April Flylady. In which you’ll find Cake for the Fledglings and Compassion for the Frazzled. All welcome as we sort our houses out!

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Hello everyone,
Welcome to the Flylady thread for April, where we follow (sort of) the Flylady system with baby steps, missions, daily focuses (foci?!) and decluttering. But more than that, we are a supportive bunch where we share the trials and tribulations of everyday life. We post our to do and ta da lists and chat a whole lot.
Newbies, lurkers and returners always welcome!
Back tonight with links for tomorrow!

Yay! Bloody well done Hills!!!!

Ah thanks 💐
Feel like my head is screwed on backwards sometimes, this evening I am feeling like a total failure in every way. Even though arguably I’ve managed quite a bit. Gah. I don’t get it. I hate how much I hate myself, as I don’t think it will ever change. I can’t ever be proud of myself for more than a day.

ta da
✅wash on and dry
✅washed and tried out breast pump
✅discovered said breast pump is in fact not spillproof 😳🤦‍♀️
✅ordered Tesco with ideas for baby friendly meals
✅exercise DVD while DH took all 3 Caglets for a walk
✅walked to taekwondo and back and did some extra walking
✅seven bits of home ed 😱 I don’t think we’ve ever ever done that many. Included starting the Scottish play 😉 and researching our scientist ancestor.

Blah.

It went really well! I just need to be super organised in the morning. I need to take a leaf out of Zoo's book and get up in a minute.

I think if I can get a load of washing on, dinner out of the freezer, one cleaning task and the lunches done by 7am then everything will flow smoothly in the morning and I'll have a head start in the evening. We'll see how long that lasts.

I am tired, but happy with how it went. I'll get fit! A lot of walking, a lot of stairs.

You can do it callme !!
Hills yay🍾🍾🍾🍾🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎇🎆🎇🎇
SC I've tried help her break into chunks but she has very rigid thinking and won't listen.i am start think I may need speak to someone about her "uniqueness"

Moving on...
Cats fed
Wash on
Littertray sorted
Lav bleached
Oven on for partbake rolls for pack up

Going to bake banana bread that I should've done yesterday

Glad it went well callme! I'm trying to get more organised in the evenings, even though i don't have a job to rush off too it can be taxing getting myself and all the dc up and ready on time!

Last night i went to bed with only a few cups in the sink. Obviously be better if it was empty but its a big improvement on the usual mess i have to come down to!

Ds3 has been up since 430 So he is already fed changed dressed and ready to go.

I could really do with sweeping the hall today, its very bitty. And i need to phone sky to change the payment date (hopefully) and pick up a few bits of shopping.

Well done hills

You sound down cag fwiw i think you have LOADS to be proud of

Zoo i have no advice re dd2, what are her school like? Is there someone you could talk to?

Morning. Ds was up for ages in the night , not sure why , he was shouting "mummy cuddle pleeeeeeaase" . He was quite clingy yesterday as well.

Well done hills that's good news

I need to go and put the charity bag out at the end of the drive and hope nobody spots me in my pyjamas

Well done Callme glad it went well! And good luck for the rest of the week!

Zoo hope there is someone helpful at school you can speak to. (Snap re: banana loaf making today)

Congrats on fab list achieved yesterday Cag!

4.30 am sounds gruesome I'vegotfamily (bows down with respect)

Right, I basically have to do everything I didn't get done yesterday!

Have a good one everybody! (Firmly closes screen).

X post Foxes waves!

Morning Everyone. Loving seeing your ta-da lists. Hope everyone has a great day. I started well with washing, drying, clothes away and washing up done by 8am. So DD dumped her juice all over the living room, had to laugh.

Ta da
Dishwasher on
Charity bag out
Rubbish out
Washing up
Breakfast me and dc

To do
Finish daily routine
Swish and swipe downstairs loo
Clothes pile
15 minutes decluttering bedroom
Meal plan for next week
Online food shop
Any other planning for week
Take bottles / plastics to recycling
Nip to shop for few things I forgot on food shop that arrived yesterday

zoo does dd2 have a diagnosis? If not yes please speak to someone. Otoh if her unqiueness is causing problems it probably is a good idea to speak to someone even if she does have a diagnosis.

over slept. Everything hurts. And. I. Don't. Want. To!!!!!

Ate the wrong food yesterday. I am suffering today which I suppose proves it is the wrong food but I should have known better in the first place

Is it bedtime yet?

Whoooooooooooo Hills that's fantastic (the cleaning not the hurting)

Ta-dahs
Cat fed
Ironing
Laundry on
Orders packed

Poorly husband now out of bed, so going to get bed made and get dressed

To do
Posting
Shopping
Weekly bleugh
Reports

Supposed to be at my friend's for lunch but think I may have to cancel

Tada
Posted sil birthday card
Been to shop
Daily routine
Meal plan for next week
Checked calendar
Taken recycling

To do
Online food shop
Swish and swipe downstairs loo
15 minutes decluttering bedroom
Clothes pile
Hang washing out

Hello all.

DH’s sporting thing went great thanks and we have a nice time away. Back to reality now!

Ta da:-
Unpacked (sort of)
Laundry in progress
Stuff ready for school pick up
Stuff ready for wrapping for presents and for DDs to pick to give as presents as we have 3 parties this weekend

To do:-
Tidy away living room as I got SMA stuff out of cupboard of doom (still sadly a cupboard of doom),
Pick up DDs
Then we have a thing at school then back home for homework etc.

Well done on kitchen Hills and on job Callme. Definitely sounds worth speaking to school zoo. Sorry to hear you still feel rubbish SC, must be so frustrating.

A big welcome to Plower and big wing flaps to everyone else.

Does anyone have memory boxes for their kids? Was thinking of getting something to put each of their drawings, a few baby clothes , cards we've kept...not sure though as presumably at some point the box will get full and then what will I end up with boxes and boxes of stuff when they are 18 or something?!

Ta da
Clothes pile put away (mostly)
15 minutes decluttering under the bed storage box but didn't get far with it just came to the conclusion I need more boxes , also put big winter jumpers away under the bed too.

To do
Swish and swipe downstairs loo
Online food shop
Hang washing out
Dinner later is cumin ginger and lime baked cod probably with sauteed potatoes and some veg ... hopefully only take half an hour or so to make.

Sorry I didn’t do links. Felt really down again this morning but decided to walk down to sports club with DH (never bother on Tuesdays as it’s the older kids class) so got exercise and fresh air and chatting time with another mum I’d not met before. So that helped.

I’ve made some notes for a control journal of sorts. Just stuff that needs to be done every day. I really think I’ll need to set a load of alarms on my iPad to get it done. :(

Need to work out what time to leave for tap. Baby just fell asleep. 🤦‍♀️ I’m sure I have time to eat some scones though 🤔😳

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Tuesday 24th April
Babystep www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/31-beginner-babysteps/day-24/
Mission www.flylady.net/c/sp.php#missions attack the floordrobe!
Daily focus is planning. So plan stuff. :)
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Talking of scones cag we have just scoffed down cheese ones D's made at school today!

Busy day,dp off he's moving next week so bit shifting stuff one place to new one,shopping and general errands.late lunch(2pm) then school run.need head office put potatoes in oven for parents eve for D's

Dinner tonight- jacket potatoes with tuna/cheese with broccoli,carrots and cauliflower

Hills no diagnosis.where do we start?school?gp?

Wtf.need put potatoes in the oven and head out for parents evening with D's

it appears to depend on the area a little bit. We went through GP but in other areas it HAS to go through school. Not sure tbh. Both might be a good approach as school will need to contribute to any diagnosis
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Oh and be prepared for a good battle often the kids save the issues til when they get home and school sees little of it.

Yes that was our issue hills when the Caglets were at school. Especially DD who was always super compliant and would just unleash it all on me as soon as she left the school. Never once did they agree anything was wrong.

I think school first to see what they say. Not sure how it works in secondary level but certainly the kids I know who were diagnosed while still attending school had an educational psychologist/speech therapist visit them at infant/junior. Also we hit a snag when the paediatrician found out they were HE as we had to get the opinion of a teacher, so the process really does seem to involve school. (As an aside she said they were having to redesign policies to allow for kids not having a school, as they were getting so many more HE kids through their door because their needs made school too much to cope with :( as it is I’d say about 90% of their HE friends have ASD or related)

You may find the school already have an opinion on what is going on with her. It’s also a common theme among friends that school didn’t communicate with parents about assessments, suspected issues etc. Including some who had actually been diagnosed with dyslexia and never telling parents! As it is, we bumped into DS’ old nursery teacher shortly after his diagnosis, and basically her reaction indicated that they had suspicions back then. Which they never ever mentioned. FFS. He went to that school for 2.5 years.

Sorry my post has been more ranty than helpful. Somewhat coloured by our experience. But anyway I do think approaching the school first is the safest option. Unfortunately things like exam stress can exacerbate ASD issues so it’s really important she gets support in place.

Big hugs. I know it’s not easy to think about this stuff. Xx

Foxes we have a memory box not particularly for DD but her first hat, jacket & booties are in there (she was prem they were the only thing that fitted) plus first proper shoes & other stuff.

It's also got concert tickets, that kind of thing. Goes back years.

Ta - dahs continues
Huge shop (went slightly overboard)
Dinner
Washing up
Movie afternoon with DD
Walk round park
Dinner
Washing up
Chopped & froze onion mountain
Packed orders
More laundry

Hugs & to all that need it

Just going to bed, so will do links as we may be in a rush tomorrow. Seeing a horrible histories show! Yay! DH is off work so he’s going to take the baby for a walk. It’s only an hour so as long as I feed her first she will be fine.

She will be six months old tomorrow 😱😱😱😱😱

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Wednesday 25th April
Babystep www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/31-beginner-babysteps/day-25/ testimonial yawniness
Mission www.flylady.net/c/sp.php#missions clear your nightstand. I have no nightstand :( I would like to get one when we move. It’s a bit silly having nowhere to put my glasses.
Remember we are in the boudoir this week so declutter in there.
Daily focus is Anti-Procrastination. I think we should call it GSDD. Get Shit Done Day.
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ta da
✅sorted out breast pump and cup into steriliser
✅yummy lunch for me and baby (mackerel and asparagus - she is really loving food it’s so fun to see 😍)
✅got exercise and fresh air by walking to sports club
✅tap class (ignoring the fact we had McDonald’s after)
✅made arrangements for tomorrow
✅DH did washing up and laundry, I haven’t moved it on though. Need to get that done tomorrow
✅dealt with meltdown/worries from DS a couple of times, he is struggling today
✅remembered to use my medicinal mouthwash thingy (been somewhat neglecting myself)
✅5 bits of home ed. Managed to catch up fairly well after being out in the morning. If we can keep this pace up I will be really pleased, it bodes well for the future (I’m hoping that we will be settled in new house by September, and as we will have more space we can have a proper learning area and can continue adding in more work).

Bedtime!

Good morning!

Cag Happy 6-month birthday to Cagletini!! (How did that happen .). Congrats on another great list achieved too! And ta for links!

Goth impressed by your chopped frozen onion mountain!! (And your menu last night!)

Hope parents evening went ok Zoo!

Foxes I have kept a load of "treasures" relating to DD ie baby stuff, cards from special birthdays, drawings, achievement certificates, school stuff etc. Only trouble is, it is not organised in to one place! (Of course! )

to you for putting away winter jumpers! I still have a huge pile of them to hand wash !

Hope you are telling less achey today Hills!

Glad your dh's event went well Toostressy! I remember well the "three parties a weekend phase!"

Hope the juice came out ok Plower!

to I'veafamily

Hope the new morning regime working ok Cordelia!

Cheery wing flaps to everyone else! Have a good anti-procrastination day everyone!