Over 40 TTC 2022 group

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Just that...anyone in 40s TTC in 2022?
First, second babies?
Just want to know others exist 😃

Just checking in see how everyone is going...I think I'm out again this cycle....AF should be showing up in 2 days like clockwork 😩
I'm wondering if I should get a pelvic ultrasound.
I had one at 39 just before conceiving DD1...and it showed everything was normal...
Could something have changed...

@Dragon82 it wasn't good news unfortunately, no growth in the last week so now waiting for it to pass. I'm devastated but not shocked at the outcome.

They are having to check about medical management and certain medications due to problems I have with my liver. Hopefully it'll all be over soon.

Think I'll be stepping away from this group for a little bit x

@jalu47 so sorry to hear this. Completely understand you stepping away. The medical condition must make things much more complex for you on top of the heart ache. Please try to take time for yourself and be kind to yourself. This has happened to me twice and to so many women. You are not alone x

Has anyone here tried mysitol and folic acid combined

So sorry @jalu47 my thoughts are with you. Twice for me too and it is absolutely awful 💔 sending love x

Just wondering if there have been any successes since January on this group. I was due to begin IVF in Jan but got an early BFP (spontaneous conception) a few days before. Should be 9 weeks but found out last week that baby stopped growing at 6 so waiting for medical management next week. Really torn though about whether to try again naturally, or go for IVF as soon as we can after the miscarriage. At 42, with low egg reserve, it doesn't feel like I have the time left to recoup properly, unfortunately...

Really sorry to hear about your miscarriage in January. I had two missed miscarriages last year, one in April and one in July (spontaneous conception). I got pregnant immediately after April miscarriage. I turned 40 last September. Miscarriage can be a very isolating place to be as I’m the last of my friends trying to get pregnant so they are not in the same place as me. it’s a difficult choice but if it were me, I think I would go for IVF. I had my son at 38 (after 16 months TTC) so I’m very lucky but I think that also means I’m not eligible for NHS IVF. So we are trying again for spontaneous conception but it’s been 7 months and nothing is happening yet. I guess a factor is how long it takes you to conceive. Sending you lots of baby dust

I had a MMC in July and then sadly had to TFMR due to Down syndrome in mid February. I’m 42. Both spontaneous conceptions so I’m trying again. I think egg quality is my issue.

@Iusedtobedontcall sorry to hear about your journey that sounds very difficult. Sending you baby dust xxx

I'm sorry to hear about the MMCs @Dragon82 and @Iusedtobedontcall It is certainly a different (and difficult) journey at our age. I conceived my DC1 at 39 first month trying but this time, it took six months. That, combined with low ovarian reserve and the MMC makes me think that my issue is also quality and the idea of having to go through this again is pretty scary. That said, I've been told IVF is only 10% chance (at a huge financial and emotional cost) so its really hard to decide which road to take as I'm not ready to give up completely.

I didn’t realise the odds of IVF are only 10%. That’s quite a surprise to me. I thought it was more 30% but I don’t know where I got that number from and perhaps that’s when someone is younger than our age group. I will keep trying for spontaneous conception

I’m going to try for spontaneous conception again too. Still waiting for the genetic karotyping from my TFMR in mid February. I was thinking of having some fertility testing done too.

@Dragon82 - Yeah, the odds aren't great but it might be worth pursuing if you're taking a while to conceive spontaneously. With my declining egg quality, I can't afford to spend six months trying to get pregnant, and then have another miscarriage, so I think we'll give ourselves two more months and then give IVF a try to see if we get any embryos.
The fertility doctor said that at my age, the issue is egg quality and that once you get to 42, the success rate for IVF and for IUI more or less even out (though with IVF it is 10% chance of live birth, whereas for IUI it is 10% chance of pregnancy as they can test the eggs for chromosomal abnormalities that might lead to miscarriage).
I found fertility testing useful in so much as you know whether you might have a bit more time to try naturally. But it can't predict quality.

Just wanted to post here as I've dipped in and out this thread but don't think I ever posted, I'm 42 and we've been trying naturally for about 12 months give or take. Just had my first positive test that I've ever had, 2 days late for my period. I'm very very wary of getting excited in case anything goes wrong. Just trying to see it as at least its positive that I've now had a positive! Figured that people here will understand feeling like that?

@littlegingerone tentative congratulations that's such wonderful news ❤️

@littlegingerone that is wonderful news indeed! Congratulations to you.

@littlegingerone Brilliant news! Congratulations!

@littlegingerone I can totally relate to the feeling of a positive test being an incredible achievement in itself! Congratulations, sending you all best wishes.

Congrats @littlegingerone this is great news. I think try to stay positive. Sure it’s early days but try to enjoy it, sending health and happiness and baby dust your way

Thank you everyone going to keep everything crossed and maintain a cautious excitement. Just debating whether to have an early private scan for reassurance has anyone else had one and did it give you a bit of peace of mind?

I had one at 8 weeks both times in my pregnancies this year and last. First was a MMC but it allowed me to find out early and second time I saw a gorgeous wriggling little bean. Unfortunately that time the baby had Downs but that was a 1/100 chance and just bad luck. I will definitely have an early scan again.

I found out I was pregnant in January and had an early scan at 6 weeks which showed a heartbeat. That was reassuring at the time but unfortunately a second scan at 9 weeks showed it had stopped growing just after the first scan. I was still glad I did it as my body hadn't recognised the miscarriage so I was able to get it sorted and had surgical management 2 weeks ago. I'm hoping it's worked OK as after 2 weeks pregnancy tests are still showing very very positive/dye stealers. Hopefully within the next week they'll get fainter.

I had one private scan - at around 7.5 weeks. I probably wouldn't have considered it if it hadn't been for the experience of a (much younger) friend who had recently gone for her 12 wk scan and been told that there was no baby, just an empty sac ('blighted ovum'). She'd had all the symptoms of early pregnancy and it totally blind-sided her.

It took a long time before my thinking shifted from 'I've conceived' (which I took as a massive positive in itself after a year of trying) to 'I'm pregnant'. Don't know if that makes sense, but it's how I felt.

@littlegingerone how fantastic, congratulations!

I came on to say that in the last six months my cycles have been 23-25 days…and I’m now day 29 and nothing apart from 2/3 days of v v light spotting that just maybe was implantation? I’m putting off testing for as long as possible, just want to enjoy the “maybe I am pregnant” whilst I can. I’m 43.5 now, so it probably will be negative but…maybe…

Really appreciate the congratulations and the experiences people have shared. I think I will book the private scan just to break up the wait to 12 weeks and just cautiously enjoy any little milestones we make it to.
@pitterypattery00 that's exactly what I've been thinking, I wonder if I'd get to a point of feeling pregnant rather than just managed to conceive, it's like it's safer to see it as a medical / bodily function for now?
@AlwaysAlba fingers and everything crossed for you xx