Anyone else sad and want to hand hold?

[Helplessandheartbroke]

Mumsnet has really helped me pull put of a possible breakdown and while I'm out of the worst of it, I'm still very sad. I'm crying to myself now so I can put on a brave face in the morning.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you a hug.
Families are so complicated, and relationships can be so painful, I wish I could make things better for you xx

Thanks so Myhead xx

@JamSandle hey its jk24 this is my new user name. Welcome to this thread. The ladies on here may be able to provide further advice to your situation if your want to share x

@myheadisaterribleplace you do deserve friends and you do deserve happiness, what on earth makes you believe you don't? Be kind to yourself. I'm sending you a hug too, you sound like you need one more than me today x

@TraumatisedatChristmas1986 I'm so sorry to hear about your MIL, sending you and your family strength through this difficult time. If you're happy to share, why is there no chance of reconcile with other relatives? Maybe it's something we can try and help give advice too? X

Hi Helpless, unfortunately it's just not doable but I am very grateful to you for asking. I have sent you a pm. It's a bit too personal to put on here, but knowing that people care helps a lot.

I wish everyone on here strength...nobody arrives om the planet with a handbook. I sometimes think it's like walking on to a stage in the middle of Act 3 and you've only heard the script from similarly uninformed actors.

Take care everyone xxxx

We all care love that's why we're on here. I've messaged you back :)

Youre right about the above analogy and I'm wishing everyone strength too. Its so hard at times x

How is everyone today? I had a bad night so feeling shit today x

I am feeling low today as well, had a nap feeling a bit better. How's everyone?

@annabanana068 sorry to hear you're struggling too. Anything you want to vent about? My little one was up half the night so I'm sleep deprived and my sadness and anxiety really kicks in after a bad sleep x

same but I am can't really identify what it is I am feeling, just quite low. It's a struggle because I've never coped well on less sleep. Worst thing is, I was expecting the love and emotions from having a baby would outweight these feelings of sadness but alas no. I don't want to be an anxious mother, but unfortunately I am for now. How are you coping with you feelings?

@annabanana068 how old is baby? I'm not coping with my feelings unfortunately but as mentioned on your thread, meds have helped. I constantly feel guilt for things I have or haven't done and just generally feel not good enough x

He's a November baby and we're almost 17 weeks old. Have sought for any professional help to deal with those feelings?
Lol saying that I probably need to reach out to someone but I just feel too proud and not like a good mum if I can't cope

I will be sad with you too. 33 years of age, next to no family or friends who actually give a shit about me. I hate this constant cycle of pain and never feeling valued or worthy. I know a lot of that comes from within and I am having therapy at the minute, but no amount of talking will ever change my life.

I am sorry you feel sad! Why do you feel like no one gives a shit? How did you find your therapist? I might try that too xx

Because no one actually does. I wouldn’t be missed, okay there might be an initial sadness but life would move on for everyone pretty quickly. I love my therapist and it’s the one thing I look forward to each week but there are so many things we are unpicking at the moment and it is really draining.

@annabanana068 a failure wouldn't reach out for help! I felt like you a while ago and kept saying no to meds but meds and cbt therapy have helped me through the worst point of my life. Please speak to your gp.

@InOut2023 I'm sorry to hear you're struggling too. Anything you want to talk about? Plenty of people would he sad if you weren't here. I'm glad you found the thread x

I wouldn’t even know where to start. Thank you for asking though.

@InOut2023 where ever you want. Can always pm if too personal but you need a vent. I'm not bothered myself about being outing x

Just popped In to check on everyone.

Lack of sleep can certainly make everything seem worse.

@Helplessandheartbroke it certainly helps when the babies are bigger and you can get more sleep. I did feel a lot worse when mine where little. Hugs

I was in a lot of pain yesterday and had a tiring day. Feel better this morning but still tired.

@InOut2023 I had counciling last year and it can be very draining afterwards, but it really does help. Keep going and hopefully things will improve for you. Xx

@MigGirl ds is almost 4 believe it or not haha.

How are you doing? Not as much pain today I hope? X

@Helplessandheartbroke oh I know that pain DD was 3 1/2 before she ever slept through. Luckily as a teenager it's not a problem, although she does get me up supper early to go swimming. They are just different now they are older.

I'm OK today and have physio this morning so hoping it doesn't make it worse.

How are you feeling today?

@MigGirl hope physio goes well for you. Not too sure how I am today as I've woke up with a million thoughts whizzing round my head 😕 trying to shift them as I type. Ocd is a horrible thing to live with.

Is swimming good for your pain? X

Good morning everyone. I hope you're all okay today.

Sadness is part of the rich tapestry of human experience and yet such an uncomfortable one.

Consoling myself with the knowledge that if you can be sad, you can be happy. They are two sides of the same coin.

Look after yourselves.

I don't go swimming as it makes things worse. DD does though and is quite a serious swimmer.

It's so nice on here to feel some positive vibes for once. I feel mumsnet has been quite negative lately and was considering have a break from it again. Then I've met you lovely lot. So yes feeling slightly more positive today.

The mental health board tend to be kinder. I hope I haven't jinxed us!

I don't understand anyone thay can't be kind. Even if you disagree with someone you don't need to be a dick about it like some of them on MN. I'm glad for this thread and the general support thread. We all need a virtual hug some days but I also find it helps to offer support to others too. ❤ does anyone every think they're not a good person? I dwell on past mistakes a lot x