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Anyone else sad and want to hand hold?

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Helplessandheartbroke · 22/02/2024 21:37

Mumsnet has really helped me pull put of a possible breakdown and while I'm out of the worst of it, I'm still very sad. I'm crying to myself now so I can put on a brave face in the morning.

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Helplessandheartbroke · 22/05/2024 17:59

@Imatorturedpoet it's the small wins. I'm shattered today been sleeping early too and still struggling to get up! Anyone else have issues sleeping?

@Imamumgetmeoutofhere how are you getting on? X

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Imatorturedpoet · 22/05/2024 18:10

Helplessandheartbroke · 22/05/2024 17:59

@Imatorturedpoet it's the small wins. I'm shattered today been sleeping early too and still struggling to get up! Anyone else have issues sleeping?

@Imamumgetmeoutofhere how are you getting on? X

I go to bed too late and then can't sleep 🙄 but I reckon even if I went to bed earlier I still wouldn't sleep 😂 I can't switch off. The minute I lie down my mind goes crazy!

JamSandle · 22/05/2024 19:40

Helplessandheartbroke · 22/05/2024 15:58

I'm OK thanks ladies. Don't put too much pressure on yourselves. It takes as long as it takes. @Imatorturedpoet how's your gratitude list come along? @JamSandle it might he worth a try for you? X

I do this quite regularly although have dropped off a bit since my breakup.

Helplessandheartbroke · 22/05/2024 21:39

@Imatorturedpoet I'm with you there! X

@JamSandle time to try again maybe? X

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JamSandle · 22/05/2024 21:50

Helplessandheartbroke · 22/05/2024 21:39

@Imatorturedpoet I'm with you there! X

@JamSandle time to try again maybe? X

Yes I will. Feeling quite sad and panicky tonight but I'm grateful for my parent and sibling, for my job, colleagues and savings, for my health, the roof over my head, my friends, and having this supportive community.

Imatorturedpoet · 28/05/2024 11:37

Just checking in. Hope everyone's ok? As ok as we can be anyway!

I had an awful day yesterday, I lost it with DP for no reason really, not a valid reason anyway. I'm thoroughly ashamed of myself today 😔 I thought it wouldn't happen with him, it was a regular occurrence in my last relationship and I'm worried now it's started again, it'll become a regular thing again. He hadn't even done anything wrong 😔 I just overreacted because I was in pain (chronic condition).

Helplessandheartbroke · 28/05/2024 23:43

@Imatorturedpoet sorry I've been quiet. What did dp say? Are yous OK now? X

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Imatorturedpoet · 29/05/2024 12:43

Helplessandheartbroke · 28/05/2024 23:43

@Imatorturedpoet sorry I've been quiet. What did dp say? Are yous OK now? X

That's ok! How are you feeling?

He was understanding and we're all good, although I'm struggling with his mood at the moment, he's quite down and negative. I'm not much better though! I'm wondering if we're bored of each other. Maybe it's just the weather though, it's hard to get out when it keeps raining and we both like being outdoors.

I'm very tearful all the time, but again partly due to the weather I think. It really gets to me when the sun isn't shining.

Helplessandheartbroke · 31/05/2024 11:26

@Imatorturedpoet hopefully we will get some good weather soon! I'm in lanzarote and it's too hot for me! Had a couple too many last night so my anxiety is high atm x

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Imatorturedpoet · 31/05/2024 11:30

Helplessandheartbroke · 31/05/2024 11:26

@Imatorturedpoet hopefully we will get some good weather soon! I'm in lanzarote and it's too hot for me! Had a couple too many last night so my anxiety is high atm x

Sorry to hear your anxiety is bad. Envious of the heat though!

Another cold wet day here. I had to force myself to go to yoga this morning, really didn't want to go, but I'm glad I did now.

Helplessandheartbroke · 31/05/2024 21:54

@Imatorturedpoet well done you! I love yoga. Not done it since I was pregnant not sure I've got the confidence to do it myself x

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Imatorturedpoet · 31/05/2024 21:57

Helplessandheartbroke · 31/05/2024 21:54

@Imatorturedpoet well done you! I love yoga. Not done it since I was pregnant not sure I've got the confidence to do it myself x

Thank you! I had to do something to tone up and i'm very limited in what I can do physically really. I do enjoy it when I'm there and I'm doing ok, it's slow yoga though 🫣

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Helplessandheartbroke · 04/06/2024 14:30

Hey how is everyone x

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Whycantgiraffesdance · 04/06/2024 14:48

Hey, sorry I’ve been absent, been on holiday and didn’t really go on my phone much!

how are u @Helplessandheartbroke did u enjoy ur holiday?

im doing ok, trying not to let my anxiety get the better of me x

Helplessandheartbroke · 16/06/2024 21:51

@Whycantgiraffesdance I'm so sorry I missed your post for some reason. Holiday was fab thanks how about you?

How's everyone else? X

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Whycantgiraffesdance · 17/06/2024 15:17

Helplessandheartbroke · 16/06/2024 21:51

@Whycantgiraffesdance I'm so sorry I missed your post for some reason. Holiday was fab thanks how about you?

How's everyone else? X

No worries lovely, I’m glad u had a good time! We did too, it was nice to get away! x

Helplessandheartbroke · 25/06/2024 18:45

Hey how is everyone x

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Imatorturedpoet · 25/06/2024 21:58

Helplessandheartbroke · 25/06/2024 18:45

Hey how is everyone x

Hi, how are you? I've not had a good few days, very bored and unmotivated. Struggling with the heat too, but I always do.

Helplessandheartbroke · 25/06/2024 23:12

@Imatorturedpoet I hear you with the heat! I can't sleep with it. We moan for sun and when it's here we moan too haha.

Can you take advantage when youee bored and go for a nice shaded walk? Even walk to a pub beer garden and have a drink (coke or beer) just to get you out the house?

I've beeb up and down but I ran out of meds so that didn't help x

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Imatorturedpoet · 25/06/2024 23:34

Helplessandheartbroke · 25/06/2024 23:12

@Imatorturedpoet I hear you with the heat! I can't sleep with it. We moan for sun and when it's here we moan too haha.

Can you take advantage when youee bored and go for a nice shaded walk? Even walk to a pub beer garden and have a drink (coke or beer) just to get you out the house?

I've beeb up and down but I ran out of meds so that didn't help x

That's not good, can you get your meds soon?

There's really nowhere shady nearby except the woods and I wouldn't want to walk there alone tbh.

I need to learn to control my impulsivity, but it's not easy.

Helplessandheartbroke · 26/06/2024 21:59

@Imatorturedpoet yes I got new meds Monday. What impulse decisions have you made recently?

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Imatorturedpoet · 27/06/2024 02:40

Helplessandheartbroke · 26/06/2024 21:59

@Imatorturedpoet yes I got new meds Monday. What impulse decisions have you made recently?

I didn't do too badly actually. Took myself off food shopping, but bought a top in Sainsbury's and also a (cheap) glass carafe. Better than pets, which is what I was looking at! 🙄

Helplessandheartbroke · 27/06/2024 20:36

@Imatorturedpoet yes just drink wine in your new top instead! Haha 😄 do you have any current pets? Did you buy some birds?

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Imatorturedpoet · 28/06/2024 00:29

I have a cat, I've had birds in the past .. with two cats, so it is possible.

I'm considering tropical fish as well, I mean instead of. I don't know though.