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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Conception

Ttc at 40!!!

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Av0bo55 · 02/02/2022 18:51

Well we have just made the scary decision to ttc at 40! I have an appointment for my contraceptive removing next month!!
We have older dc and it just feels like the last chance, before age well and truly takes over! Is anyone else here similar age? Have you managed to get that bfp? I’m nervous that we’ve left it a little too late!

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Badhairday101 · 17/05/2022 19:42

@Poppyjen you will be absolutely fine! I know what you mean though, just a lot to get your head around, exciting but doesn’t feel real either.
My older ones are 20, 16 and 11. So although I’ve never had children close together, this is another level of age gap 😂.
I’m not sure when the right time is to tell work! So much to think about.

Poppyjen · 17/05/2022 19:23

@Badhairday101 me too , well two of mine are - I have DS (12) and DD1 (9) as well as a little DD (3). Feeling more than a little wobbly about the prospect of #4 now I have a BFP…but y’know…it’s crazy wonderful chaos already so I am sure it will be fine 😂😂

Badhairday101 · 17/05/2022 19:19

Congratulations @Av0bo55 and @Poppyjen! It’s #4 for me too, my others are all much older.
good luck to everyone still trying.
@Equimum that sounds so difficult, keeping everything crossed for you.

Franklydear · 16/05/2022 21:27

@Av0bo55 A friend of mine had that, baby is a month old, no reason to be a problem, but look after yourself

Av0bo55 · 16/05/2022 20:57

Late update here but I also got a bfp! Had scan today and baby looks ok but had a heamatoma next to sac so have to go back in a fortnight!

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Franklydear · 15/05/2022 22:44

I am 44, stopped trying but not back on preventing yet, I am just about late, can't bring myself to test yet
@Poppyjen congratulations, even if cautiously yet

Equimum · 15/05/2022 21:33

Can I join please? We have older children and started our journey for a third about 18 months ago. I initially got pregnant really quickly, but sadly, there was no heartbeat at the 12 week scan. I had two further early miscarriages last year, after which we took a break and had private testing. That showed everything was good so most likely issue is poor quality eggs. Have now been on a cocktail old vitamins and ready to try again! I'm 40.

Poppyjen · 15/05/2022 21:22

Another BFP at 40 here as well - we had actually stopped TTC (#4), so it was a bit of a surprise to get a super faint line yesterday when AF hadn’t arrived. Proper line on the FRER this morning. Early days I know but hope it gives some hope!

Ttc at 40!!!

Franklydear · 08/05/2022 22:12

Thank you @Badhairday101 it does give a bit of hope

Badhairday101 · 08/05/2022 12:52

I’m not sure if anybody is still following this but thought I’d update with some good news. I got a positive pregnancy test this week age 41 after 18 months of trying. I know it’s early days and could all go wrong but hopefully it gives a bit of hope to those that are having a hard time.

Av0bo55 · 15/03/2022 20:05

Hey sorry I’ve been missing off here a while! I’m ready to Ttc this month! I think I should be ovulating in the next week ish 🤞
Bit nervous about it in case it doesn’t happen as it did so quickly with my older ones but I was nearly a decade younger! So good to hear all the positive stories and successes!!
Also great to hear of others my age all Ttc too

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Fleur405 · 14/03/2022 20:33

I’m sitting here feeding my newborn who was conceived about 2 weeks after my 40th birthday!

Cally1980 · 14/03/2022 20:18

Oh and I’m aware it’s far to early to test.

Cally1980 · 14/03/2022 20:17

Well I’m now on dpo either 8 or 10 and been doing ALL the tests getting BFN obviously and also no symptoms except a few days of headaches but nothing today. Depressing. Haven’t done a test today but might later if I fancy more heartache. It funny how you just expect it to be positive.

OooohAhhhh · 14/03/2022 18:21

I'm 40 op, currently 17 weeks pregnant with my second.
Took me around 3 months to conceive, and even then I only tried for around 2 days during my fertile week.
All the best!

Annie078 · 11/03/2022 21:13

@mrsmb03

This is thread I was referring to

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3976665-over-40-s-ttc-lots-of-baby-dust-to-us-all-6

Annie078 · 11/03/2022 21:09

@mrsmb03 it’s a difficult time, our first Mc was a mmc and next two were early at 6/7 weeks.
I was referred to the RMC after Mc number 3 as I had to have a d&c, no issues were identified and consultant told us just to carry on.

I took a vitamin d spray, ubiquinol and in July 2019 I started fortnightly acupuncture, falling pregnant in Nov 2019. The acupuncture was the only thing I did differently, did it help or was it just a good egg? I really don’t know.

Be gentle with yourself, I remember too well all those feelings & emotions going through each mc and each subsequent month when AF rocked up. Just believe in the fact that it can happen, it just doesn’t happen as quickly at our age.

There was a lovely group on here, I dipped in and out of, all women over 40 ttc, I just came on last night to see how everyone was but it hasn’t been updated for a while. There was a lot of ladies on there, I think they were on thread #6. That thread really helped me, although often hard to hear of the bfp at times, it gave me hope and determination to carry on, so I was sad to see it hadn’t been updated. There were a lot of success stories on there & I look forward to seeing lots on here too ❤️

mrsmb03 · 11/03/2022 19:44

@Annie078 Your post made my day, thank you ❤ I cannot imagine what you had to go through to be a mum. I admire your strength for not giving up. I have had 2 mcs the last 2 years and it's hitting me hard, I feel like I won't be able to try again. Did you do anything different in the pregnancy with you DD? Did you find out the reason for the 3 mcs?

Annie078 · 10/03/2022 23:01

After 2 years, 3 MC & a lot of heartache, our dd arrived when I was 42 (conceived naturally) It’s possible, don’t give up hope ❤️

HazyDays81 · 10/03/2022 20:38

I’m on cycle 10, AF due tomorrow. I don’t know if I’m imaging symptoms! Have felt slightly nauseous the last couple of days and felt weak/pale. Have also felt really hot at times. I might test at the weekend if AF doesn’t turn up.

Sunnierdays7 · 10/03/2022 08:14

Ladies if it helps re temperature when I got my bfp 10 days ago I felt hot a lot in the TWW. Sure different for all x

Franklydear · 10/03/2022 06:19

BFN this morning but no af either so, to wait

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Franklydear · 10/03/2022 06:02

@Cally1980bim afraid everything is unreliable, simply there’s no way to know but wait, but we do like to torture ourselves don’t we...

Cally1980 · 09/03/2022 21:23

@Franklydear thanks! Time will tell I guess :) it’s such an unknown. I heard on a fertility podcast that body temperature was unreliable, but I guess so in cervix position 😕

Franklydear · 09/03/2022 21:08

@Cally1980 maybe you didn’t ovulate and trying again, ewcm should only be preovulation, have you tried measuring temperature to confirm? No idea on the cervix, I couldn’t tell

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