Friendly/supportive/sensitive thread 🌱

[Ladyinpink1]

Hi everyone, I was hoping to start a nice friendly supportive and sensitive thread. Maybe for those ttc for a while or after losses or just finding things difficult with ttc in general. I love to read others have had bfp's as it gives me hope, but have been finding some threads with alot of positive test pictures posted quite difficult.
Hoping to find others looking for the same as it's lovely to have a place to rant, feel sad, feel happy, get advice, or just obsess without judgement 🙂

I am 36, started ttc 2 years ago, had 2 mmc, and have now been ttc for 14 months since the last one without success. Currently on cd14 on a "not tracking"cycle. x

Hey, sorry I have been rubbish getting on here, this week has been so busy, so glad it's the weekend 🙂

@PoppyGirl222 I think dtd the day of positive opk and the day after is good but days before so sperm are waiting are good too... all of those if you can lol. x

@Vanilla90 it says it takes 3 months because it takes sperm 2 to 3 months to replenish and same for eggs 3 to 4 months. So I know I'm leaving myself not much time lol. Still waiting on my app. How is your healthy eating going? Just read more recent comment, sorry sickness is here, but it is reasurring that hormones are highx

It would have been so rude of you not to eat those chocolates 😆 @Figtree11 i'm ok thank you, trying not to hold out too much hope for this cycle because we have only started healthy eating etc. How are you? Just read your more recent comment, sorry you were feeling rubbish again. Hoping you get sone answers about where you are In cycle one way or another soon, i'm sorry for the cramping and feeling af is on the way... hoping that isnt the case for you x

@BGxxx I have never had it but know it is a thing some ppl get. Hoping you have time to dtd and catch the egg 🥚🙂 Did you end up doing an opk? x

Hi welcome @carolinep3 you sound exactly like me, I always have a new plan for the next cycle as it keeps me going and keeps the positivity for me. Grapefruit sounds like a good plan x

@Figtree11 I'm sorry AF is on the way. You might not get a BFP this time, but hopefully if AF does arrive you can move onto a new cycle. If you had ovulation symptoms this cycle, then it's looking promising that you will ovulate next cycle 🤞

@Ladyinpink1 what CD are you?
Oh are you taking it too? I'm confused, I thought it was just for your partner? 😂 am I getting the wrong end of the stick again!
My healthy eating was going quite good, but then I went to my mums and she had all the leftover Christmas chocolates and twiglets out and I caved 🙈 I hope you're being a lot stronger than me lol

@BGxxx did you test? 👀

@Vanilla90 No, you aren't confused , you are 100% right ... 😅 I only bought one box for dh but I was reading up on it and decided I will take it too to give us the best chance, although I now need to scrape my pennies together to buy more as that box is nearly finished. Your naughty mum lol. That was very selfless of you to help her finish the treats from the house.
I am cd 11 ...should get a positive opk tomorrow morning and then ovulate Sunday. x

@Ladyinpink1 @Vanilla90 yes and it was 0.3??? So i either already peaked and the bleeding was after ovulation or it’s unrelated🤣 I’d be surprised if I’ve ovulated though, hardly any days of ewcm this month

I’m freaking out 😔 AF is due, and I’ve been on/off cramping & lightly spotting since Friday. It still hasn’t arrived. Pregnancy tests negative.

Even though I’ve been diagnosed with pcos, I was having normal periods, just not as often. And now I’ve just had spotting in December & now in January. I’m so worried that something is wrong

@Figtree11 oh I'm sorry 😔 maybe if you're spotting around the time AF is due, it's your body gearing up for a period? Perhaps you haven't been taking the stronger dose of medication long enough for it to turn into a full period?
Can you make a doctor's appointment and discuss? X

@Vanilla90 thanks for replying. It’s because it’s not normal for me which is making me worry. I have in the past had 1/2 days of spotting before it arrives properly. But it’s usually 6/7 weeks between periods for me, yet I’ve not bled properly now since October.
I’m not sure if it’s the medication or not, but even when I wasn’t on it I had normal periods.
I thought I’d wait til mid week and either make a GP appt or email the consultant I’m under and see if she is able to see me at all

@Figtree11 why don't you do both, get a GP appointment and email the consultant tomorrow? Can't hurt.
How often are you spotting? Do you think it's happening each month when your period should be due?

@Vanilla90 yeah I think I might do that, but give it another day or so just to make sure it doesn’t arrive.
It’s most times I go to the loo I notice the spotting. It’s slightly more today than it was Friday. And got mild cramps. Yeah I think it’s around the time period would be due. In December it was 6 weeks after my last period which makes sense with timings. This time it’s 4/5 weeks since the last spotting, and 2 weeks since I think I ovulated.
I was feeling so positive on the Metformin, this has thrown me as it feels like it could be another potential problem to deal with that delays TTC again

Do you think it’s just your lining is getting thick enough and this is your period?? I have no idea though!

I’ve just done an LH test, super positive but my partner is away 🙃 love that

So anoying @BGxxx of course today is the day of a positive opk! But will he be back tomorrow? Asking because ovulation is normally the next day, then the egg hangs around for a bit. x

@Figtree11 Hey, I was going to say could it be a positive sign but seen your tests are negative 😫 Because you haven't been having a regular period, maybe could be your body gearing up for it or as someone else said maybe it is a really light period and then the next one will be heavier. Either way, I'm so sorry for the frustrations. I do feel like something that is out of the ordinary is good though, your body is doing something, hoping you have clear answers soon. How are you feeling about things today? x

So I get my positive opk on cd12 normally, sometimes cd13 and always first thing in the morning. But I am cd13 today and no positive opk or sign of it.
I feel like either i'm not ovulating this cycle or else because I stopped all my normal vitamins and started this new one that it maybe has delayed ovulation... It's anoying because dh is off at the weekend and if I ovulate through the week it's harder to find the time and energy for dtd x

@Ladyinpink1 no hes away until next week🙄 it sounds like it could be the vitamin if that’s the only thing that’s different?

Guys I’ve got the smallest amount of red blood 😮‍💨 😆 Thank you all so so much for chatting to me, it really did help calm me down. The cramps have really ramped up too now, so I’m hoping this means AF is fully on her way.
I feel so overly anxious about TTC at the moment, that anything slightly not normal is making me panic. I was feeling positive about the Metformin & so then this all just made me worry.

@BGxxx that’s good news you’ve got a positive opk, but it’s so frustrating when it doesn’t time right

@Ladyinpink1 i’m sorry you don’t have peak yet - it’s so annoying when things don’t happen like they usually should. I know what you mean about in the week - my DP sometimes works away the odd night or 2 and can easily miss peak then

@Figtree11 that's good! Let's hope AF is on her way, it means the metformin is doing its job!
It's impossible not to overthink things and worry when ttc.

@Ladyinpink1 ah that's so annoying. Let's hope you get your peak when DH is around. It's so weird how some months it can change, perhaps it is the new tablets? might be a good thing that it's shaking things up a bit?

@BGxxx oh ffs 🤦‍♀️ when's he back? At least you got a positive though!

@Vanilla90 hes away all week 🙄 so last time we did it will be 3 days before ovulation. Not that it matters much with my 5 day luteal phase 🤣

@Vanilla90 thank you, AF has properly arrived & I can’t tell you how relieved I am. I really am hoping it means the Metformin is starting to work, as I ovulated a week after starting it.

Thanks for all being so kind while I had a bit of a breakdown!

Thanks for the replies to my last comment.
I'm now on cycle day 41 and and am anywhere between 7-10 days late. Pregnancy tests are negative. I swear, if I don't either start my periods or get a positive pregnancy test in a week, I'm calling a doctor 😮‍💨 This is starting to feel beyond uncomfortable! I'm moody, I feel nauseous all the time (not like throwing up, but you know the yucky feeling in the back of your throat), I have trouble falling asleep despite being tired all day. No libido to speak of and trouble getting aroused. It's like the last two days before my periods, except it just lasts fooreeeeeveeer! Also maybe a little tmi, but my pee has begun to STINK even though I'm drinking enough, have no other UTI symptoms and haven't eaten anything out of the ordinary?? Now that's gross and weird 🤢
The wonders of being a woman, I guess 🙄
Hope you ladies are having a good one!

Hello everyone…needing some friendly support right now 😞 Was feeling good about my chances this month after testing using OPK and DTD around when I got positives. Have now started to get cramps just like I did last month which tells me my body is heating up for AF. I haven’t been trying on this journey long but the thought of just experiencing this every month until we’re eligible for NHS aid crushes me :(

Doesn’t help that age isn’t really on my side and I know it’s dramatic but my mind is automatically jumping to believe myself or my partner has fertility issues. Sorry if this all seems dramatic but I feel like I have no one else to talk to.

I Felt like this, I had a positive OPK, dtd 7 days is row, right through all fertile days and still negative.
I ended up looking for fertility acupuncture ( just wanting anything that might help) and turns out they are a fertility clinic. I've made an appointment for next week for the acupuncture but for a chat with them too and to see what they suggest. They do like a little MOT. It is making me feel better just knowing I'm going to get a professionals opinion even if I might not need to do anything else just yet

@Marvelftw its hard when you know all the timings are right and it still doesn’t happen! Are you trying for your first?

@Figtree11 yay! Here's to a new cycle 🥂
Very promising that AF has arrived and ovulation symptoms since starting Metformin! How are you feeling today?

@CabbageFan I'm sorry you're feeling crappy, that doesn't sound fun at all. Is it the first time it's happened, being this late and the symptoms?

@Marvelftw it's not dramatic, I think we automatically assume the worst. TTC is a stressful time and it's really crushing when you do everything you can and it doesn't happen. If you haven't been on this journey long, hopefully it won't be much longer for you 🤞

@BGxxx yes I am, think that just makes the worry even worse!

@Vanilla90 thank you so much, crossing fingers

@Vanilla90 last time I was experiencing something similar was when I stopped nursing. I had a birth control implant and suspected that it wasn't compatible with my body anymore now that I wasn't breastfeeding. Got it removed and all the symptoms disappeared within a week 🤷‍♀️

@Marvelftw I totally get that, it’s really hard when it’s unknown!