IVF Buddies: the next chapter

[SarahShorty]

Tagging @Triselly @lemons44 @CR7 @Flowerlover010 @pongom @WholeZebra @TheBirdintheCave in a new thread as the last one stopped accepting new messages.

@CR7 absolutely! That’s my hope - but I can’t help myself worrying

Thinking of you @WholeZebra that sounds like such a terrifying thing to be told. It sounds like they will be monitoring you and your little one closely and will be on top of everything. How far away is your 32 week scan?

@lemons44 hello there, snap again. Our second round ended with nothing in the freezer too. I’m so sorry - it’s just exhausting and awful isn’t it. It’s great to hear that you have a plan of action for the next round though - what dates/month are you aiming for? Would you consider the genetic testing option some places do to test any embryos? I don’t think they do it at my clinic but I might try and see as so far we’ve had only had 1 embryo from 8 get to day 5 and that one they put back in the wrong place.

Our plan seems to be to just do exactly the same thing all over again. The clinic hasn’t offered any explanations or changes to protocol. I’m getting a bit fed up with them but we’ve got one round left in our package so just gonna have to throw everything at the same wall and see if anything sticks this time. We’re aiming for January as we just need a break.

Hope everyone else reading is doing well ❤️ (in spite of this storm I’ve heard has been bashing the south xxx)

@WholeZebra I'm sorry about your baby's kidneys that must be very worrying. Fingers crossed it's as your sonographer said and all is normal ❤️

@lemons44 I'm glad you've got some next steps in place! Your new consultant sounds really good!

I had my 12 week scan today and all is well :) Still measuring three days ahead. Baby looks just like its big brother 🥰

I also had my consultant letter in the post so we meet him on the 30th of Nov.

@TheBirdintheCave so glad that all s going well for you! It feels there is some hope...
@Triselly , what do you mean by they put in the wrong place?!?!?!

@Valentina1985 Our dr told us at our most recent embryo transfer that ‘sometimes the embryo can be pushed back a bit too hard from the catheter’ and that results in an ectopic, so this time they would be extra careful. As opposed to our first time where this happened and I had to have surgery. Which I suspected already as I’d done a lot of reading of medical studies and things as to why ectopics are higher with IVF, it was just mad to hear him confirm it. Sorry I’m genuinely not trying to give people more things to worry about. It just makes me feel angry in a way that I have never felt before.

@Triselly that does make sense. IVF really is more of an art than it is a science. That doesn't mitigate it of course because it has made me angry aswell.

@Triselly , this is essentially unacceptable. They admitted it was their fault?! Bizarre…

Surely the doctor can see where to put the embryo?

Morning girls, I need to confess I have been spending a lot of time googling about clinics, different treatments, reasons for bad egg quality, etc. I am still not sure about ARGC or CRGR or giving another try at Chelsea & Westminster. I am afraid the other clinics will try to do again all the tests and checks I have already done at C&W and delay the next round in several months... does anyone have an opinion and went from another clinic to one of these two?
I am sorry I keep sending these awkward requests but sometimes it feels there is nobody really to talk about these things. Given my age, nobody knows I am trying and my husband has somehow limited interest in the subject....

@Valentina1985 I used care in Manchester. Felt very looked after x

How are you all, ladies x

@CR7 I'm ok :) 13+1 now. Nausea is definitely on its way out and I'm planning to go back to my exercise class next week. Just need to find some maternity leggings that I like 🙄

How are you?

@CR7 doing okay! Still suffering with nausea and vomiting at 20+5. But it’ll all be worth it!

@CR7 All my nausea and cramping has disappeared. I don't think symptoms or lack thereof is an indicator of anything, although it is hard not to worry. I'm just dutifully taking my meds and sitting tight until the first scan at 7 weeks on 20th of November. Hopefully little one is healthy and strong.

How are you?

@SarahShorty My initial symptoms disappeared then came back again a few weeks later :)

@TheBirdintheCave that's helpful to know, thank you xx Can I ask when your symptoms disappeared? My disappeared around 4+5 and I'm 5+1 today (I think).

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@SarahShorty remember I never had symptoms
Xx will keep fingers crossed for you

@WholeZebra I'm so sorry to hear. Hopefully it will get easier xx

@SarahShorty About 4+2. Didn't come back until 5+6 :)

This is soo cool to hear! You are all there! Congrats!

DH and I are worried that the baby hasn't made it. The last test I did was with a Clearblue weeks counter and that was last week. The day of the first scan at 7 weeks is a day we have off work, so if it's bad news, we can come home and cry. This is by far the worst two week wait we've ever gone through.

@SarahShorty everything you're feeling is so normal and I defo found it harder waiting for the scan than the two week wait xx

@SarahShorty Hope you’re doing ok xxx I am sure your baby is absolutely fine, and as @CR7 said - this wait sounds absolutely awful. I have heard so many women in the infertility community talk about how the anxiety really ramps up during pregnancy and how difficult this is, I am sending you a hug ❤️

Would you have the option of going for a private scan, just to put your mind at ease?

@SarahShorty What day is the scan? The odds are in your favour that everything is still ok ❤