Ttc at 40!!!

[Av0bo55]

Well we have just made the scary decision to ttc at 40! I have an appointment for my contraceptive removing next month!!
We have older dc and it just feels like the last chance, before age well and truly takes over! Is anyone else here similar age? Have you managed to get that bfp? I’m nervous that we’ve left it a little too late!

[Londoncallingtothefarawaytowns]

@Lauraliverpool sorry I can’t figure it out but I reckon you’ll be able to Google image what the little calendar on the app looks like

[Lauraliverpool]

@Londoncallingtothefarawaytowns I did have a nose last night on Google, will have another look at them. Okay dokey 😁

[Lauraliverpool]

@Londoncallingtothefarawaytowns no worries, I'll have a look on Google.

[MinnieMin]

Hope it’s okay to join this. I turned 40 last month and we’ve been trying for around a year now. We had one MC six months ago, and my parent passed away the month after. Recently began trying again and I went for fertility testing as I have PCOS (and mild endometriosis) to be told all was okay, just keep trying. So on we continue. It was really reassuring reading the comments, thank you!

[Franklydear]

I find it very reassuring that I don't seem to be that crazy for still trying at 44

[HeyDuggeesFavouriteSquirrel]

I'm 39 and recently had a miscarriage.

Now trying to conceive again, I really want a sibling for my 2.5 year old son!

[IsabelHerna]

@DoorWasAJar I am sorry for your phobia! It's a totally normal phobia. How would you feel if you have a planned c-section? You can explain to your doctor and hopefully they will understand.

[mrsmb03]

Hi everyone

I was wondering if anyone is aware of the benefits of taking Impryl or have been taking them? I had a mmc in early 2020 and since then have been trying with no luck then when we were both off due to being both sick with Covid-19 we fell pregnant sadly that ended with mc at 10 weeks. But it was interesting that we got pregnant when DH was on his third box. Impryl was suggested by our fertility doctor due to DH low sperm motility. Impryl also works after at least 3 months of taking it. Now I am thinking that my DH sperm is now okay but it might be my eggs that's the issue so I wasn't sure if I should take them now as well? The fertility doctor just told me to continue with pregnacare conception but didn't tell me to take Impryl instead. Any advice/thoughts please? Thank you x

[Equimum]

Hi ladies, may I join you!

I have just turned 40 and we have been trying for 17 months. I had three miscarriages last year (12 weeks, 6 weeks and 8 weeks) and we are currently undergoing tests to see if there is an explanation. I am under the recurrent miscarriage team, but I had a call in October, a blood test in January and don't get the results consultation for those until the end of the of the month. Consequently, we have now gone private. I have bloods last week, have a scan this week, DH has tests next week and we have our consultation at the end of the month. Hoping to get a clear idea whether we are wasting our time as not sure how long we can continue with this journey. Sorry if that sound negative, but after the pain of losses, I think I just need to know if there is no hope.

[Franklydear]

Hello ladies, shit I am late, only 2 days but I don't dare hope after the losses, if you haven't scrolled back I am 44, been trying for number 2 for what feels like decades, no kidding, number 1 is 11

[Equimum]

Have you tested yet Franklydear? I have everything crossed for you!

[Franklydear]

@Equimum no, but will in the morning, I had the tiniest bit of spotting at midday but nothing since and got me nervous

[Cally1980]

Does anyone know if EWCM continues for long after ovulation? Test said I ovulated 3 days ago, dts 3 and 5 days ago, day 6 and OPK started fading but EWCM is still present ..
What to do?

[Cally1980]

Sorry if that wasn’t clear:
CD12 OPK -ve
CD13 OPK increasing (flashing smiley) -dtd
CD14 OPK flashing smiley
CD15 OPK solid smiley (plus cheap test solid line) + EWCM - dtd
CD16 OPK (cheap test) fading line no EWCM
CD17 (today) OPK faint +EWCM

[Cally1980]

And …
Does anyone here check their cervix position/feel?

[Franklydear]

@Cally1980 maybe you didn’t ovulate and trying again, ewcm should only be preovulation, have you tried measuring temperature to confirm? No idea on the cervix, I couldn’t tell

[Cally1980]

@Franklydear thanks! Time will tell I guess :) it’s such an unknown. I heard on a fertility podcast that body temperature was unreliable, but I guess so in cervix position 😕

[Franklydear]

@Cally1980bim afraid everything is unreliable, simply there’s no way to know but wait, but we do like to torture ourselves don’t we...

[Franklydear]

BFN this morning but no af either so, to wait

[Sunnierdays7]

Ladies if it helps re temperature when I got my bfp 10 days ago I felt hot a lot in the TWW. Sure different for all x

[HazyDays81]

I’m on cycle 10, AF due tomorrow. I don’t know if I’m imaging symptoms! Have felt slightly nauseous the last couple of days and felt weak/pale. Have also felt really hot at times. I might test at the weekend if AF doesn’t turn up.

[Annie078]

After 2 years, 3 MC & a lot of heartache, our dd arrived when I was 42 (conceived naturally) It’s possible, don’t give up hope ❤️

[mrsmb03]

@Annie078 Your post made my day, thank you ❤ I cannot imagine what you had to go through to be a mum. I admire your strength for not giving up. I have had 2 mcs the last 2 years and it's hitting me hard, I feel like I won't be able to try again. Did you do anything different in the pregnancy with you DD? Did you find out the reason for the 3 mcs?

[Annie078]

@mrsmb03 it’s a difficult time, our first Mc was a mmc and next two were early at 6/7 weeks.
I was referred to the RMC after Mc number 3 as I had to have a d&c, no issues were identified and consultant told us just to carry on.

I took a vitamin d spray, ubiquinol and in July 2019 I started fortnightly acupuncture, falling pregnant in Nov 2019. The acupuncture was the only thing I did differently, did it help or was it just a good egg? I really don’t know.

Be gentle with yourself, I remember too well all those feelings & emotions going through each mc and each subsequent month when AF rocked up. Just believe in the fact that it can happen, it just doesn’t happen as quickly at our age.

There was a lovely group on here, I dipped in and out of, all women over 40 ttc, I just came on last night to see how everyone was but it hasn’t been updated for a while. There was a lot of ladies on there, I think they were on thread #6. That thread really helped me, although often hard to hear of the bfp at times, it gave me hope and determination to carry on, so I was sad to see it hadn’t been updated. There were a lot of success stories on there & I look forward to seeing lots on here too ❤️

[Annie078]

@mrsmb03

This is thread I was referring to

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3976665-over-40-s-ttc-lots-of-baby-dust-to-us-all-6