Journey after miscarriage support thread March 2023

[SMG1992]

Hi All,

I've started a new thread as the other was at page 39.
I hope everyone had a good weekend. I'm still just about in my fertile window - I got my LH surge yesterday.

The clocks going forward has hot me a little bit, but I'm looking forward to brighter evenings.

@VillageFete oh wow!! So much darker! We definitely have a love hate relationship with internet cheapies! Those lines are so good 🤞🏻

@fleur89 Sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your chart and info, it's really useful as I'm also in the first month post mc.
What are you counting as day 1 of your cycle?
I started bleeding on 12 March and had natural mc on 16 March (at 8 weeks) so I'm either of cd26 or cd22 of my "cycle" but my LH levels are pretty non existent and no sign of period yet. I had a negative hcg test 8 days after the mc and no bleeding since then either.
I know it can obviously be very different for everyone, I just want to get back into cycles so it feels like we can try again. Horrible being stuck in limbo.
Good luck, keep us updated @fleur89

@Hankthehonk I counted day 1 as the day I took the pills, my body wasn't responding so that was the first day I started bleeding. The baby stopped developing around 5.5 weeks but by the time I went through all the nhs processes it was 10 weeks by the time I took the pills.

I last took a pregnancy test on Wednesday morning, which was 22 days post day 1 of the miscarriage bleeding. Attached it how it looked - very faint line. I also took a pregnancy test at 14 days and 18 and those were stronger so seems the hcg is fading. I plan to take another pregnancy test in a few days to double check it's completely cleared and then will test just before my period is due in case I got lucky this month.

I know what you mean about getting back on track. I didn't plan to track this month but then thought why not as my daughter was conceived in a 45 day cycle where I ovulated late after the covid vaccine and in the first time we tried for a baby (before that my cycles were 30/31 days like clockwork), then I fell pregnant in my first cycle before my period post-breastfeeding (unfortunately ended in this miscarriage).

Will keep you updated, interested in the pattern this month. Not getting my hopes up particularly but it'll be useful as a reference 💗

@fleur89 I think it's useful to gather all of the data whether you are particularly trying to TTC post MC or not.
It helps make us feel a bit more in control.

@VillageFete That's a great line for 9DPO, really obvious progression - so pleased for you!
It really is lovely to see the ladies on here getting their BFPs after what we've been through. I hope there are many many more to come!

@VillageFete theres definitely line progression there woohoo ❤️.
it definitely took at least 2 cycles for my period to start to be more like they were although my period still wasn’t as heavy
im 12 dpo took a test today and this is it, i only got a slight line at 11 dpo with my mc so I’m hoping this one may have more sticking power even though I had tons more symptoms last time xxx

@Chocolatebean oh amazing! Such a strong line for 12po!

@mollibu thanks sweet, it’s so weird last pregnancy ( the mc) was the strongest symptoms ever I have hardly any this time. Guess only time will tell fate will decide xxx

@Chocolatebean when will you stop testing?

I get what you mean. When I was pregnant before our miscarriage from the beginning I felt awful.. soooo rough! Which is why I'm convinced this month isn't my month as I feel fine.

This is so exciting! It's so lovely to see people get their BFP xxx

@mollibu i was so convinced this month that I hadn’t even ovulated I had a load of wine on Friday ( I took my supplements with it 😂)then Went and tried out a load of exercise equipment on Saturday so bizarre. Xxx

@mollibu With my son I had zero symptoms until a few days after I took the test at 14dpo. Has AF still not arrived?

Look at that line - beautiful!! Please God, all being well (Although so many hurdles to cross) We will be due approx same time.

I’m testing again tomorrow. My FRER line yesterday was quite nice. Praying for progression and I really hope we can give some faith and hope to the ladies still waiting. X

No sign of AF just yet😬😬.

I had a mini meltdown a few weeks ago and threw away all the tests I had left when I was in my 'not testing till a missed period anymore' tantrum 😂 oh I regret that now!!

Going to pick up a FRER today and if still no sign by the end of the day I'm going to test in the morning 🤞🏻

Took my Frer this morning and got the below! 11 dpo! Will take another to compare on Sunday

feeling so excited and happy but absolutely terrified too!
really praying for all of our sticky beans to be healthy pregnancies and for many more bfps to come!

@SMG1992 oh wow this is so exciting!! Sooo many BFPs! Congrats, keeping my fingers crossed for a sticky baby xx

@mollibu thank you so much! I’m feeling very nervous about it at the moment but just doing all that I can

also I really hope that the bfps are not triggering for anyone, I still feel the need for support from all of you ladies as this is very scary and hope I can be supportive back to all of you too!
we all need to take care of ourselves and each other x

@SMG1992 Congratulations! That's a lovely line :)

And no it's not triggering. I am jealous though 😂 I don't think there are many of us left from the original thread now without BFPs.

It normally takes us a long time to get pregnant though so I didn't think it would be happening in the first three months post MMC.

@SMG1992 no it's absolutely fine! When I (hopefully) get my BFP I will still need all of the support from you ladies that I have had since this thread started, stick around definitely! Xx

I'm so desperate to be pregnant but I'm also terrified as I'm not sure if I can cope going through a MC again and deal with the heightened level of anxiety

Thanks ladies
pretty much spent all morning looking at advice on how to avoid miscarriage- I’m going to need to relax but right now my emotions are very high!

I've waited exactly 12weeks for a period, and finally some cramping but only spotting. No full blown period. Anyone else experience a this? I was hoping to be back to normal to then start ttc. But I'm worried my body still hasn't reset itself

@SMG1992 Congratulations!

@SMG1992 it’s not triggering at all, if anything I feel hopeful that this will be me in so many weeks.
It’s so lovely to see all these bfps ☺️

@Baby0523 sorry I’m not much help here, I’m only two weeks post Mva and my bleeding stopped about 5 days ago.

@SMG1992 congratulations on the positive, such wonderful news! Sending baby dust it's a sticky one 💗

Agree about tracking to feel more in control, body is a bit all over the place after loss. My bbt dipped today at 7dpo so I'm Googling like mad. Luckily going to see the in laws for the long weekend so won't have time to obsess so much. Although I packed my thermometer 😂

Congratulations @SMG1992 thats a great line. Sending you lots of positive vibes for a sticky baby 💕

@SMG1992 woohoo massive congratulations got everything crossed sweet. I’m like you absolutely terrified and thinking argh the more I stress the more things are likely to go wrong 🤦‍♀️.
@mollibu any news ?
@VillageFete i reckon we must be within days of each other, I’m trying to not get too excited just in case though sad but true.
@TheBirdintheCave i think you’re awesome and I’m so happy to go through this with the ladies I started both the good and the bad xxx
@Baby0523 that must be so frustrating it definitely took a couple of months for my body and cycles to feel more like they used to be. I’d maybe give the drs a call just to see if they can help at all, I was referred to a menstruation clinic which I thought would be useless but they were great and took all my bloods and were going to do a hysteroscopy ( if that’s the one with the dye) there that day if I’d needed it. Xxx
afm I’m loaded with another bloody cold am gutted but taking it very easy, cancelled my day out to rest up. Am not going to do anymore tests am just going to leave things to fate now if I do one and that line is getting fainter then I’ll just be a wreck. Last time my lines really didn’t get much darker and it made no difference it was just torture so just going to try and be greatful for the days that all goes well. I still have noo symptoms. If I make it to 12 weeks I’ll be getting a stitch for my incompetent cervix so it’s hurdle after hurdle but here’s hoping xxx

@SMG1992 Amazing!! So thrilled to see this. What a beautiful line!!

I’m 3.5 year’s in trying to get this baby (IVF so I know it’s different for me than most) My lines are getting a little darker but I can’t believe i’m this lucky, I’m living on my nerves.

I hope to see many more BFP’s this next month x