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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Whose trying to conceive baby no2 this year?

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Mummysparrow · 11/07/2023 20:01

I have a 2 year old and looking to start TTC later year. I made great friends on here last time when trying to conceive in 2020 so thought I would start a thread for anyone who is trying to conceive whilst looking after another child (in my case a toddler ekkk)

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RedRobyn2021 · 14/09/2023 21:30

Feeling sad that is not happened again this month, after my chemical last month I hoped so much it would be this month.

RedRobyn2021 · 14/09/2023 21:31

I'm thinking of buying some ovulation tests, are they fairly straight forward to use?

Bubblesandtroubles · 14/09/2023 21:33

@RedRobyn2021 I'm really down tonight too. No official sign of AF just yet but I've got all the tell tale signs that it will appear by morning.
So I've been eating my feelings tonight 😥 xx

RedRobyn2021 · 14/09/2023 21:45

@Bubblesandtroubles same for me. Might feel better once it's here because at least the wait will be over.

Confusedddddddd · 14/09/2023 22:13

Please can I join? DD is almost 18m. Fell pregnant accidentally in May but lost it as was ectopic. Currently 2dpo and it's our second cycle.

Bubblesandtroubles · 15/09/2023 11:56

@RedRobyn2021 any sign? I woke up feeling dreadful and like AF is so close I could practically explode but hadn't arrived as of last time I checked.
Did a CB about half an hour ago. Negative in the 3 minutes and a tantalising evap line when ive gone to put it in the bin but definitely an evap and way outside the timeframe. I know they're notoriously bad but nothing but clear blue available in the shop near me so just had to go with it.
Very much think AF be here by the end of the day but, if by some miracle it isn't, I think I'll stop at boots later and get one of their tests for the morning.
Sending hugs and good luck to everyone. Xx

TheDuchessofDubai · 15/09/2023 13:33

Hi all, another month of trying and another one where DH went away the exact day I ovulated... sigh. We managed it once the day before but it wasn't quality as it was 6am and we had work/nursery run to get to but it's something I guess.

Now 6 dpo.

Yesterday I had shivers and was cold all evening (even outside in 34 degree heat when taking dog for a pee I was wearing a jumper and not hot) and today I randomly had a dizzy spell when i sat down on a chair, so something is going on. But tbh I dont feel pregnant at all so I am almost 100% its not happening again this month. Last time I just knew so quickly because i was really tired and just had a feeling...

Ergh anyway - DH promised not to go away next month so patiently waiting for AF now and hoping she comes early so we can try again. Hope all of you are doing well...

lillyj9267 · 15/09/2023 16:06

@TheDuchessofDubai sorry please can you explain about quality? Are you less likely to conceive if it's rushed or not being enjoyed, or is sex just sex?

Bubblesandtroubles · 15/09/2023 16:06

@TheDuchessofDubai it does only take once though so you're not out yet!
I'm still very much AF spotting every time I go for a wee. Can feel it's just around the corner.
Agnus Castus does not help with PMS I can confirm 😩 so double whammy of being gutted we are another month away from a BFP whilst also feeling dreadful and right through the wringer on top 😔 xx

TheDuchessofDubai · 15/09/2023 17:10

lillyj9267 · 15/09/2023 16:06

@TheDuchessofDubai sorry please can you explain about quality? Are you less likely to conceive if it's rushed or not being enjoyed, or is sex just sex?

Not what I meant. Just didn't want to go into gory detail about the end of my shag...

lillyj9267 · 15/09/2023 17:18

@TheDuchessofDubai oh sorry also didn't mean to ask about the gory details! I guess I'm just not super clued up about TTC, on cycle 5 and feel like I'm forever finding out new things.

Just to be clear, does the enjoyment of sex by the man impact the amount of sperm produced? Not that I'm forcing my husband and I do hope it's still enjoyable for him... but we sometimes have the 6am 'come on let's do it quick before DC wakes up! Shhh quietly! Let's do it fast!' type sex

TheDuchessofDubai · 15/09/2023 19:02

lillyj9267 · 15/09/2023 17:18

@TheDuchessofDubai oh sorry also didn't mean to ask about the gory details! I guess I'm just not super clued up about TTC, on cycle 5 and feel like I'm forever finding out new things.

Just to be clear, does the enjoyment of sex by the man impact the amount of sperm produced? Not that I'm forcing my husband and I do hope it's still enjoyable for him... but we sometimes have the 6am 'come on let's do it quick before DC wakes up! Shhh quietly! Let's do it fast!' type sex

No I don't think so. Scientifically it's about a sperm meeting egg and plenty of people get pregnant after non consensual sex, poor things, so I don't see how that can be the case.

RedRobyn2021 · 15/09/2023 19:43

@Bubblesandtroubles no AF still not here it's quite late now but I think that's because the chemical has messed up my cycle, I have resisted taking another test today, it just makes me sad. I'd rather wait it out for AF. Hope you're doing ok xx

Confusedddddddd · 15/09/2023 20:18

Does anyone else have superstitions (not sure that's the right word), as in thinking if it worked the first time it'll work this time? I'm only 2/3 dpo so very early in the 2ww and keep thinking back to the heatwave we had 1st round so should keep warm, and things like I went skating at 7dpo so maybe I should aim to do that, I also got very drunk at a wedding so here I am with a glass of wine.

KM8 · 16/09/2023 08:24

I have a couple of different apps for tracking ovulation....even though they all have the same cycle data, they are all saying different ovulation windows by a few days.

Does anyone else have this?

FirstTimeMumma2021 · 16/09/2023 11:31

@KM8 have you input your fertile days? Normally apps work on the length of your cycle and then take the middle number as your ovulating days. Mines can be anything from 3 to 10 days out which would mean I'd miss it altogether if I didn't test to check x

KM8 · 16/09/2023 11:50

@FirstTimeMumma2021 My cycles since stopping my pill have been 36 days then 26 days so I'm a bit all over the place to be honest! But even though I've put the same data in for both cycles on the apps it's saying my fertile days differ, I've got some ovulation test to try testing with those to see it helps.
My cycles were always 28-30 days before but years of the pill has changed them haha one confused Mumma here!
One app says my fertile window starts tomorrow fingers crossed

Bumblebeemee · 16/09/2023 18:54

Ooh congrats to those with positive tests! I missed a few trying to catch up while I was in work 😂 AF due here on Monday but none of the usual pms symptoms yet. DS has had his first proper tummy bug so the last few days have been grim. No idea how people manage these situations with 2!

RedRobyn2021 · 17/09/2023 22:04

@Bubblesandtroubles AF come for you yet? I'm still waiting

Bubblesandtroubles · 18/09/2023 07:12

@RedRobyn2021 nope. Still no sign. Which means I'm ridiculously torn between holding onto a teeny shred of hope on the one hand. And willing it to hurry up so that we are on to the next month- but not wanting to jinx it by willing it not to have worked- even though it definitely hasnt IYSWIM.
I think the Agnus Castus has extended my cycle. Messed with my head a bit though! Xx

Bumblebeemee · 18/09/2023 11:17

I never ever ever thought this would happen twice. AF due today but I’m not sure I’ll believe it until I’m late. What are the chances of a chemical?

Whose trying to conceive baby no2 this year?
Twdfn123 · 18/09/2023 12:45

Bumblebeemee · 18/09/2023 11:17

I never ever ever thought this would happen twice. AF due today but I’m not sure I’ll believe it until I’m late. What are the chances of a chemical?

Congratulations, thats defo a positive! Although i would say it seems quite light for day of your missed period, but i know every test is different. Hope it sticks for you!! xx

Bumblebeemee · 18/09/2023 13:06

Thanks, it does seem too good to be true so I’m trying not to get too excited just yet. I’ll give it another day or 2 and if no sign of AF I’ll get a digital.

deliwoman1 · 18/09/2023 14:27

Congrats @Bumblebeemee ! That looks positive to me. I don’t think there’s any surefire way to predict a chemical unless you’re having bloods taken. Will have my fingers crossed for you! x

sunflower1988 · 18/09/2023 17:35

@Bubblesandtroubles in the same situation (ish!)due on in 2 days, all tests bfn but I'm still holding on to hope! Why does nature do this to us 😪