TTC number 3 aged 42

[FiB83]

Hi

Not really sure what I'm looking for here but if nothing else I'll use this as a diary of my feelings etc. I joined a chat years ago for my first pregnancy and am still friends with some of those lovely ladies so hoping to find some people who are on their TTC journey and we can share experiences l.

As the title suggests I'm 42, I have two beautiful children aged 7 and 9, we decided to try for another baby a year or so again, I needed to lose some weight so did that although I'm still overweight according to my BMI but you know how it is... I'm fairly average at a size 14-16. I still have very regular cycles and don't believe I'm anywhere near the menopause yet....

Anyways, I'm 9dpo I think, I don't do opk or anything like that, tried one month but didn't enjoy feeling obsessed over it and it didn't work anyway..I feel I know my body quite well and am aware of the signs of when I'm ovulating if I am. With our first child it took a good 2 years with one chemical pregnancy in that time before.ewe actually got our baby. With our second child...well we thought about trying and then I was pregnant... Amazing how that happens isn't it!?

So here I am, 9dpo and with virtually no discharge at all. 2 days ago I had a huge amount of white cm that was abit stretchy. I've had a headache on and off and been soooo unbelievably emotional. This isn't normal for me but we are going through quite a bit with our youngest and other normal life events so may be that I suppose. I've had sore breasts and I swear they are bigger if that is even possible!.maybe just very slight cramps over the past couple of days but that maybe only.when I'm thinking about it...

Anyone else at this stage and fancy a buddy to compare notes? I'd love to chat.

Congratulations @FlapJackered !! I’m also keeping everything crossed for you! 😊🤞x

Thank you! I took a clearblue this morning and it’s very faint, but there. I think I have to try and distract myself now. 😵‍💫

@FlapJackered oooh congratulations! (And to all the other BFPs on this thread!)

@FlapJackeredthat’s a good line for 9dpo so keeping my fingers crossed! Congratulations!

Update on my weird test with a line in the wrong spot - my period arrived, so it was definitely a dodgy test

Thank you! Did another test this morning at 11dpo and it’s not dark but still there. 🤞

@january1244 I’m sorry your period arrived. It’s so frustrating when the test is faulty.

Congratulations @FlapJackeredhope it’s a sticky one!
I’m still in limbo waiting for my period. According to the app I’m late, but it’s saying I have 25 day cycles when I usually have 28. So frustrating

I’m sorry @january1244. That was a super weird test!

Congratulations @FlapJackered!

I’m hopefully 5 weeks tomorrow. I’m going away with my best friends at the weekend. One ovulated on the same day as me but her IUI was unsuccessful. She asked my other friend to tell me not to announce a pregnancy this weekend. I know this is to protect her heart and that she is deeply sad. But I’m hurt that even a part of her thought I could do that to her. Or that I would. I’m hoping it’s more of a statement of her fear of more pain rather than the sort of person I am. But then again, here I am feeling sorry for myself when I’m lucky enough to (hopefully) have a baby.

Just getting it out here. We’re going to have a lovely weekend and it will be a non issue. Has anyone else got nice plans for the weekend? X

Thanks @bumblebee413

That is really tough. I am sure you’re right that it’s all about her sadness and not that she thinks you would do that. I don’t know her situation but the thought of socialising at all when I was in the thick of infertility/miscarriages/failed ivf was the last thing I wanted to do and I ended up pushing away my friends because I couldn’t cope with it all. I am sure it’s just her wanting to have a good weekend with you and your friends, it’s hard to hear though especially as, under normal circumstances, you have a right to celebrate and share that with your friends, and also hearing it from your other friend, so I totally get the hurt.

That’s me out this cycle. Period has finally arrived, along with the nausea/anxiety that it’s caused the last few cycles.
Luckily my day off, but has scuppered my plan of getting to the gym

So period arrived for a couple of hours……. Little bit of blood when I wiped but it then disappeared again

@Bumblebee413 did you have a lovely time? I’d say it would just have been about her trying to exert control on the situation, and not anything about you.

@TheFutureIsooh keep us updated!

Period is definitely back. Very glad I went with period pants today as have a pale skirt on
Onwards to next month. Have ordered some lube that is supposed to help the sperm get to where they’re needed

It was lovely @january1244, thank you x

Hi all, congratulations @FlapJackered on your bfp. I'm apparently now in my fertile week again..these weeks seems to be going so fast lately probably because I feel like every month is one closer to menopause!

@TheFutureIssorry I missed your update. Ugh and thank goodness for the period pants.

Good luck for everyone testing anytime soon

Back onto peeing on ovulation sticks from today. Seeing how my DP is with my DD just makes me know what an amazing dad he will/would be.
We picked her up from the childminder yesterday and she just instinctively holds his hand as they walk along chatting away.
He is currently more of a dad to her than her biological dad is as he’s taken a job that means he is away for months at a time

That’s really lovely @TheFutureIs and he sounds like a really caring person.
I think I’m 11dpo today and I was going to test this morning but couldn’t face it! I’m not sure if I’ll test tomorrow or just wait to see if my period comes. I’m having some cramps, and feeling bloated and like my period is about to start.
How is everyone else getting on?

Fingers crossed for you @Sonic85

Thank you @TheFutureIs . I tested this morning and it was a bfn, which I was expecting. I think I will have a few treats and console myself for the next few days. I think it’s easier to cope with the ups and downs and disappointment when the weather is like this and there’s more to do!

The Sun shining definitely makes everything a bit easier. I treated myself to a pamper pack from Liberty when my last period arrived. Need to rein that in as that could get expensive 😂
Have you got anything nice planned for the long weekend? DP has his first cricket match of the season and its last footie match of the Championship so me and DD will be going to that. We’ve also booked into our favourite bbq restaurant for Sunday lunch. Working week needs to hurry up and finish!

I hear you on the pamper pack! I usually treat myself to something every month as a consolation prize (!) and it helps to have something to look forward to when AF arrives. But yes, it can quickly get expensive so I think I should choose cheaper treats!
Ah your long weekend sounds great! Hope you have lots of fun. We haven’t got too much planned but some friends are coming over for dinner on Saturday evening and then DS and I are going to stay with my parents for a couple of nights. They don’t live far away but they are in the countryside so it’s nice to get some fresh air and for DS to run around.
Not too much longer to wait until the weekend now :)

Hey everyone, we’ve all been so quiet, I hope u are all doing good! I just wanted to pop in with a wee bitta hope, 41 here, been ttc since Sept 25 so 9 cycles I think it was and finally got our positive this week, I must say id lost all hope tbh so still in a little shock and hoping all will go ok. 🤞🏽🤞🏽

Hey all, I was on this thread as Sa11yCinnamon. I miscarried last month, had a tiny breakdown and deleted my MN account so here's my new one 😅

I didn't want to wait for a period to try again, I'm now 8DPO but feeling like AF may start today or tomorrow. Have wine in the fridge if/when it does!

@DmcinT I'm delighted to see your news!! Please keep us posted!

Hope everyone else is doing ok xx

Congrats!!
So pleased for you and wishing you well.

I'm so sorry, glad you came back but do look after yourself and do what you need x