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✊Support thread for people who are exempt from wearing masks 😷

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ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 21/10/2020 22:58

Hi everyone,

How about a support thread for people who are exempt from wearing masks/face coverings for whatever reason?

I am not exempt and I am able to wear a mask when required so I am lucky in that respect because I do not have to endure the abuse that some people who cannot wear a mask are enduring.

I have seen two threads today (I’m sure there are tons of others) where the OP’s are being lambasted for not being able to wear a mask.
On one thread the OP has a lung condition which causes her to cough sometimes and she wears a mask until it becomes unbearable and needs an inhaler. The OP is clearly exempt but is fed up with the comments she receives when she doesn’t try and wear a mask.
On another thread the OP has both asthma and has experienced horrific sexual abuse resulting in PTSD. Therefore she cannot cover her face in any way with anything (mask, visor, scarf, etc) because it is understandably triggering. Or should I say most reasonable people would find it understandable. The OP has a hidden exemption and is often a target because of this.

Yes, mask exempt people could decorate themselves with lanyards and signs or even go a step further and have a t-shirt made listing their full medical history. But why should they have to? Why can’t they be given the benefit of the doubt?

Where is the compassion in some people? Why can’t some people just accept that we are not all the same and have different experiences in life?
What one person can cope with another might not be able to, I thought that was just common sense.

In my mind it is quite simple, nobody has the right to verbally or physically abuse someone because they are not wearing a mask. Bullying is generally classed as unacceptable in most places, why is mask exemption met with such hostility by some people? I just don’t understand it.

The examples of bullying I have heard of tends to be towards people on their own that don’t look like a threat and not so much towards burly looking people who seem like they could handle themselves in a fight. Just saying.

Can’t we just be kind to each other, if we can’t be kind can’t we just have a little bit of tolerance and if neither of those are possible why not just say nothing and move on? Why the tuts and why the nasty comments by some people?

We are all living through such stressful times, this pandemic doesn’t have to be made any worse.

Well done if you have reached the end of my ramblings. Thank you for reading and stay safe and well everyone.

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doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:34

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BamboozledandBefuddled · 22/10/2020 15:36

Definitely trolling now.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:37

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Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 15:38

I bet you also think everyone could talk, walk, see and hear if they really wanted to.

PurpleDaisies · 22/10/2020 15:39

@doireallyneedaname

I’m really not, but given you’re clearly part of the anti mask brigade I can see why you’d think that.
Rubbish.

Why are exemptions written into the guidelines of everyone can wear a mask?

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:39

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8catsaremycoven · 22/10/2020 15:41

@doireallyneedaname

Nope, you really don't need a name 👍🏼 We can all tell who and what you are without one 👍🏼

I'm incredibly relieved that my PTSD is imaginary and not a good enough reason for not wearing a mask, hallelujah, I am cured!!!!

Many thanks for this thread @ExemptFromMasksSupporter 💐

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8catsaremycoven · 22/10/2020 15:41

Forgot to say @doireallyneedaname I've reported you 👍🏼💐👍🏼😘

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Funkypolar · 22/10/2020 15:42

I do wear a mask, not because I really believe in the magic power of masks but because we’ve been told to wear them unless exempt. I avoid indoor places requiring masks anyway.

I have no issues with exempt people not wearing face coverings.

BamboozledandBefuddled · 22/10/2020 15:43

@doireallyneedaname

I’m really not, but given you’re clearly part of the anti mask brigade I can see why you’d think that.
No, I'm legally exempt from wearing a face covering. Perhaps you genuinely don't understand what those words mean. If that's the case I'll consider withdrawing my trolling comment.
PurpleDaisies · 22/10/2020 15:43

@doireallyneedaname

Didn’t say it was imaginary - I said it’s not a reason to go without a mask.
According to you.

Your medical/scientific credentials please.

Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 15:44

doireallyneedaname well if it's no exemptions then that is everyone wearing one, babies included. we just need to explain to them how important it is and I am sure they will comply.

Funkypolar · 22/10/2020 15:44

I’m sure one day it’ll be proven that masks don’t actually work. I’m looking forward to the silence from the mask obsessives...

JamSarnie · 22/10/2020 15:49

I can and do wear a mask in mandatory places because it's the law.

I also look out for anyone who doesn't and would happily step in if someone was trying to abuse them because of it.

By law there are exemptions so I have no idea why others think they are better than the law and want to inflict abuse on anyone not wearing a mask unless it is because they like to abuse others.

Thanksfor anyone who cannot wear a mask and has suffered abuse.

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ChaChaCha2012 · 22/10/2020 15:50

Such a shame that a thread for support has been overtaken by a bully. Please can everyone report her and let the forum team deal with her?

YellowishZebra · 22/10/2020 15:52

I'm exempt, I can't wear a mask so I haven't been anywhere they are mandatory. It has made for a very boring life since July, but at least I can't be accused of anything, thank goodness for a combination of my DH and online shopping.
I work in a primary school so I was very worried that they would become mandatory for staff, luckily they haven't and my headteacher is very understanding saying that if they are thenshe will send a letter out reminded parents that exemption can apply to staff. I am still prepared that if I face any abuse should they become mandatory I may have to hand in my notice.

doireallyneedaname · 22/10/2020 15:55

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Spikeyball · 22/10/2020 16:05

Some opinions are dangerous.

You still haven't explained how to keep a mask on someone who can't cope with wearing it. My profoundly disabled teenager for example.

ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 22/10/2020 16:35

@doireallyneedaname

I personally do not agree with any exceptions. The PTSD argument is the worst one, and that is coming from someone who suffers it, albeit not from any sexual abuse. Watching a vulnerable relative or friend suffer or die from Covid and knowing you could have helped prevent the spread would absolutely contribute to any PTSD if someone is already susceptible to it.

Your example above re inhaler, just take the mask off if you need to use it and put it back on, it’s not hard. Nobody has said people can’t take a breather if they feel uncomfortable.

It’s just so selfish - it’s not about you as an individual; it’s about everyone.

Saying that, I would never confront anyone for not wearing one unless they were deliberately coming close to me, and I certainly wouldn’t be abusive - I find that terrible.

I’ve just come back to see how the thread is going which I started to show my support for people who are exempt from wearing masks. I am saddened to see that this poster started as they meant to go on and has since had several posts deleted for breaking MN talk guidelines. The part where doireallyneedaname says ‘I certainly wouldn’t be abusive - I find that terrible’ would be laughable if this matter wasn’t so serious. They have decided to dish out abuse on an anonymous forum which really shows their character and what kind of person we are dealing with here.
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ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 22/10/2020 16:40

🙏🏽
Can we please keep this thread as a place of support for everyone who is exempt from wearing a mask.
Those who disagree with exemptions - there are plenty of other threads you can spout your intolerant and often misinformed views on. Please leave this thread alone and move on.

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ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 22/10/2020 16:52
Flowers Thank you to all the people who have taken the time to post constructive and thoughtful comments. Along with the kind comments giving support which was the purpose of this thread.

@8catsaremycoven - I’m glad you found the thread, I’m just sorry about the trolls. I hope you know not everyone is as narrow minded and obtuse as the few posters who have tried to derail this thread.

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Choconuttolata · 22/10/2020 17:16

I agree OP and am sorry for anyone who has suffered abuse.

DH has asthma and autism and is exempt, it hasn't stopped bus drivers from refusing him passage even with his sunflower lanyard. I think the only reason he hasn't received more stick when shopping is because he is a big guy who often looks difficult to approach due to his facial expression. My father is elderly and also can't wear them due to his lung condition, he tried and fainted in a shop.

I don't understand why people can't see that people who can't wear masks are actually more at risk than them in many cases, don't have the extra protection of wearing a mask and just keep their distance.

Whether you can cope with wearing a mask is very individual and some people with asthma or PTSD (like me, does not trigger mine as not one of my triggers) may be able to wear one, but not everyone and no one has to share their personal details with anyone to justify this.

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