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✊Support thread for people who are exempt from wearing masks 😷

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ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 21/10/2020 22:58

Hi everyone,

How about a support thread for people who are exempt from wearing masks/face coverings for whatever reason?

I am not exempt and I am able to wear a mask when required so I am lucky in that respect because I do not have to endure the abuse that some people who cannot wear a mask are enduring.

I have seen two threads today (I’m sure there are tons of others) where the OP’s are being lambasted for not being able to wear a mask.
On one thread the OP has a lung condition which causes her to cough sometimes and she wears a mask until it becomes unbearable and needs an inhaler. The OP is clearly exempt but is fed up with the comments she receives when she doesn’t try and wear a mask.
On another thread the OP has both asthma and has experienced horrific sexual abuse resulting in PTSD. Therefore she cannot cover her face in any way with anything (mask, visor, scarf, etc) because it is understandably triggering. Or should I say most reasonable people would find it understandable. The OP has a hidden exemption and is often a target because of this.

Yes, mask exempt people could decorate themselves with lanyards and signs or even go a step further and have a t-shirt made listing their full medical history. But why should they have to? Why can’t they be given the benefit of the doubt?

Where is the compassion in some people? Why can’t some people just accept that we are not all the same and have different experiences in life?
What one person can cope with another might not be able to, I thought that was just common sense.

In my mind it is quite simple, nobody has the right to verbally or physically abuse someone because they are not wearing a mask. Bullying is generally classed as unacceptable in most places, why is mask exemption met with such hostility by some people? I just don’t understand it.

The examples of bullying I have heard of tends to be towards people on their own that don’t look like a threat and not so much towards burly looking people who seem like they could handle themselves in a fight. Just saying.

Can’t we just be kind to each other, if we can’t be kind can’t we just have a little bit of tolerance and if neither of those are possible why not just say nothing and move on? Why the tuts and why the nasty comments by some people?

We are all living through such stressful times, this pandemic doesn’t have to be made any worse.

Well done if you have reached the end of my ramblings. Thank you for reading and stay safe and well everyone.

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ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 24/10/2020 00:42

Message to all the other thoughtful and kindhearted poster's. I will be reporting rubywooooo’s latest ‘classic’ comments and will continue to do so.

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ThickAsFuckingMince · 24/10/2020 00:42

Anyone else imagining ruby desperately trying to think how to get out of this one, when the only options are learn not to be deaf and have SN, or alternatively deaf people should stay in the house Grin

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ThickAsFuckingMince · 24/10/2020 00:48

It's okay, all exempt mask wearers! Just find a friendly lip reading person to accompany you everywhere! That's OK you see. Of course you're exempt then.

I'll lend DS out if people want? 50p an hour and I'll donate it to the Some People Really Are Thick As Fucking Mince And Need Help Not To Be

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8catsaremycoven · 24/10/2020 00:55

Hi all, just popped in to see how you're doing 💐

@rubywooooo please leave the thread as you have repeatedly been asked to. You are not bringing anything positive to anyone on here, you are not trying to understand our issues, so please go and post elsewhere?!

And NO you do NOT have the "right" to be on this board

💐💐💐to everyone else 💐💐💐

ThickAsFuckingMince · 24/10/2020 00:56

Shit, the time! I must go and sleep and recharge myself in readiness for explaining myself once again in RL, without using the word fuck in front of a child

Sweet dreams all. Thank you for starting the thread OP.

ThickAsFuckingMince · 24/10/2020 00:57

PS if you think I'm not "playing nicely" here you don't want to meet me in RL. Seriously, be careful who you question in RL for risk of upsetting someone, although you're the type who is too cowardly and does it on the internet instead.

ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 24/10/2020 01:00

Hi @8catsaremycoven - Nice to hear from you, I hope you are okay. Thanks for joining us in telling you know who to bog off!

@ThickAsFuckingMince - Sweet dreams to you too and thank you for standing up to the poster who shall remain nameless .........rhymes with doesnthaveaclue!

FlowersFlowersFlowers For everyone who is here for support and/or giving support.

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8catsaremycoven · 24/10/2020 01:26

Hi @ExemptFromMasksSupporter 💐, lovely to see how your thread is going 😊 Isn't it a shame that there's always someone who has to crash a thread?! I was going to post on my thread so that people could find yours but I'm worried that would encourage the nasties to come over too - there are some really unpleasant and unfeeling people around aren't there?

To all you lovely people take care of yourselves, and don't let the haters get you down ✊💐

ExemptFromMasksSupporter · 24/10/2020 01:31

@8catsaremycoven - It is a shame, I naively thought the haters would stay away but sadly it didn’t work out like that. The nasty gang just can’t help themselves. I will continue to swat them away like the annoying little gnats they are!

Take care too and stay strong ✊Flowers

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PhilCornwall1 · 24/10/2020 03:05

It's nice to see a support thread, but not a surprise to see some of the comments.

I certainly found the one where a poster asks where people are being challenged, as surely their illness exempting them means they don't go out.

I'm exempt because I have a condition called Trigeminal Neuralgia (the Suicide Disease) and anything that touches the right side of my face sets off an extremely painful attack, the pain is unlike anything I have ever known. Face shields won't work as that wraps around the top of your head, touching the temple, same thing happens.

I do wear a lanyard, but have been challenged/abused on many occasions, the last time almost getting physical. I've stopped going anywhere near shops now.

This whole mask challenging has got so bad, the receptionist at the GP surgery wouldn't let me in, as she (and I quote) "in her opinion considered I was a danger to the public", even though I have an email from the surgery saying it wouldn't be a problem for them. That was a missed important blood test and I'll never return to the place.

I would love to be able to wear a mask (not that I believe they are effective, but that's not the point) and I have tried, but within seconds was in agony. It would mean I could have as normal a life as possible, instead of pretty much withdrawing from life.

This whole situation is very nasty and it'll be a very long time before I ever consider trusting anyone again, not that I trusted many before.

PhilCornwall1 · 24/10/2020 03:16

Like I said I'm trying to understand so can any of you clarify if you have 'tried' to wear the mask indoors to build up to the usage? Simple question, I'm trying to understand ...

Yep, read my previous post. If you want, I'll get my wife to record a video of me having a mask on for a few minutes, pop it on YouTube and post the link here for you to watch it, but it wouldn't be pleasant viewing. Or perhaps you might enjoy it.

Willow2017 · 24/10/2020 03:55

They are ill, so don't want to catch Covid-19, so they don't have to go out shopping - everything can be delivered online.

Not all health conditions make you ill as in vulnerable to infections. How can anyone even think that?
There are 101 reasons why you cant wear a mask yet still gave to get on wirh your life. Are people all suppised to give up jobs, going outside, not contunue living as normal a life as possible with a serious heslth problem or give up trying to get through a life after extreme trauma?
Good God think about it for more than a nano second!

I'm just trying to understand if any of you are 'trying' to wear one that's all.
Give your brain a rest and stop trying. Its really none of your business at all.

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 24/10/2020 05:59

Some of the comments on here are disgusting - and say that as a member of MN for several years

We should hang our heads in shame that we have somehow normalised abuse to people with different abilities or conditions. I never thought I would see the day this happened. We have had decades of improvements - from toilets to paths to recognition of hidden disabilities - and now we are trying to label people with lanyards and allow verbal abuse.

It’s a strange world and I hope anyone on here who has written these things has a quiet thought in future months about their behaviour and galling lack of compassion

Liamandlee · 24/10/2020 06:05

Hi I wear a mask when I'm on my own but my son has communication issues and reads facial expressions as a way to communicate therefore when I'm with him I don't wear a mask. I have never seen such hatred for people with disabilities or other needs. I always thought it was a small pocket of people who didn't accept disabilities but this pandemic has highlighted the opposite.

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JamSarnie · 24/10/2020 06:48

Those trying to 'genuinely understand' aren't as you all know. They just say that to detract from the fact that they think they are above the law and can demand to know why you won't wear a mask for THEM. They might not have the balls to abuse someone in public but they will by text.

The best thing to do is to not acknowledge their posts however hard that might be.