General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

Ah yes I remember, I never suffered with my first but it has come on with avengance with my second. How old is your little one now? I’m being referred to perinatal mental health so hoping they might offer some counselling x

Hes 4 tomorrow my boy. Glad you're getting plenty of help. Keep talking on here top its helped me so much x

yes I will, it’s nice to know we aren’t suffering alone!

Agreed but shit we have to meet this way. Try and get an early night hun x

I’m so sad today, I can’t stop crying. The home treatment team have just been, they’ll be transferring my care soon to perinatal. The woman was lovely and kept saying ‘you will get better’ but I just can’t see it. I feel like this is my life now, anxious, depressed and scared 😢

My life was unable to get out of bed, crying, wishing it could all just stop and basically failing to function as a parent and wife.

Now I’m a better parent than ever. I laugh most days. I find joy in small things. I plan lots to look forward to and life is so much better.

You can get well. One step at a time and don’t beat yourself up for not being better yet. Just do what you can do today.

Thanks @Wolfiefan it’s always good to hear from people that made it out the other side! Just been for a walk to clear my head, not sure it helped but the fresh air was nice!

@Whycantgiraffesdance last year I was in utter despair. Extremely anxious and depressed. I was off work for 6 months, vomiting most days due to anxiety, panic attacks, hysterically crying most days , couldn't eat , totally unfunctional.
I'm not a 100% by any stretch but I'm now back at work, going to the gym 2/3 times a week, socialising a little. Like I say I'm nowhere near 100% and still experiencing anxiety most days but it is much better than it was. Hang in there. X

Thank you @Ilovedogs1 so sorry you’ve been through it too, was there a particular cause for you? I’ve always been an anxious person but this is next level!

how is everyone else today? xx

Sorry I've been reading but I don't have any positive responses atm.

I will say though I felt like you last year. I wasn't a great mum, wife or dog mum because I was exhausted and anxious constantly. Then ddog passed and I feel horrendous guilt for not paying him enough attention the 12 months or so before he passed. I'm making it up being a wife and mum but can't make it up to my boy.

It's a horrible way to feel and I really feel for you. You don't realise the impact it has and I now hate myself for not being the best dog mum my boy deserved before he passed. Some people won't understand this but some will.

I hope you find the strength to get better. I thought I was getting there but I feel I'm slipping again x

Thank you @Jk24 and I’m so sorry you aren’t feeling great yourself 😔 I’m not a big animal person but I know how much your dog must have meant to you and I’m sure you gave him the best life even if u don’t feel like it now ❤️ sending hugs xx

Thank you. Sorry to derail from you. I'm lay here crying now on my sons birthday! It's been a nice evening too. Its more annoying to know we're doing this to ourself isn't it x

Oh bless you. Happy birthday to your boy. Are you okay? 🌹

Been speaking to DB. I'm so lucky to have him. I think I need to see through the fog and figure out my next steps.

@JamSandle thank you. I'll hold your hand and we can try together :) keep speaking to db too x

Got your hand and holding tight. I've got you :)

Such a kind, supportive community on here, grateful for you all ❤️

Holding your hand too sweet x

I'm desperate for an early night but thinking of everyone and wishing us all a better tomorrow. If anyone wants a private chat feel free to pm. I'll respond in the morning. Night ladies x

Sweet dreams. I only have MN on my phone and can't seem to PM on there unless I'm missing something obvious. I have you sleep well. Let us know how you're doing in the morning. Goodnight! 🌹

Sending everyone loving hugs tonight. I hope you all sleep well and we all have a little bit better of a day tomorrow ❤️

Grateful for this thread, glad to know I'm not alone ❤️

Thank you @Ilovedogs1so sorry you’ve been through it too, was there a particular cause for you? I’ve always been an anxious person but this is next level!

@Whycantgiraffesdance I've always suffered with anxiety and I've had 3 big breakdowns like last year in my life.
At the time I was leaving a job I'd been in for 24 yrs so that was probably a contributing factor but I've always suffered with intrusive thoughts/anxiety. Feeling quite overwhelmed lately and just having a little cry. X

Tried to copy and paste your comments @Whycantgiraffesdance . Don't know why I didn't get the grey box background. 🤔🤯

having a good cry often makes me feel slightly better ❤️ hope everyone sleeps well and here’s to a better day tomorrow for us all xxx