42 year old male pursuing 19 year old female

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A 42 year old male friend of my hubby is pursuing a 19 year old woman. He's single and so is she but it's really turning my stomach to think he's old enough to be her father and I now see him as a bit of a creep. Am I overreacting? My own daughter is 20 and she thinks he's a creep. I don't want him visiting us anymore but my husband is laughing about it. How do you guys feel about this? Thanks!

Does he have form for this? I agree with you that’s it’s creepy. Also, I’m not sure what you mean by pursuing? Is she into him?

Is the 19yr old interested or not? Just with you saying pursuing it reads as if she's not interested and he's still trying it on, that's gross whatever the age difference

If she's toldf him no then he needs to back off. Your DH sounds nearly as creepy as him though if he thinks it's funny. Ick.

Dirty fucker

At 18 a friend of my dd's got a new bf. She was 18....he was 42. Guess who got pregnant and had to scrap uni plans? His dc are older than her. Bet they aren't too chuffed either. He dropped her at college /picked her up /joined them for lunch. Every day.. She thought he was being lovely. We mners would likely call him a controlling cunt.
She has a dc now and no friends... No visitors allowed incase the dc gets germs.

Would your DH laugh if he was after your daughter? If he would I would fuck him off.

It's fucking creepy

They message each other online, he showed some messages to my husband and there's so much sexual innuendo from her but you could read it as innocent, she's very clever! If I didn't know her I would think it was some kind of honey trap.

Let's all cross our fingers that it is 🤞 would serve the letchy fucker right.

In that case if she has any sense it will be a bit of an ego trip for her but hopefully nothing will come of it. I’m a similar age to him and if any of my male friends were after a 19 year old I’d be questioning how much respect they actually had for women tbh.That sounds extreme and obviously depends on the individuals involved but 🤷‍♀️

If they are both free and single, keep out of their bussines.

Interesting that the thread “should I sleep with a 25 year old” said that large age difference was fine, whereas this one is all “he’s a dirty fucker”

wonder why…

We cut contact with a friend ( mid 40's) when he started going after girls in their 20's. Our DD was just finishing A levels ... She felt unsafe & I don't blame her.

There's a thread on here about a 42 year old woman who wants to shag a 25 yo. She got nothing but encouragement and why not as long as both are consenting adults?

19 is very different to 25.
Also Depends if the younger vulnerable partner is the one at risk of pregnancy.

Would it be ok if he was a millionaire?

Because a 25 year old is a bona fide adult and most 19 year olds still have a lot of growing up to do?

I'd be really surprised if the other thread got the same results if it was "should I sleep with a 19 year old?"

Well of course not, he'd still be 42

@Billydavey seeing as basic maths is not your strong point (bless) I'll work it out and explain the answer to you:

Your Question: Wonder why?
Answer: Six years

It's fucking creepy and screams sex pest. Unfortunately, it's really fucking common and not usually for any good reason. 19 year olds look amazing and are usually more easy going or tolerant than a woman his own age who has had to put up with his or another man's bullshit for X years.

I say that as a woman his own age who is fed up of his shit and the shit of others. My DH mostly (but definitely sometimes) not included

No. Its creepy. I don't think it's normal for a 42 year old to be attracted to a 19 year old. Would. you date one?

The fact your husband is laughing about it...well.. they say you are the company you keep. This would be the problem for me.

Yeah he’s a creep!

There is a huge power imbalance between 42 and 19 year olds that needs to attended to

My own daughter is 20 and she thinks he's a creep. I don't want him visiting us anymore but my husband is laughing about it.

Your husband is a disrespectful dickhead. If my DD said she was uncomfortable with an adult man visiting the home, he wouldn't visit.

If he comes around, I'd leave and I'd not be holding back on why.

Fortunately when one of my male friend's friends started this, all his male friends called him names, laughed at hm and told him what a dirty old man he was. I respect that male friend (he has three DDs).