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✊Support thread for people who are exempt from wearing masks 😷

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ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 21/10/2020 22:58

Hi everyone,

How about a support thread for people who are exempt from wearing masks/face coverings for whatever reason?

I am not exempt and I am able to wear a mask when required so I am lucky in that respect because I do not have to endure the abuse that some people who cannot wear a mask are enduring.

I have seen two threads today (I’m sure there are tons of others) where the OP’s are being lambasted for not being able to wear a mask.
On one thread the OP has a lung condition which causes her to cough sometimes and she wears a mask until it becomes unbearable and needs an inhaler. The OP is clearly exempt but is fed up with the comments she receives when she doesn’t try and wear a mask.
On another thread the OP has both asthma and has experienced horrific sexual abuse resulting in PTSD. Therefore she cannot cover her face in any way with anything (mask, visor, scarf, etc) because it is understandably triggering. Or should I say most reasonable people would find it understandable. The OP has a hidden exemption and is often a target because of this.

Yes, mask exempt people could decorate themselves with lanyards and signs or even go a step further and have a t-shirt made listing their full medical history. But why should they have to? Why can’t they be given the benefit of the doubt?

Where is the compassion in some people? Why can’t some people just accept that we are not all the same and have different experiences in life?
What one person can cope with another might not be able to, I thought that was just common sense.

In my mind it is quite simple, nobody has the right to verbally or physically abuse someone because they are not wearing a mask. Bullying is generally classed as unacceptable in most places, why is mask exemption met with such hostility by some people? I just don’t understand it.

The examples of bullying I have heard of tends to be towards people on their own that don’t look like a threat and not so much towards burly looking people who seem like they could handle themselves in a fight. Just saying.

Can’t we just be kind to each other, if we can’t be kind can’t we just have a little bit of tolerance and if neither of those are possible why not just say nothing and move on? Why the tuts and why the nasty comments by some people?

We are all living through such stressful times, this pandemic doesn’t have to be made any worse.

Well done if you have reached the end of my ramblings. Thank you for reading and stay safe and well everyone.

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HeIenaDove · 21/10/2020 23:36

My friend works in the NHS as a cleaner. She is exempt because she is epileptic. It hasnt stopped her being bullied though.

Evenstar · 21/10/2020 23:42

Thank you 💐 I am unable to wear a mask and I really think things are getting worse out there, I am hardly going anywhere now because I fear being challenged.

VirginiaWolverine · 21/10/2020 23:43

I don't have the slightest desire to poke around in someone's medical history or personal life, but I work in a shop and when I'm monitoring customer numbers and social distancing it is very useful to know whether someone is exempt from wearing a mask, has forgotten to put their mask on, or is able to wear a mask but chooses not to because the appropriate response for each person depends on which group they fall into. So I really appreciate it when people with exemptions wear a lanyard, because it makes it much, much easier to get everyone else to stick to the rules, to ensure that we allow extra space for people who can't wear masks and to make sure that people with exemptions are treated politely and with respect.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 13:48

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starfish88 · 22/10/2020 14:52

I wear a mask as I have no reason not to but I support anyone who can't 100%. It's not my place to ask your reason any more than it would be my place to ask an amputee how it happened etc.

BamboozledandBefuddled · 22/10/2020 14:53

it’s about everyone

And if I thought there was any chance that 'everyone' was likely to hold opinions like yours, I'd be hoping that Covid really could wipe out the human race.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:12

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Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 15:13

doireallyneedaname so how does that work then?

Strap them on people's faces and tie their hands up if they pull them off?

How much abuse is ok towards vulnerable people to make sure everyone keeps one on.

BamboozledandBefuddled · 22/10/2020 15:15

You misunderstand. I would support letting the virus rip through and kill people in huge numbers if I thought a majority held opinions like yours. I don't think things are quite that bad. Yet.

guitarstringseadgbe · 22/10/2020 15:15

@ doireallyneedaname
You are exactly the type of person the OP started this thread about. What a hideous person

PurpleDaisies · 22/10/2020 15:18

I personally do not agree with any exceptions. The PTSD argument is the worst one, and that is coming from someone who suffers it, albeit not from any sexual abuse.

PTSD is not the same for everyone. FFS.

guitarstringseadgbe · 22/10/2020 15:18

@doireallyneedaname Do everyone a favour and piss off. This thread is not for you. It’s support for the people you don’t believe exist.

BigRedBoat · 22/10/2020 15:19

I see more people wearing masks under their nose than I see people not wearing them at all, I think people who don't agree with exemptions should make more of a fuss about that tbh.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:20

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BamboozledandBefuddled · 22/10/2020 15:22

@doireallyneedaname

Hmm... not sure wishing sickness & death on me makes you a very nice person!
You get the response you deserve.
PurpleDaisies · 22/10/2020 15:22

@doireallyneedaname

Still not a reason not to wear a mask.
Look at the actual governing guidelines, not the rubbish that’s just coming from your own head.
Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 15:23

So tell how you would make everyone keep a mask on?

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:23

Oh yes, because the government has done an excellent job of suppressing the virus so far.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:24

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Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 15:24

Still waiting.

frazzledquaver · 22/10/2020 15:24

The purpose of sunflower lanyards is to.indicate that the person wearing one has a disability which they may not wish to discuss, in circumstances where they need special considerations. If people find it uncomfortable to be challenged about wearing a mask, they can wear a lanyard. If someone challenges them about why they have a lanyard, that person is very much in the wrong. I feel very sorry for people who genuinely can't wear a mask or a visor as a) it must be horrible to know that people are abusing the system by pretending that they have a good reason to be exempt and b) because it must be really uncomfortable to know that you might be putting others at risk, through no fault of your own.

Caroncanta · 22/10/2020 15:25

Some individuals do seem to be getting more aggressive and violent about it. I think wearing a lanyard is a good idea as it clearly spells out that you have not forgotten your mask but that you are exempt from wearing one.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:28

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Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 15:32

If you think that everyone can wear a mask you are trolling or as I said on another thread one of the seriously stupid.