TTC May 2023 💝 Previous MC March 2023 (thread 4)

[Sez281]

I didn't realise the last thread was full ladies! Can't believe it took so little time but it's been a busy couple of months!

@Westy22
@Jadeypie
@xxcxdonxx
@SnookyPook
@Supertrooper101
@Hankthehonk
@HopeAndStrength
@DmcinT
@Paws4thought

If I've forgotten anybody I'm really sorry and please tag them...

For all of us who have recently got BFPs, all of those still trying and for all the lovely updates about new arrivals let's hope this lucky thread continues for us all 🙏🌈💝 xx

@Westy22 so thrilled to see your update, I hope you can hold on to the joy and relief that their wee heart is beating away already, and that the next two weeks go fast for you

Thank you @Supertrooper101 @Hankthehonk I'm back at work lol need to try and keep normality in my life. I do feel like I'm slowly coming down from such a stressful morning, I'm just going to relax tonight and keep telling myself everything is ok.

ahh we can count down to our appointments together 🤣 @Sez281 Xx

@Westy22 oh what a nightmare you went through!! So so pleased everything was fine and really positive about little baby's heartbeat xx

No update from me ladies seems like af is nearly finished already nice easy one this month compared to last!! Xx

@Jadeypie so glad to hear that it was an easier AF this month. Do you think the pcos meds helped? How long was your cycle? It's great if they are regulating everything 🙌

@xxcxdonxx and @Paws4thought hope you ladies are getting on ok with opks etc 🤞xx

@Westy22 oh god what a scare, I’m so glad u got seen and what a lovely reassurance to see/hear the heart beat at this early stage is it over 6 weeks they say u will start to have the heart beat so u might be a few days ahead which would be lovely🥰 lots of plans now for 2 weeks to help th go faster xx

That’s good @Jadeypie , sounds like everything is becoming a bit more regular for you.
Thanks @Sez281 no real update from me, no peak opk as yet but hopefully in the next few days.
Can’t believe you are on the countdown to your 12 week scan, where has the time gone?!

Oh this will be a busy week - I'll have my 20wk scan on the 28th!

I'm just feeling a little anxious again the last couple of days. It always seems to ramp up when it's been a couple of weeks since my last confirmation of any sightings/hearings of baby. I think I'm feeling occasional little movements but they're not definitive enough yet to feel conclusive so I'm questioning them. I do have the option to ask midwife for a Doppler listen in so I may do that sometime soon for a bit of reassurance. Think I definitely will before the scan if movements aren't more certain by then as the thought of going in blind with no confirmation since 16wks is a bit daunting.

Hope everyone else is doing ok. @Jadeypie glad AF was kind to you. @xxcxdonxx hope you get that peak opk soon. 💗

@SnookyPook id definitely ask the midwife to do doppler to put your anxiety at ease, your 20 week scan is coming round quickly.
@Sez281 can't believe you'll be 12 weeks soon too!
@Jadeypie glad AF has been better this time round :)
@xxcxdonxx hopefully you get your peak soon!

I'm feeling pretty down about it all at the moment, want to try again but I'm still testing positive and although its getting lighter I don't think it'll be negative by Friday which is the 3 week mark, ive tried phoning the epu to see what next steps will be and cant get through so stuck in limbo, I'll share the tests see what you think?

@Paws4thought oh that's frustrating for you. I remember just wanting the tests back to negative so I could start moving forwards again. They are definitely getting lighter but I do see what you mean - they are very much still positive aren't they. Worst case scenario would be some retained products I guess - hopefully EPU will offer to scan you if still positive by the end of the week just to check it out. They are definitely going in the right direction though so hopefully they might be a lot lighter again over the next few days and properly negative for you soon. It just holds you back mentally doesn't it while you can still see that positive. Sending you lots of love. 💕

@SnookyPook I got through to epu and they said if still positive Friday they'll scan and go from there, yeah if I was wanting it to be positive I'd be happy with it, I just want to move on now and can't.

@Paws4thought totally get that. That's good they will see you though if still positive later in the week. Hopefully means it won't all drag on too much longer for you. 💗

@Paws4thought Oh I'm so sorry, that's so frustrating and no doubt upsetting 😢 I'm glad they've agreed to scan you next week if they haven't gotten any lower. I do agree that it's heading in the right direction but it's so slow I can only imagine how frustrating it is 😣 xx

@xxcxdonxx hopefully you hit peak soon 🤞 did you try the preseed stuff?

@SnookyPook so you're 18 weeks now? I'm totally clueless but when should you normally start feeling movements but I thought it wouldn't be until like 20+ weeks. I should really start researching this stuff! 🙈 I would definitely be getting onto that midwife to try the Doppler again, she wouldn't have offered if she didn't want you to call and take her up on it, hopefully it will give some reassurance until the big scan 🙏xx

So I'll only actually be 11+5 at my 12 weeks appointment on the 25th but I think that was the only day they could fit me in. Will be booking,bloods and scan all in same day. The next one will hopefully be week 16. I've decided to go to Spain with my OH between 16 and 20 week scan as it's such a gap I figure it will be a nice distraction and also hoping that my nausea, cramps and tiredness will have well passed at that stage! 🙏

@Sez281 yep, 18wks! Movements might be felt from around 18wks onwards - possibly even earlier if not your first child. With my son I felt them at 19wks - it was really reassuring as it was just coming up to my 20wk scan and helped my nerves sooo much to be feeling him! The strong ones that others can feel were from around 25wks I think for me. It also depends on where your placenta is and baby's position etc. I think they say if you've not felt anything by 24-25 weeks then contact them for a check so there is a wide range of normal!

It's quite a distinctive feeling though which is why I'm pretty certain I have felt them on occasion but its not currently regular or strong enough to have me completely convinced... I'm still questioning what I'm feeling. Haha. It's exciting though! I just want to be more certain about it because I feel that will take another layer of anxiety away.

Ah Spanish holiday sounds lush. And I think that's a good time to travel. As I am right now I'd feel good for going away (and would welcome the distraction and chance to relax!). And as you say, for most people the worst of the symptoms have gone at that point but not yet too big and uncomfortable etc!

@SnookyPook i wish i had wrote stuff down with my other 2 feeling them etc. I remember the first 'bubbles' type feeling, just no idea when it was lol... online days loads dosent it lol from 14 wks onwards. But all depends how many uv had, your frame, like you say, where there positioned etc. Exciting but so desperste to feel it lol i thought you migjt have booked a private scan tbh lol but for the doppler, nxt best thing.
@Paws4thought i thought you had haf another postive then 🙁.. that had gone on abit hasnt it. Its awful what we have to.go through. When we thing its over and a fresh start. Theres somthing else. Am pleased there seeing you friday though.
@Sez281 getting your holidays in while you can haha.

Thinking of you @Paws4thought it's an awful wait, glad you managed to get through to EPU though and hopefully they will be able to check everything is as it should be and maybe it's just taking some time. X

I can imagine how the anxiety ramps up @SnookyPook definitely get the doppler, every little bit of reassurance is needed I think ❤️ hopefully you'll start to feel baby move more clearly very soon x

Love the idea of planning a holiday @Sez281 sounds good, you've nearly hit a big milestone which must feel amazing 💓

I feel like I'm slowly settling down in terms of anxiety and the nausea is starting to kick in...I dry heaved on the way to work this morning for absolutely no reason 🙈 all I want to do is eat and sleep. Sure the nerves will kick in in a week or so when I know I have to go back to epu 🙈

@Sez281 ive only used it once so far. I didn’t feel very nice using it but I’ll use a bit less next time and see how we go, if it does the trick then I’m all for it 🤣

A holiday sounds a great idea, some sunshine and change of scenery will be great for you and help to pass some of the time in between scans.

Those little kicks are so strange but so lovely to feel @SnookyPook , I’m sure it won’t be long before you recognise them for certain.

It’s horrible waiting for that line to fade @Paws4thought with my last it was 4 weeks before it had fully gone. It’s going in the right direction though so not too much longer hopefully and great that epau will see you this week.

Glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better @Westy22 Enjoy all the snacks and rest when you can 🥰

Thanks for your support everyone.
@xxcxdonxx that's good to know thanks, maybe it'll just take slightly longer, last time I had the negative by 3 weeks and was slightly further along so thought this time would be quicker not longer.

@xxcxdonxx I know what I'm you mean it is a bit of a strange feeling 🙈 but as you say whatever works 🤞

@SnookyPook that's reassuring that it's so distinctive and you know you've felt something.. hopefully as each day passes you'll feel more 🤞 I can't wait to hopefully feel something, that's a long way off yet though!

@Supertrooper101 how are you doing? Feeling a bit more positive at this stage I hope? X

@Westy22 sounds like your symptoms are properly starting now. I thought I'd got away with mild enough ones that I found manageable between weeks 6-8 but since I've hit 9 weeks they've proper ramped up, I have to keep reminding myself how blessed I am to be in this position and I obviously wouldn't change it for the world but it is a struggle 😣

Yeah I'm hoping by 16/17 weeks I'll be in the much better place that I keep reading about comes in the 2nd trimester 🙏, also May is a good time to go as it isn't too hot. I loved the break away for a few days last month so figure it'll be a nice distraction from everything 🤞

@Sez281 still got my guard up lol been stressing all day about the scan. Still got a headache now! but thankfully went ok. Was a trainee doing it aswell so took ages but was nice. So 13wks approx 😍 . Said my bloods for the testing will come back high due to my age. Cheers love lol gave me a prescription for the aspirin and said id already got one and she was annoyed i had already started it.....it came from there clinic lol
@SnookyPook if your still anxious, am doomed lol are you still on the progesterone or did that stop at 16wks?

Yes to 13 weeks!! @Supertrooper101 I can only dream of getting that far at the moment.
So much conflicting advice, what dose of aspirin have you been prescribed?

@Sez281 just going back to basics this month and wanted to check something with you. Did you start your progesterone 3 days after your peak opk but aspirin at a bfp?

@Supertrooper101 woohoo to 13wks!! 😍 Was that your official 12wk scan then? Also, was expecting higher risk at combined screening but came back low. Not sure what age the higher risk comes in (I'm 38)? Yeah I stopped the progesterone at 16wks. Was slightly nerve-wracking but also knew from my last scan that placenta was looking good so that helped. Must say, it's been nice not having to do it every day and not having gooey knickers anymore 😂😂😂

@xxcxdonxx av got 150mg (2x75mg)... the more you read on aspirin the more there is yeah. No idea what should be done tbh, some it works pre 12wks, others causes problem.. its a tough one. I like the theory around it tho.
@SnookyPook am like that with the progesterone, abit nervous lol what week was you when they mentioned the placenta? Was the 12wk one today yeah. Midwife few wks back said over 30 is classed as old lol and one today was just as negative... some of em are shits arnt they lol

@xxcxdonxx Yep I started progesterone at 3DPO (only 200mg back then) then as soon as I got BFP I started 800mg progesterone and 75mg baby aspirin (I have a feeling they'll up the dosage to 150mg when I meet the consultant at 12 week scan. How many dpo are you now?

@Supertrooper101 yay for 13 weeks 🙌 If 30+ is considered old then I dread to think what we are! 🙈 Are you having any symptoms? I'm trying to tell myself that mine are progesterone related and as soon as I come off it they will ease but like that I'm a bit afraid to even think about stopping just in case 😕 Totally jealous of the no more gooey knickers anymore though @SnookyPook 😂😂

@Sez281 😂😂

@Supertrooper101 it was my bonus scan at 14wks (after my bleed) that they mentioned it. I'd asked at the last couple and at the 12wk one they were still saying it was too early to see it properly. At 14wks on the dot they said it was there and looking good. And my consultant had already talked through the progesterone until 16wks being a precaution to ensure placenta had fully taken over. He did halve my dose though from 12weeks to just one pessary per day rather than 2. So I felt a bit like I'd been weaned off it too which helped psychologically I think!

Haha it is crazy. Think more Mums than not class as geriatric these days! 😂