Fledglings flying into March.

[HillsBesideTheSea]

Right you horrible lot stop nattering so much nah it wouldn't be fun if you did

So you have wandered into this corner of MN were the fledglings - a long running but very friendly group welcomes newbies and follows the flylady way to try to get decluttered and on top of the boring stuff in order to have more time for the fun other boring but essential stuff

No idea whose turn it was to run the thread this month but here it the thread and we can figure it out from there.

lisette wish I could have gin. Think I'm still too poorly alas.

It'll just give me a headache I think.

Nooo, foxes Can they not fix the water? Will you get a full refund? What a pain when you were looking forward to going away.

I am fine to do the links thanks SC, my throat is really sore but it's OK when the paracetamol is working. I've had a coffee now to liven me up for the afternoon. Out of all the poorly fledglings, I'm probably doing OK!

Main roads are OK round here, it's the side roads that are lethal! I did get out today as DD's Saturday morning activity was still on but she was pleased to go. She did go out in the snow for a short while yesterday but it was just too cold! It is a lot warmer today and rain is forecast, so I think most of it may disappear overnight!

Cotswold yes thankfully we will get a refund so that's something! They've called an emergency plumber but nobody free yet.

Oh foxes and after all your worry about whether you’d be able to go :( so annoying. Hopefully you can retry when at full health and with better weather.

Yes I just really feel like, well running away TBH but in reality just want to not have to think about every sodding thing all the time. I think I’m mentally exhausted as much as anything. DH is ridiculously stressed at work - it’s not a take your work home with you kind of thing, it’s just generally shit, but too risky to jump ship ATM. Luckily the boss arranged for him to take some unpaid leave once a week next financial year, which is affordable due to other less stressful/exhausting work he’s got. But it just feels like we don’t actually have any time for anything ATM. It’s been crap timing with his various running events and a few family things, it has added up to a lot more than usual but he’s not booking anything else now, until we are settled in the new house.

The whole moving thing is obviously a huge stress as we don’t know what’s happening. It’s tempting to just think everything will be better when we move (that to some extent is DH’s view on it) but I don’t think it’s that simple. That’s not to say things won’t improve (more space, things like having a shower as bath time takes forever) but I think it’s naive to think it’s a cure all. And that’s without all the stress of actually moving.

Why is life so complicated? I am in a much better place mentally to tackle stuff, but have no time or energy to catch up on the many years of being totally useless. And I feel like we will never get there. I’m not sure I’m a proper adult

None of us are "proper" adults Cag so try not to worry about that . I sometimes think that if it weren't for dh, I'd be living in a cardboard box under a railway bridge somewhere. Life is bound to be stressful with three young 'uns - must leave time for very little else - but it will get easier (physically anyway!) as they get older. And moving house may have more of a positive effect than you imagine; never underestimate the effect of your immediate environment I reckon. Anyway, hang in there, everyone fed and no one dead etc etc! I couldn't even contemplate home edding while looking after a baby, never mind actually doing it! So hats off to you, you are doing so brilliantly

Oh no Foxes that's awful! Especially when you were feeling ill and could have stayed tucked up in bed! And when you needed a break so much. That's really rotten luck

Glad you are not feeling too bad Cotswold and take care on the icy roads.

Waves to Lisette and everyone else!

I have nearly finished roasting two chickens - now making a huge vat of pesto pasta - then one huge bowl of green beans - then one big carrot salad. Hoping that is enough for the baying teens if I throw in two baguettes and some snacks things ....going to throw it all down on the dining room table and retreat to a safe distance ....

My day started ok...pop heron foods with dd2.
Wrote letter for appeal of secondary

Then dd2 ask for sledging on local nature reserve
Lil zoo wanted build a my lil( snow) pony
I watched.dp watch other two on sledges
After about hour dd2 freaking n crying in distance.no signs D's n do.we dash over D's has bolted in stress.dp said going home.dd2 panicking where D's is....
I assume gone home we hot foot back to house30min walk) no one see lil zoo masterpiece,nor got finish tail...I did take photos.will postpone in mo...
DS in bed howling.i livid.dd2 still hysterical(had I been in charge would've spot D's stressing n talk him thru it...)
Turns out fret as busy then teens turn up n he freak embarrass self front of them.he fell of sledge n bolted case they laugh(they didn't)dp then Declare felt sick/IBS from stress n stomp bed
FFS

anyhoo
Eventually soothe D's and got full story.got D's and dd2 make up.
Made lunch
Watch Simpsons dvd for bit altogether(cept do still in bed)

DS went up to play Xbox n DP has miraculously got up n wants food (which means no tea in a bit)
AAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHH

Fluttershy the snow pony by lil zoo

Oh and tadas
3loads laundry
Sort kitchen floor
Sweep living floor
Shop
Sledge/snowpony fiasco
Mediation of zoolets
Lunch
Try not slay do still in progress

Dinner tonight-poached cod.parsley sauce.kale and onion mash.carrots

foxes forgot to add that's rubbish you poor thing.hope you are resting,eating whatever you can manage.are little ones pickng up now?

Forgot to add for cag sorry it's all really crap lovely.sending hugs

No jury would convict you zoo also fluttersnow is awesome! She’s DH’s favourite, mine is pinkie pie (what was that I said about being a grown up? )

Thanks everyone. Yes dc are fine now zoo

zoo glad you got the poorly corner sorted (too ill to do it myself), you are definitely a doer/getting things done type person.

That snow pony is impressive but how terrible for DS with his anxiety. Glad to hear he is all calm.

Is anyone having a good day? Maybe sc?

Adult? Wait what? shit. Don't scare me.

foxes sorry that is shit
Get well soon to all the poorly fledglings
Cag I have not forgotten to pm you, just a bit bogged down atm. You are still on my list of things that need attention. Sorry. Hang in there. You are doing ok. Anyone in your going to move but don't know when situation would feel very similiar
SC! Afresh! oi behave seriously people are going to start grumbling if we have tooo many threads world domination one thread at a time. Tally ho

I have been doing stuff. It's a long list. Still working on it. Once I have defrosted a bit

Thank you it’s been a crap day, again, problem is I have a crap day, and so get totally behind, and DH has to spend the morning (as he gets home so late) catching up, and then we never get anything else done and it turns into another crap day. It’s not helping that Cagletini is in full on clingy growth spurt mode, cluster feeding and pinching (I am thus very sore of boob) although she has started rolling halfway over so yay! But I’m knackered from it all. The sling doesn’t work in the house as she prefers to be properly moving like on a bus or long walk.

DS has also been incredibly hard work, days like this I don’t see how there is any doubt he has ADHD as well as autism. Impulsive, hyperactive, he has hurt us and ruined things. I can’t risk leaving the baby with him for even a second - he would never hurt her on purpose but he loves her so much he’s all over her and days like this has zero sense of space and danger, hence the hurting.

Haven’t even finished my curry let alone clear up. I hate that DH has to come home to this.

Re: the reason I struggle so much, I finally read this today, it’s brilliant and I’ve been brave and shared it on FB despite knowing that some people may roll their eyes at the excuses...

theestablishment.co/i-thought-i-was-lazy-the-invisible-day-to-day-struggle-for-autistic-women-6268515175f3

Will have a read in a minute.

Tired, just come to bed and oh so lovely. Climbed into fresh sheets and cosy layers. Had a couple of halves at the pub then home to have slow cooked beef, mash, peas and fried mushroom and onions in herbs.
Dusted and tidied bedroom. Need to vacuum.

Zoo that sounds super-stressful! Snow pony is fab though. Sorry the trip turned out like that for you, the thinking required in adulting is exhausting some days when it feels like you are the only responsible one around Cag go easy on yourself too.

I'll post the links next.

The daily summary for Sunday (also available on the Flylady website at flight plan which should update automatically each day.

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Baby-step no 4 - write a morning routine on post-its we generally ignore this one

No zone work or missions at the weekends – woo hoo, enjoy!

The daily focus for Sunday is: renew your spirit

The monthly habit for March getting dressed to shoes

daily reminders

Ta da
Car to garage
food shopping
picked up prescription
few other errands
2nd load of washing on
mount foldmore conquered
sock pile of doom tamed
removed too small clothes out of ds' wardrobe
checked on whether his cousin/aunt wanted hand me downs
rescued washing for all the places
removed washing up
emptied the not in rotation bags and put away
Selected yarn for a cake winding party later
20mins on my room
Yell at ds who is being awkward about homework and room tidying.
another 30mins on my room
more laundry
play the watch for leaks from radiators game
Sort through the grow into clothes and put what is reasonably sized into rotation
drink waaaaaaaaay too much caffiene - will regret this later
lose a few hours working on bedroom
play the see it there is a leak game again
Ponder if we can keep the water pipes infrozen without heating
Realise such pondering is a bad idea and disappear at speed
Go into hiding when the DIYer can't solve the problem and we need to get someone in shock horror - well doh we could have saved you that one
Put another load of washing on
Do more stuff in my room
play the does it leak gain again
bleed the radiators swear every time I bump head or shoulders/back goes numb
Cook tea - 2 different types
Another load of washing
more time on my room
Find old towels for the leaky pipe
winding wool into cakes party ready for knitting into socks toasty toes, toasty toes
Deal with ds who managed to chunk a drink over his bed
Get ds' floor half tidy
Wash the mats from around the toilets
remove some dead plants from the bathroom window sil
water some other plants
find strong pain killers
regret drink so much caffeine and take extra allergy tablets.
re-arranged craft storage and put some things into the freezer to de-bug (precautionary) for a few weeks.
"toss the stash" and pull out things to be allocated into projects.

~ aside note bowers if your like WYS yarn they have brought out some new colours and they are amazing. almost speckley!

And with that I am going to try to sleep but see aforementioned comment about caffeine and bad idea.

[tiptoes around poorly corner with lantern, distributes pain killers, hot drinks, adjusts fluffy blankets, puffs up pillows]

Well teens are finally, finally asleep ...but I am wide awake ...bum!

Stonking list Hills!!!

Ta for links Cotswold

Zoo lovely snow pony and hope your ds is ok

Morning sc

Up at 3 with dc4

Sat watching fucking bacon face on tv

Ta da

Dryer on
Dry pots away

Hello all
I'd love to join instead of lurking...Hills ... you are on fire with your list! Just looking at it makes my spondy throb Slow and steady fledgling for me due to various crap illnesses but will give it good bash and it'll hopefully help with my pacing. The plan is not to hurt so bloody much, anyway.

Welcome ginning!