The Listmakers World Cup: Slatterns 4 - Areas of Doom 1!

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Welcome to the new thread everyone

All newbies and lapsed members welcome!

Need a kick up the bum or a shoulder to cry on, this could be the thread for you.

He did explain and its far too complicated to explain on here why he did what he did. The fall out has been a real eye opener too. Now I know who our friends are and that turns out to be 4 out of everyone we know.

The kids are ok-ish. The tantrums have got worse and that is to be expected. Daniel has taken it the hardest and I knew he would. He doesnt cry but he has reverted to acting like a 2 year old again.

Sorted out Income Support the other day and she said that, she can see I didnt want to be there and didnt want to claim, but she understood that I needed to be with the kids through the holidays as a) they need me right now and b) I cant afford the childcare. I said to her if this had happened a while ago I would have had time to save up for the child care and found somewhere, but with 3 weeks until they break up, it's too short notice.

I hated explaining it to her as everything I was saying sounded to me like a really pathetic excuse. The second they are back at school I'm getting the hell off this and I'm back at work. How the hell people can live like this I have no idea. If you have no choice then fair enough, but you know what I mean.

JKS, I'm sorry that you have had a bad day. It's annoying when people say that your children should be doing this that and whatever at a certain age. It annoys the hell out of me. I cried when the first teacher told me he was hard work and was useless at everything and for that entire year during reception i had to pick him up at lunch because she couldnt be bothered with him. Now he is a year behind everyone else all because she wants an easy life and think kids should be mini adults and do as they say when they are told to. He's been fine with the other teachers he's had. Even the school admitted he wasnt delt with in the right way during reception.

I will not even look at that teacher now. Nevermind talk to her. Every year she picks on one kid and those parents have a year of hell.

Freak - Bloody hell, what an arse. Sounds as though you are well shot of him. Piss him off completly and get another phone, or get a sim card PAYG for now for your network. It's only a tenner but it's one less thing for him to hold against you. He sounds like a bit of a control freak and lazy.

Mini - do a raspberry and apple crumle.

Thats something else knocked off the list.

Ipom - that is very brave of you to open communication and even be thinking about putting your trust in him again. I really really hope that it works out for you.

JKS - at the gowns etc!
That is really harsh about DS2, you would think people would learn to be a bit sensitive in that line of work. Just try and hold on to how much you know he has improved over the last few months. (((hugs)))

Freak - he sounds disgusting, thank goodness you saw the light and got out of there!

Will post a list in a minute, we are celebrating DH's new job today because all the paperwork came through There are bubbles in the fridge and DH has gone to Sainsbury's with DS to get steak and chocolate puddings I am having 5 minutes peace and quiet.

Mini - the secret to the sparkliness (sp???) was that last night I was bloody pissed off about the whole wedding/brother/bridezilla thing so I took my anger out on the kitchen. Having done that it actually only took me 45 mins to tidy/hoover/dust/polish the rest of downstairs. It already looks a mess again - grass and sand and toys everywhere

Thanks Ali - This is his second and final chance and he knows it. I have to work on my own issues in the relationship as I havent been perfect either. As long as we both make the effort and try to continue to do so. We should be fine.

He knows what I want from him and I know what he wants from me and none of it is unreasonable.

I love those days where you clean when pissed off - everything gets done like magic as it takes so little time.

Today

Cleaned and swapped my wardrobe with The Sparks
Cooked
Pots
Washed 2 loads
Drying 2 loads - ongoing
kids washed - done
in bed - in 20 minutes and counting

Tomorrow
Get off my arse and clean the house that I havent done for a week.

House is now a filth pit again, been out and about rather than cleaning (I think it may be the peacock effect of ovulating, have noticed when I am ovulating I feel the need to be out of the house -attracting-- a mate).

Probably nothing a tidy and hoover won't sort though...

Fit man count (I have stolen mini's moth count for my own purposes!): 1 but he is a preschool dad so let's not go there

Good news about the job paperwork ali, have fn celebrating.

Ipom I was trying to get a new phone so I could be on a network where I actually had signal rather than the network he wanted me to be on but I really don't want to have to change my number if I can avoid it.

And yes the IS thing is shit but I keep telling myself that at least I have a plan to get back to work by a certain point,even if it isn't immediate.

Hi everyone

I have been a useless cow these last 2 days with the housework, I've just been in a what's the point mood, it's a endless cycle of washing, cleaning etc etc. I really need a holiday!!

IPOM My housekeeping skills are so much better when I'm angry. Maybe I need someone to piss me off to get me off my backside and do something!!

Alice have a good day!!

I've forgotten what else I wanted to say!!

Have decided to stuff tidying up and start a fresh tomorrow hopefully I will do better than today.

Friday
Breakfast
All washed and dressed
Clean kitchen post breakfast
Make beds
School run
Put guinea pigs in run
Collect up the many stray items and put in correct place
Clean bathroom
Hangout washing
Run DW x 2
Run WM many times!!
Fold clothes and put away
Hoover through
Return raffle tickets and money to school
Brother and SIL visit 12ish
Pick up DD from nursery
Plan something simple for dinner
Lunch
Clean kitchen post lunch
School fete 4pm
Dinner
Clean kitchen post dinner
Bath/wash DD and DS3
Story and put to bed

freakoid I fancy my DH more when I'm ovulating, then I ignore him for the rest of the month

Rainbow - ditto !! (esp when ttc....!)

Ipom - i hope it works out for you both i really do.

The assessment thing peed me off, really she should have started at the bottom and worked up but she tried to start somewhere around a normal 2 year old level then had to backtrack. I mean i know he's not developmentally on track, i'm not stooopid!! But he could've been handled better.
Was funny when she was asking about whether he is getting any OT help (in a worried he needs it sort of way) and i said no, she discharged him last week !!

Thurs:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DH to work early DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch DONE
• to SN centre for development check for DS2 DONE
• then Speech Therapy Postponed
• rush to pre-sch to try and get there for DS1's Leavers Assembly (nanny meeting me there so she can watch if we're totally late and tell me all about it!) DONE
• home for lunch DONE
• tidy kitchen DONE
• DS2 nap DONE
• shopping arriving 2-4 & put away DONE
• chilled afternoon at home/have texted friends with chicken pox DONE (they came & it was fine)
• boys tea DONE (freezer meals + veg, they ate all of it yey!)
• boys to bed DONE (but still awake)

• DH home DONE
• our dinner Chinese

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register; Find another one that is taking on NHS patients
• upload & order online prints Started-Done More
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door - Autumn job really
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Done3More
• put cds onto DH's pc, then they can go into loft with others
• make my playlist
• clear my iPhone of music, reload with just my playlist
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 - Have Name Of School; HavePhoneNumber
• sort out holiday in August to Jersey; hire car (+ seats) - call Opodo re seats
• repot sunflowers
• go through diaries with DH (he's given me a printout for this week)
• see if high chair will fold flat enough to put in bags and then in loft HaveFoldedIt! yey!!
• eBay listings 12/13 Done

I have done a bit more. Followed by a nice glass of wine in the garden. Lovely garden honeysuckle, roses.AHHH ..relaxx... Thats better.
List
pick up hedge trimmings SOME
think of recipes for using raspberries
DH admin some
CC amendments some
Office -4 star area of DOOM
garden bonfire -goody goody
tidy everywhere
Tidy my shed
hoover moth areas
check spare room for moth, getting urgent
think about decorating
plan some time to do some of above
student portfolio
PG day2 prep some
sort dates for COH
do med. fliers/email
magazine rack mini DOOM area

hello

Ipom - hope that things pan out well with DP.

JKS - how awful for you. Can you have another assessment with someone a bit more positive? Complain to practise manager etc.? I went to different MW and HV's after having bad experiences with both and it made life sooo much better. I also had DD in totally different hospital to DS after crap experience and was so glad I did.

Mini - you are doing really well! We are going to the zoo tomorrow at Clwyn-bay with playgroup. Hope weather is good.

Did a few things today but have been ignoring usual domestic chores in favor of tasks that never get done.
DD went to childminders on her own for trial run and it went well. She is smiley again so must be feeling better.

Pick up laundry DONE
Clean window with mould on in bedroom DONE
Sort out bottles under sink and throw some away DONE
Clean inside wardrobe and re arrange piles of shoes DONE

Up and breakfasted
Clear away breakfast things
Walk or gardening
Vitamins
Rubbish out
Recycling out /plastic DONE
Lunch for me and DD
DD for nap
Open windows
put washing on DONE
put washing to dry DONE
Washing in, folded and put away
tidy kitchen
empty dishy
dishy filled and on
admin/filing/post
dinner
bath DD/DS
DD /DS to bed
tidy bedroom
put toys away in lounge
feed cat
Water plants

Extra stuff
Make cutlery tray fit into cutlery drawer DONE
Post off accounts info
Send meter readings/direct debit form to BC
Buy mould resistant paint
Book party for DS DONE
Update diary DONE - bought new one
Get car windscreen fixed re-arrange

Ongoing
Write nursery donation letters
Buy new address book DONE and fill in
new curtains/black out blinds for DS's room - measured up
New curtains for our room
Measure for carpets upstairs
Paint summer house/greenhouse

HMHB - normally i might ask for someone else or a repeat test, but i guess overall it doesn't really matter.
If next time he appears to have 'shot up' in some areas when i know he could do stuff now it doesn't matter. It's more just to check he is still moving forward which he is. But i cannot accept that his hand-eye coordination is that of a 7month old to be quite frank, think she is nuts

Fri:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch DONE
• nanny & DS2 to playgroup Gone

• DH & me to speech training course
• DH to work
• home, order tickets for Room on The Broom show (need 11)
• other jobs?
• pack lunch/snacks/drink/suncream/etc.
• collect DS1 & go straight to farm to meet friends
• home for boys tea (?)
• garden time
• boys bath & bed
• wine in garden:?
• our dinner & early-ish night

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register; Find another one that is taking on NHS patients
• upload & order online prints Started-Done More
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door - Autumn job really
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Done3More
• put cds onto DH's pc, then they can go into loft with others
• make my playlist
• clear my iPhone of music, reload with just my playlist
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 - Have Name Of School; HavePhoneNumber
• sort out holiday in August to Jersey; hire car (+ seats) - call Opodo re seats
• repot sunflowers
• go through diaries with DH
• see if high chair will fold flat enough to put in bags and then in loft HaveFoldedIt! yey!!
• eBay listings 12/13 Done

Morning

Ipom have only vaguely been aware of the situation with your Dh, but is it possible that he is having a midlife crisis? Something i never really believed in, but over the last couple of years people i know have gone through serious blips when the DH starts acting completely out of character. Lasts a couple of months, then they act normal again. Unfortunately the damage has already been done and it takes a while to pick up the pieces. You sound very much in control and strong. I hope all goes well for you and your family.

JKS at stupid assessment people.

Fab day yesterday, sunburnt but a really good day. Was lovely to spend time with family, but minus the kids iyswim?

Should have a list really, but will probably come back once i have done some stuff.

Morning all. blleeeuuugggghhhhhhhh the weather here is MISERABLE!!!!!!!
Hope it is better for you HMHB for the zoo!

After breakfast etc

need to go to bank
go to cake shop
Tesco

organise to meet up with ds's friend

Morning everyone

HMHB Enjoy your trip to the zoo!!

Sorry about the weather plum, I won't tell how sunny it is here!!

DD was sick this morning so have kept her off nursery and now she is snoozing on the sofa. Not sure what to do about the fete now, all the others want to go but I don't want DD to spread her bug around, if thats what she has.

Right off the clear the bombsite of a kitchen!!

Breakfast done
All washed and dressed done
Clean kitchen post breakfast
Make beds done
School run done
Put guinea pigs in run done
Collect up the many stray items and put in correct place
Clean bathroom
Hangout washing done
Run DW x 2
Run WM many times!!
Fold clothes and put away done
Hoover through
Return raffle tickets and money to school
Brother and SIL visit 12ish
Plan something simple for dinner burgers at fete
Lunch
Clean kitchen post lunch
School fete 4pm
Dinner
Clean kitchen post dinner
Bath/wash DD and DS3
Story and put to bed

Morning

Very lazy here this morning, I drank too much last night

DONE
All up
Breakfast
Clear up kitchen from last night
Run dishwasher
Order replacement dress from John Lewis, the zip broke (love JL, they are delivering Monday and then I will send back the broken one)

TO DO
Unload dishwasher
Tidy bombsite that is the living room
Washing onto the line
Strip our bed and put the sheets in the wash

Not sure after that!

Am in action today. I have cleaned the bottom half of the bin. so feeling very smug and self-satisfied.
IPOM like crumble idea, but need more, will try to freeze some therre's going to be masses.
Also DONE:
put washer on
knocked off paying bills
printed stuff for weekend
hoovered moth areas in sitting room and no sign fingers crossed.
TO DO
pick up hedge trimmings SOME
think of recipes for using raspberries
print out orange bills
CC amendments
Office -4 star area of DOOM
garden bonfire -goody goody
tidy everywhere
Tidy my shed
check spare room for moth, getting urgent
think about decorating
plan some time to do some of above
student portfolio - getting urgent
PG day2 prep some
sort dates for COH
do med. fliers/email urgent
magazine rack mini DOOM area

Morning!

Have fun HMHB!

It's bloody gorgeous here! Sorry Plum!

Hope she's better soon Rainbow.

DH is working away for the weekend again. Means I only have to cook dinner for me and DS, much simpler.

• up, done
• breakfast, spatone, oj and vitamins done
• coffee + check mail and online banking doing
• shower and dress, wipe round bathroom done
• dry pots done + clean sink done + wash pots doing
• laundry - hung nappies out done fold dry washing done load in
• lunch
• walk
• garden - check for cat poo, water, feed the birds
• take rubbish, recycling and compost caddy out
• tea
• wash pots and tidy kitchen
• tidy downstairs
• DS bath and bed
• craft

Weekly cleaning -

• hoover upstairs
• clean kitchen floor swept
• dust downstairs
• pedicure
• manicure

Gardening -

• weed front yard + borders more
• put some of the peppers and tomatoes into growbags started
• mow lawn

Grot -

• carpet
• defrost freezer
• sofa cover

To Do -

• plan Christmas 2010, next - decide on gifts to make/buy, use what I?ve got for now- get cross-stitch framed, mark dates in Calendar for making Christmas cake etc.,
• mirrors - put mirror tiles up above bathroom sink, other mirror up above dressing table
• buy external hard-drive
• find a dentist none keep checking
• pay coins in at bank, next 5 bags
• what?s up with the camera sd card memory?
• tax credits renewal
• ring Binbusters
• cut and dye hair

Sorry Plum, sunny here too!

Fri:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch DONE
• nanny & DS2 to playgroup DONE
• DH & me to speech training course DONE
• DH to work DONE
• buy petrol DONE
• home, order tickets for Room on The Broom show DONE (phew, the responsibility was weighing on me!)
• other jobs; sort post DONE

• pack lunch/snacks/drink/suncream/etc.
• collect DS1 & go straight to farm to meet friends
• home for boys tea (?)
• garden time
• boys bath & bed
• wine in garden?
• our dinner & early-ish night

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register; Find another one that is taking on NHS patients
• upload & order online prints Started-Done More
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door - Autumn job really
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Done3More
• put cds onto DH's pc, then they can go into loft with others
• make my playlist
• clear my iPhone of music, reload with just my playlist
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 - Have Name Of School; HavePhoneNumber
• sort out holiday in August to Jersey; hire car (+ seats) - call Opodo re seats
• repot sunflowers
• go through diaries with DH
• see if high chair will fold flat enough to put in bags and then in loft HaveFoldedIt! yey!!
• eBay listings 12/13 Done

Hi Alice - it makes a lot of sense if it is a midlife cisis. It's surprising though as I could swear he hasnt grown out of puberty at times. He's 46 so it could well be, and there was me thinking I was his midlife crisis.

Right Today
Kids - done
Bloked loo - sorted
Met friend and looked after baby while she did her housework - done
Shopping for dinner - done
Post - done
Hang out washing
put washing away
do ironing
hoover
wash pots - done
sweep -
wash bedding
clean bathroom
clean bedrooms
sweep out shed
clean windows
find gardener to cut the sodding grass

Better make a start on it...

LATERS XX

Ipom even though i am only in my 20's, i know a lot of people in their late 30's/40's (some are my parent's friends, some are DH's friends) and it is quite shocking how many of them have have 'moments' I think women are excused because of hormones, but men have this sudden feeling of "Shit, i am getting old, no i am not, i'll show them i am still young and cool etc" My dad was a bit the same. Sorry if i am not explaining it very well

Anyway, Bathroom fitter been and gone, brought me flowers! Has measured up the kitchen too, so should get a quote soon.

DD has put her favourite soft toys in the cat's litter tray that is a job for DH on his lunch break

DONE
Hang out clean washing (washed yesterday)
Put another washload on
Empty dishy
Reload dishy
Clear kitchen
Do some washing up

You have explained it fine love. I'm 29 and have seen this happen time and time again like you. Just a shock when it happens to someone you know.

It has just clouded over really quickly.

• up, done
• breakfast, spatone, oj and vitamins done
• coffee + check mail and online banking doing
• shower and dress, wipe round bathroom done
• dry pots done + clean sink done + wash pots done
• laundry - hung nappies out done fold dry washing done load in done

+ paddling pool done

• lunch doing
• walk
• garden - check for cat poo, water, feed the birds
• take rubbish, recycling and compost caddy out
• tea
• wash pots and tidy kitchen
• tidy downstairs
• DS bath and bed
• craft

Weekly cleaning -

• hoover upstairs
• clean kitchen floor swept
• dust downstairs
• pedicure
• manicure

Gardening -

• weed front yard + borders more
• put some of the peppers and tomatoes into growbags done
• mow lawn

Grot -

• carpet
• defrost freezer
• sofa cover

To Do -

• plan Christmas 2010, next - decide on gifts to make/buy, use what I?ve got for now- get cross-stitch framed, mark dates in Calendar for making Christmas cake etc.,
• mirrors - put mirror tiles up above bathroom sink, other mirror up above dressing table
• buy external hard-drive
• find a dentist none keep checking
• pay coins in at bank, next 5 bags
• what?s up with the camera sd card memory?
• tax credits renewal
• ring Binbusters
• cut and dye hair

Cloudy here. Beat a hasty retreat from the zoo as DS not compliant and kept running off and generally being a right pain . Could have done without it but he is probably tired so we are back home and watching UP. It was a discounted visit so nothing lost.

JKS - you're sounding very positive about it. Good for you. Move on til the next one.

Mini - well done on your bin achievement

Up and breakfasted DONE
Clear away breakfast things
Walk or gardening
Vitamins
Rubbish out
Recycling out /plastic
Lunch for me and DD DONE
DD for nap
Open windows
put washing on
put washing to dry
Washing in, folded and put away
tidy kitchen
empty dishy
dishy filled and on
admin/filing/post
dinner
bath DD/DS
DD /DS to bed
tidy bedroom
put toys away in lounge
feed cat
Water plants

Extra stuff
Post off accounts info
Send meter readings/direct debit form to BC
Buy mould resistant paint
Book party for DS DONE
Get car windscreen fixed re-arrange

Ongoing
Write nursery donation letters
Buy new address book DONE and fill in
new curtains/black out blinds for DS's room - measured up
New curtains for our room
Measure for carpets upstairs
Paint summer house/greenhouse

So hot here!

HMHB DD was a bit of a nightmare at the zoo tbh. Was better when DH just sort of followed her around letting her look at anything she wanted, play on the swings etc