FET / IVF August 2023 - thread 2

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We filled up the first thread fast!!

@Belle26 as posted in the other chat it's a negative for me ! My last time at the clinic this morning and I drove out feeling very sad but looking forward to the future! X

Aww I'm sorry to hear that. Wishing you all the luck with the future 💜

Totally, I feel like it's going to be a whole 9 month anxious wait. And then more worrying when the baby is born 🫠🙈
I'm 4+4 wks today so fingers crossed its all fine

@Belle26 it's the end of the road for me with fertility treatments but I'm glad I've done it ! X

I’m so sorry @Pinklady81 💔

The talk about donors is interesting. I will definitely do two rounds with my own eggs but after that would consider donor.

I'm on the TWW, OTD on 21st, currently 10dpt, 5dt.
I did cave and tested yesterday using a FRER, it was a big fat negative! Had a huge cry to myself and felt gutted! I'm holding onto the hope it's a late implanter, but it's not looking great.

I really struggle with guilt around feeling I shouldn't be upset as I have a son from my last round. I really thought, I'd be able to cope better due to having success previously, but it's still such a gut wrenching blow seeing a negative test. It took is 5 years of ttc naturally and with clomid before we tried IVF the first time. Seeing that negative brought back all those negative tests!! Really trying to be positive, as we do have 2 more frosties in the bank yet.

It's such a bloody hard journey isn't it?! Roll on OTD!! Either way all will be well!

Sorry! Rant over!!

Really hope everyone is coping okay!

@Hopingforno2in2023 when is your OTD? I've tried to consider donor but I don't think I can do it so for now I need some form of life back and try to focus on me x

Also, congratulations to all those nesting those little embryos and heartbeats 💓

@Justkeepmoving1234 i am sorry about the BFN. I also have a DC already and feel so lucky for that but it is still so hard. I feel that secondary infertility is different but still tough.

My cycle was cancelled @Pinklady81 due to COVID so I am waiting for my withdrawal bleed. Should start my cycle again in October. We have paid for two cycles with own eggs through Access so will definitely do those. I completely understand why people don’t want to do donor but I think I would be ok with it. I really wish you so much happiness for the future ❤️

Clinic has just called it's a negative for me! All my prayers are with you@Belle26 @ttcsolomumtobe x

@Pinklady81 I'm so sorry to hear of the negative, I do hope you manage to enjoy your holiday and see how you feel from there, sometimes we just need a time away from TTC/treatments and then feel able to come back.

I'm okay, little worried as having some faint pink blood when wiping in the last few hours just trying to stay calm

@Justkeepmoving1234 I'm sorry to hear of your BFN yesterday, fingers crossed it is just late implantation. Defo feeling the pressure more now as getting close to OTD, mine is 21st

Thanks for adding me.

Im 38 and no children, have had 3 back to back egg collections (embryo banking), no fresh transfers or frozen transfers yet. It hasn’t really gone to plan…we had lots of “good looking” embryos that went for PGTA (first EC 8, second EC 9) but the majority were abnormal so only 2 in the freezer so far.

Embryos from the third EC on the 4th of August (8) have been sent, so waiting for the results and I’m really hoping for frozen transfer in September.

Feel very much a pro at the collection but have no idea about the transfers.

Waiting for PGTA results (another 10days)
Waiting for AF (early September)
Waiting, waiting, waiting

@ASGIRC Ah I see. Sorry I didn't realise you were in Portugal, I thought you were UK with your mention of NHS. Sorry! Good you have so many booked. Fingers crossed.

@Ellenn Those are great levels!!! it is doubling, which is what you need!
i was saying on another group yesterday, the actual values are not a good indicator. Which is why they give such wide intervals.

@Ellenn That's awesome!!! I'm not sure you saw my other message, but I listened to a podcast episode with one of the professors from TFP, and he said it doubles ever 2 to 3 days, so people think if it's not doubling every other day it's bad, but it's actually 2-3 apparently! Hope that brings some reassurance

@Ellenn so wonderful hearing positive tests/stories!!!

I just had my beta results, my levels are at 1222 which is way higher than I expected! And booked my early scan for 6th September ☺️

@Pinklady81 ah i'm so sorry lovely! It's never easy, made even worse when you're so invested and been through everything we all have. Sending love and support! Remind me - you have another frostie don't you from this round? Sending a lot of luck, and the holiday will do you some good. Just hope your period doesn't come while in a pool! 👀🙈

@Justkeepmoving1234 @Hopingforno2in2023 I don't think either of you should feel guilty for feeling upset, even though you have a child. It's easier in some respects, but also with it brings so many other challenges, like having to put on a brave face and act like normal when they want to play and you don't feel like it! Infertility at any stage is shit - be that primary or secondary.

@Justkeepmoving1234 I read something once about how your body only want's the 'best' child for you, so any embryos that aren't up to it's high standards, it turfs out and wants a better one for you, and it wants only the best embrybaby for you, and that it's on your side with it all. I dunno, bit wishy washy, but something felt really calming and nice around that theory. Anyway, I hope it helps. And hey, it's not a negative until test day, so hold on to some hope, but equally you're prepared either way. If it's not the result we all want for you, hopefully it's not too long of a wait until you can look to do another FET when you feel ready x

@GCS34 I do have another frostie a 4cc from my first round but don't think it worth the money or heartache transferring it with such low quality ! Anyone else when did you get your bleed after progesterone is stopped? X

Thank you for tagging me in the new thread ♥️
I haven't caught up at all. I've just come home from egg collection. Narrowly escaped being admitted to hospital so will see how the next few days go 🤞

Great news @Belle26!

Well done on your EC @IVFKinster, I hope you stay well!

I just received a phone call offering me a job (have been a SAHM since 2021). It is a dinner lady job in a primary school so term time only and within the school day. Will hopefully be able to fit IVF appointments around it as it is 2.5 hours a day.

Thank you @Hopingforno2in2023
Congratulations on the job!

Welcome back from the best sleep ever @IVFKinster How many did they get - did you get a total? Mostly it's people's journey summaries, and 2 positives, and 1 negative unfortunately. Hope you're not too sore. What happened with nearly ending up in hospital? OHSS?

@Belle26 wow that's incredible! Better than the 300 you wanted 😅Congrats! Are you further along than you thought? Or is that still the same? Exciting for the 6th - is that your 7 weeks?