bfp in the morning

@Hankthehonk similar a bit of backache and boobs. I get the sick feeling if I don’t eat regularly but not nauseous yet, it was deff towards week 7 when that ramped up for me last time (I’m almost 6 now so it could be on its way in time for holidays 😅)

Random thought but we have booked a holiday for end of july. if i was lucky enough to be pregnant by then, it is ok to fly isnt it?

Hi everyone I hope your well. I’m geting some blood tests done before my appointment at the recurrent miscarriage and have a few concerning results: Serum cardiolipin IgG antibody level and lymphocytes very high. Has anyone got any experience with the cardiolipin levels? I had never heard of it until today but a quick google says it is linked with miscarriages

@Ttc2023x Yes it's ok to fly, I'll be flying on Friday this week. Sometimes it can be unpleasant in early pregnancy depending on your symptoms, I flew when 7 weeks then 12 weeks pregnant with my daughter and it was hellish because I was so nauseous! I think I'll be ok this time. If it's a long flight, maybe make more effort to move around.
Some airlines won't let you fly if you're late in pregnancy but that's third trimester.

My update is that I have been referred to and spoken to the nurses at the Sheffield clinic and they have posted my sample pots to test my levels after my partial molar pregnancy, I have to have my levels checked before I can start to TTC, it's so frustrating, it's like a blow after blow, trying to keep positive though, my wedding is in 2 weeks ☺️

@DmcinT only 6 days which isn't long at all 🤷‍♀️ x

@Wanderlust86 great news! That must be reassuring 😊

@Lorddenning1 that must be so frustrating but hopefully your wedding is a lovely distraction!

@Nmvasey85 any update lovely? Certainly could be an early positive... Fingers crossed and have a fab time in Barca!

@Ttcafterlosses I hadn't heard of that either but I suppose the good thing is if they've found something that could be a reason for your loss and also be something they can treat then could be positive for the future?

@Ttc2023x big hugs for you ❤️

@Hankthehonk @DmcinT love hearing the updates. Everything crossed that all progresses well this time - no reason it shouldn't! X

Hi Everyone. So sorry I’ve not checked in for a while. How is everyone doing? I’m going to try and catch up on what I’ve missed.
It’s been a whirlwind for me. Started having brown discharge at 5 weeks pregnant, had a scan and bloods to confirm pregnancy, waited 2 weeks for viability scan and the day before I started bleeding - went for a private scan and To my surprise there was a strong heartbeat baby measuring 7+1. Went for NHS scan the next day who discharged me from EPU.
Fast forward to Saturday just gone and I woke to quite a lot of bleeding again and cramps. Went back to EPU who scanned me and again- baby had a strong heartbeat measuring 2 days ahead at 8+1. They found 2 bleeds in my uterus and told me I was having a “threatened miscarriage” gave me progesterone pessaries and sent me on my way. So for a week I’ve been beside myself wondering when and if I will miscarry as they told me basically with my symptoms it looks that way - even with baby growing strong and having a strong heartbeat! 🤯
I can’t relax I feel like I’m just waiting for the MC to happen or be told at a scan there’s no heartbeat. Never been so anxious!

hope everyone else is ok and hoping to see some more BFP soon! ❤️

@Rainbowdust1993 Oh my goodness this sounds horrendous, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Do you have another scan appointment?

@Rainbowdust1993 so sorry to hear this, no wonder you are feeling anxious. Will be thinking of you and hopefully you get some more positive news at your next appointment x

@Hankthehonk @xxcxdonxx No; they’ve gave me no other scan apps and just basically said if the bleeding gets heavier I can have another - baring in mind progesterone can mask miscarriage bleeding so I wouldn’t even know if I’ve lost or not! We have been having to pay for private scans weekly as I cannot relax, and they’re not cheap as you know 😫
I have my booking in appointment today at 8+6 and I honestly don’t even want to go I feel like it’s a waste of time as I’m probably going to miscarry anyway! Sorry to sound so negative, just feel all over the place atm! X

@Rainbowdust1993 how awful for you. That sounds so stressful and worrying. It doesn't sound like you've had the most caring professionals guiding you through. Did they give you any hope of pretty much said it's inevitable? Sending so many good vibes your way and everything crossed that that little bean keeps fighting on. Strong heartbeat is a great sign.

Booking appointments are quite odd really aren't they. At my last one I had no idea that my pregnancy had already stopped developing and I was chatting away with them about everything. I think any future ones will be quite an ordeal to get through now so I really feel for you. Fingers crossed you get a really lovely midwife who is able to listen to your fears and talk you through things and hopefully be a voice of reason & hope for you.

Let us know how it goes. Sending you lots of hugs x

@Rainbowdust1993 it’s ok to be all
over the place, no wonder! It’s such an ordeal to go through and to essentially just ‘wait and see’ is really rough. So would you not get another scan until your 12 week unless anything changes with your bleeding?
I was so naive to this world prior to my mmc, it’s an emotional rollercoaster and a horrible waiting game.
A strong heartbeat is a good sign and hopefully that just keeps progressing.
Vent away if you need to, anytime 😘

TW: m/c

Hi everyone. I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to post, but I found out yesterday that I'm having a miscarriage or ectopic. They need to do another blood test to determine which and possibly a scan. I'm almost 6 weeks along. Feeling devastated and emotionally exhausted. I'm just wondering if anyone has been through either or these that can share a bit with me. I'm not sure what to expect and how long this will take. I'm bleeding already but not heavy yet and just mild cramping. I just want this to be over already 😔 If it is ectopic will I have to get the injection or can I opt for another option? As the injection I've heard stops me from trying again for 3 months.

@Pinkmoon23 so sorry to hear what you are going through. It's utterly crap as unfortunately all of us on this thread know all too well.

I don't have experience on an ectopic but I'm pretty sure at least a couple on here have mentioned them so hopefully someone will be able to give you a better idea - although everything crossed for you that it isn't that. If it is a MC and you are already bleeding then hopefully it won't take too long for you. Not sure if you're aware but there is a miscarriage forum on here where I found everyone to be super helpful and kind and if you did a post there then I'm sure someone would get back to you too.

Sending you a massive hug - was this your first pregnancy? It's just so horrible to go through but we are all here with you and please feel free to vent and message as much as you need. X

@Pinkmoon23 sorry this thread is on that forum isn't it - got confused.

Hi @Pinkmoon23 sorry that you find yourself here. It’s a horrible time and you are so right about the emotional exhaustion.

I can’t help with the ectopic, I’m sure others will be able to offer some advice and support on that.
I lost my pregnancy at 6 weeks too, I found out about 11 weeks. I found out on the Monday and opted to have a Mva a few days later.

Happy to answer any questions or just be a place to vent xx

@Pinkmoon23 im so sorry, I’m on some other threads here with u and I’m so heart broken for u💔 this thread has been amazing throughout my whole MC journey and if I can help in any little way please ask away. Sending hugs xx

@SnookyPook @xxcxdonxx Well I got to my booking in appointment to be told it had been cancelled and nobody had informed me - can’t help but think it is a sign I shouldn’t be having one - this is my warped brain now after MC!
My sickness has eased so much today and I’ve had so much back pain I can’t help but think I’ve lost baby and don’t know.
Appointment is rebooked for tomorrow at 4pm but I’m going to call the EPU and try get in for a scan in the morning before hand. If there’s a heartbeat I think I will feel more comfortable getting officially “booked in”.

@Pinkmoon23 So so sorry you are going through this. We all know the feeling so well unfortunately 💔 I miscarried in March this year and currently 9 weeks pregnant but going through a “threatened miscarriage”. It’s beyond heartbreaking.
From what I have heard you can have a tablet for ectopic just as you would a normal uterine pregnancy loss, if it’s the methotrexate injection you are talking about, then yes they do make you wait 3 months before trying again to ensure it is out if your system 💔 Speak to them and voice your opinions and concerns x

Oh @Rainbowdust1993 that’s awful. Did they say why it had been cancelled? Awaiting the outcome of the next few weeks or a general error? Either way it’s pretty bad, you have enough to be thinking about.
I’m glad that you have been able to get another appointment quickly. I know booking appointments can feel a bit like an interrogation but at least it will be an opportunity to speak to a midwife and hopefully get some advice xx

Hello everyone,
I’m new to this kind of thing but thought I would give it a try. I recently had to terminate my pregnancy at 6 and a half weeks due to complications. My husband and I had been going through IVF to get pregnant and we got pregnant on the first round. However she implanted outside my uterus and I had to go through an emergency surgery because my uterus was close to rupturing. Thankfully the surgery went well and my doctor was able to save my uterus and said I should be able to try again thankfully. But now my body is going through the normal postpartum things but I don’t have a baby. My milk has come in and I don’t have a baby to feed. I’m wide awake at night but I don’t have to be. My body reminds me every day that I was pregnant and now I’m not. And I now have to wait until my body figures out that there is no baby and it completely heals before I can even try again. And I just want to get there. I just want to start the process now so we can get to possibly being pregnant because I should be right now and I’m not. And it hurts. 😞

So sorry to hear @Rainbowdust1993 @Pinkmoon23

@Shortmuse 😥 i have been through 5 early losses & my only advice is it just takes time to heal physically & mentally, i took some time off work & had a good cry & leaned on friends & family. I hope you get support from GP, i didnt have the best at first but after pushing i was referred to a consultant who has been ok. No explanation so back at the beginning with ttc.

Its so hard & im just sorry you are going through it.

Thank you everyone so much for your kind messages and support. I'm so sorry each of you has been through this too, it's awful. I started heavily bleeding and cramping today. Heading into the clinic this evening to get my Hcg done again so hopefully they can rule out ectopic.

I feel less horrific emotionally than yesterday, still very sad but at least I am out of the limbo hell that was the last couple of weeks.

Do I count today as cycle day 1 in that case? We want to start trying again as soon as we are feeling ready to. Is there a recommended time to wait for physical reasons though?