Over 40 TTC 2022 group

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Just that...anyone in 40s TTC in 2022?
First, second babies?
Just want to know others exist 😃

Thanks @Fod80 .

I don't know a huge amount about IUI but can share what I do... My friend (age 39 at time) had IUI and had twin boys, it took 3 attempts but I'm not sure about her fertility profile as such. She had IUI mainly because she was using a sperm donor. I know after the first two failures she had acupuncture for a good few months before the successful attempt to help her egg quality and she was convinced it helped. I myself then had acupuncture because we were struggling to conceive... had it for 6 months and finally conceived before xmas. It's expensive but I think it could have helped, never know for certain though!

41 yrs old ttc baby #1
Praying it happens for me this time after 3 mc

@jalu47 @Jomummy1013 @Iusedtobedontcall @Shasha2 congratulations. I know waiting for scans can be a very anxious time. Sending you all lots of magic baby dust that everything is going well. @jalu47 you’ve done everything you can and wishing you all the luck in the world.

for everyone TTC, good luck. And if like me you wind yourself up every month thinking you are pregnant only to get hit by AF again, hold on. It’s going to happen at some point xxx

@Dragon82 thank you. I feel so sick and my boobs hurt so I think all going well - 6 weeks 4 days now. I know that can change in an instant though. I hope you get your positive test soon xx

43 soon to be 44 ttc #2
On first round of ttc with AF due at the weekend.
Had spotting but then a bfn this morning

@chezvic this monthly rollercoaster is a lot, feels like a bit of a treadmill to me now!

I'm in the 2 week wait now...
@chezvic I'm also 44 TTC number 2....

Feeling a little emotional today ...finding it hard..been trying nearly 8 months now...

@meetmeinthespring here’s hoping that this is your month!
I’m out now for this month but it’s the first cycle of trying. Keep thinking I’ve left it too late but up until a couple of months ago I was adamant I didn’t want anymore

It’s so hard isn’t it and lonely. All my friends have had their families so while they are sympathetic I’m quite isolated. It’s nice there are forums so you know you aren’t alone on the journey. Some of the strongest women I’ve ever seen are part of this community. Stay strong. It only takes one lucky month and it can happen, even after months of waiting xxxx

Just an update from me - I had another scan today, slight progress in that an embryo can now be visualised but no heartbeat and I'm still VERY behind where I should be. I have another scan in a week and I think that will be the definitive one. This is going to be such a long week....

Stay strong @Dragon82 - it seems we are very similar. I had my first at 38, a little boy who is also just two, and I just feel our family won't be complete without one more. However, I do have some significant health concerns and feel that if this pregnancy doesn't work out it would actually be really silly to try again as some of my treatment is actually on hold at the moment - it kind of feels like my last chance.

@jalu47 sorry to hear about your health journey, that on top of TTC/early pregnancy must be a lot. I’ve got my best wishes that your bean is well and next weeks scan is good. God what a long week waiting, after your first week of waiting. I know what you mean about family not being complete. My sisters had her second baby and my son is besotted with the baby. Makes me happy and sad at the same time. This journey is a lot, but we are all strong. But it’s ok to lose it sometimes I know I do on a monthly basis xxx

Hi.

I’m 43 and hubby and I have been trying for 14 months.

21 day blood checks and thyroid came back fine, his swimmers are all good, sex every 2/3 days (more in middle
Of cycle) periods super regular, using opk’s and fertility cup and still, as yet, not a single positive test in over a year.

Anyone else have this experience and still fall pregnant eventually?

I’m so confused… am I not actually ovulating (even though doc says bloods indicate that I am) or is there something else wrong?

@Holls81 Welcome to the group!
Those are good results!
I'm 45. My understanding, from discussion with my GP (and too much googling) is that the overwhelming issue with fertility at our age is egg quality. Eggs that have been waiting in ovaries for 40+ years have often developed genetic flaws.
Sounds like you are cycling normally, and probably ovulating, but if the developing egg for that month is an imperfect one, it may not be possible for it to be fertilised and form an embryo. Or it gets fertilised but fails to implant.
It's a game of odds - we probably still have some perfect, healthy eggs - just less of them than when we were in our 20s. So each month, the chance of a perfect egg, and pregnancy, are less than they were when we were younger.

Please someone lurking 👀😆...who has had a baby at 44 tell me it's possible!

TTC number 2 for 12 months. DD1 is now 4. Conceived in 7 months but I was 39 then!

Anyone had success with Clearblue digital s? Are they accurate or so they make you miss it by a day??
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I have done my blood tests and all is good apart of very low AMH which I kind of expected, so not surprised i am not getting pregnant in the last 2 years or so. But it’s depressing.
I’m 42, trying for number 2.

@Holls81 is this your first?

How long are your cycles and when do you start using OPK's from?

Could you try DTD every day if possible for around your most fertile days?

@circleinthesands
its my 3rd. Other 2 (and one miscarriage at 10weeks between them) all conceived 1st month of trying. (Youngest is 4)
cycles are 28 days. Using opk from day 7 each time. Hope this is right.

@lizziecat1 thank you for your reply. That’s actually made me feel a lot better. It’s so easy to get so bogged down with every little thing it could possibly be by googling all the time!

Have you had day 3 bloods taken? That’s when they can check your baseline estradiol, FSH and AMH. Apparently, that will give you a good idea of your ovarian reserve and how hard your body is having to push on the accelerator to produce an egg each month. Like @lizziecat1 said, when you start to get to the end of the reserve (standard at our age), the quality of the eggs drop massively and most will not fertilize or implant.
Im in the same boat as you - 42 and TTC (DC2). I had no problem at 39 but my reserve is now low.
All is now completely lost though - my grandma had my dad at 45… completely unplanned, so it does happen!
IUI might also help boost your chances a bit and IVF… my fertility doctor said that when you get to 42-44ish the success rate of both procedures starts to even out (at around 10% or so) - slightly higher with IVF as you can test the embryo

@circleinthesands I tries the clear blue advance a couple of cycles ago. The issue I had with them is the No of error messages. Out of a pack of 10, I think I got three errors and when I finally got a smiley face (indicating start of the peak - but the “flashing smiley face” is the one you want as that shows peak fertility) the machine broke!
i have real problems reading the cheap OPKs. I get a surge on a couple of days at certain times but also negative results at other times on the same days so v confusing!
Maybe give them a try for a cycle but keep your others as backup (I’d run out so it all became really stressful that month!)

Thank you ladies. Xx

I am 42 and will be 43 when baby is born. I’ve just had a scan showing an 8 week 3 day foetus with a lovely strong heartbeat. There is definitely hope over 40!

That is lovely news! Were you trying for long?

I had an accidental pregnancy in May which ended in July in a MMC. I persuaded DH to try again and it took a couple of months for my cycles to return to normal after the MMC.

Then I got the positive test on Boxing Day. I feel very lucky.

Very sick also, but very lucky. I was terrified going into the scan because that’s where I found out things hadn’t progressed last time.

That sounds so traumatic but I'm so glad you got such lovely Christmas news! Wishing you all the best!

@jalu47 I know you might not want to share, but hope scan went well and everything is ok. If not, sending all the love, I’ve been there twice. You will get through this.