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TTC after miscarriage

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Winkle2020 · 02/01/2020 17:19

Hello Ladies

Please give me some hope and confidence. I have been through a miscarriage recently. Had d and c and then retained products. Had to wait for my first af 9 weeks after d and c. Now in the last scan I was told that almost everything is gone except that of a very very small 8mm tiny bit left which will eventually come out in the next cycle. Doc has asked me to wait for just one more cycle to ttc. Somehow in the length of this whole episode which dragged for 3 months now, I feel very hopeless and scared to death about ttc. I really want to hold a baby and have a second child. I sob everyday endlessly alone. There is no one to talk to, I have no sibling or close friends and lost my mother 2 years ago. I am a full time working women and it takes a toll on my emotional health. I am terrified and abosultely scared to death to go through this emotional pain again. When I was going through miscarriage this forum has been my single strong support and I have come back again to get some hope from you lovely ladies. Please help

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Trying93 · 29/02/2020 09:35

@dm14 how you getting on? Did AF show up?

dm14 · 29/02/2020 14:56

@Trying93 yes 😞 I feel like giving up now. I'm going to book a holiday and stop worrying about getting pregnant now and if it happens it happens. It feels like my life stopped while trying I don't know if anyone else felt like this?
How's everyone doing? Xx

Trying93 · 29/02/2020 16:20

@dm14 that's exactly how I feel. That's why I deleted my apps and im just goin to dtd when we want. No counting days or doing opks for a few months. Everyone says when you chill out and stop trying it happens. I dont even know if I know how to do that but I'm going to give it a go.

A holiday sounds fab!! Where you thinking of goin?

Katy0000 · 29/02/2020 17:00

You two sound like you have the right idea.
I've totally felt like my life has been on hold..for almost a year now! Definitely need to find other things to look forward & try to enjoy & hope for the best in the meantime!

dm14 · 01/03/2020 10:34

@Trying93 we both love Orlando! We have family in Florida so we are thinking of booking two weeks of just theme parks and beaches 😍 xx

Trying93 · 02/03/2020 19:59

@dm14 that sounds amazing!! Im so jealous, I'd love to go to Florida

Trying93 · 03/03/2020 08:01

Was chatting to a colleague at work last night who was telling me about a friend of his. The friend had a miscarriage and ended up with a blood clot due to this. She and doctors werent aware and the clot travelled to her brain and caused her to have a stroke. Unlikely that she will ever be able to return to her current job and she has communication issues which they arent sure she will fully recover from. Only in her mid 30s.

Such a sad story but it really puts things into perspective. Dont realise how lucky you are sometimes until you hear a story like that.

dm14 · 03/03/2020 09:56

@Trying93 oh no!! So sad! There is always someone in a worse situation I suppose. Life is cruel!! Xx

LittleGem638 · 03/03/2020 16:52

Advice needed ladies!
My period is due today and nothing so far so just thought I would do a test as my intuition was telling me something was different.
Am I fooling myself or is there a very faint second line?
Dont know what to think, dont want to get my hopes up Sad

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Trying93 · 03/03/2020 18:22

@LittleGem638 I defo see a line and I wouldnt say its faint. Congratulations on your BFP. Over the moon for you

LittleGem638 · 03/03/2020 18:33

Thanks @Trying93 I dont know what to think, I'm so happy but also on the other hand dont want to believe it's true incase I'm imaging things. I'm going to do a test in the morning and hope its darker so I can convince myself!

dm14 · 03/03/2020 18:41

@LittleGem638 I see I faint line too fingers crossed for you!! How long have you been trying since your MC? Xx

Katy0000 · 03/03/2020 18:52

Wow little Gem..believe the test! There is a line however faint.Was it a first thing in the morning test?

LittleGem638 · 03/03/2020 18:54

No @Katy0000 I did it this afternoon when I got home from work, I've drank a lot of water today too

LittleGem638 · 03/03/2020 19:30

@dm14 thank you, my mc was in december so 2 months xx

Trying93 · 03/03/2020 20:02

@littlegem638 honestly looks positive. Do one tomorrow morning so your sure and keep us updated

Katy0000 · 03/03/2020 20:19

Ok so its bound to be faint..I bet you can hardly wait till morning! So exciting x

LittleGem638 · 03/03/2020 20:21

I just want it to be morning now haha, I dont think I'll sleep much tonight...
I will keep you all updated tomorrow

Katy0000 · 03/03/2020 20:39

Thankyou! Look forward to it..
Our first good news on this thread 👍🏻x

dm14 · 04/03/2020 09:58

@LittleGem638 any updates? I'm excited for you! Keeping fingers crossed for you would be nice to see good news on here ✨

LittleGem638 · 04/03/2020 10:03

Hi guys, did another cheap test today and the line has gotten stronger (I used morning wee). I am thinking of going to get a clear blue digital test today

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Katy0000 · 04/03/2020 10:20

Your pregnant little Gem! Congratulations.
Do you believe it now?x

LittleGem638 · 04/03/2020 10:49

@Katy0000 thank you! I do believe but I think I'm in shock, I am so happy but so nervous and so is my OH xx

dm14 · 04/03/2020 11:04

@LittleGem638 Congratulations this gives me hope ✨

LittleGem638 · 04/03/2020 11:12

@dm14 thankyou! I hope I'm not being insensitive by posting about this on here but I just felt like I couldnt talk with anyone else about it because I dont think they would get it