TTC 35+ thread 11

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New thread! I dunno how to tag everyone from the other thread 🤣

@notyetamumbuttrying just wanted to say thinking of you today, and hope all goes well lovely! X

Thanks @Marvellouslymadmum xx I’m always lurking in the shadows 😂 trying not to get hopes up on latest test. Will pick up a more sensitive test tomorrow and see where that gets me.. 😬

@KatRee Ah I see. What happens next for you, will they do surgery to clear the tube?

Thank you @Marvellouslymadmum, yes and because the apps are confused I don’t know when to expect AF! Not even sure if I’m in the tww 🤪 Therefore have very low expectations for this cycle..!

@Misty84 I'm exactly the same! I could be in the tww but probably not, af may turn up at some point and we've dtd so much oh is now in pain so if I haven't ov'd yet we will probably miss it! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 you're so sweet for remembering! Yes all went well thanks. I have an embryo on board 🥳
Need to nap now as barely got any sleep from worrying about it all!

@Misty84 I'm not sure atm. We had SA and blood samples taken on same day and we're going to have a follow-up consultation next week once the doctor's had a look at all those results. He thought based on my AFC that I may have low ovarian reserve, so I think if the AMH suggests the same he may well recommend we go straight to ivf. From what I've read online it seems surgery doesn't have very high success rates and could mean a few cycles out to recover and I guess I may not have oodles of time to wait around. I've read all sorts online re having one blocked tube though, from shouldn't really have much impact on fertility at all to downright horror stories. Sorry for the stream of consciousness my head is spinning a bit

Hoping for positive outcomes for all of us who are struggling soon x

@notyetamumbuttrying 🎉 great news! Was also wondering how you were getting on today- so nice to hear x

@KatRee aw I bet it is hun. I'm sure they'll recommend ivf for you as then it'll bypass the tubes anyway! Thank you for thinking of me too, very sweet of you. Turns out I can't sleep still, so frustrating 😣

Hey @Misty84! Yes, that family situation is a tough one. I hope it’s improved a bit! And yeah - I posted on a step-parenting thread and had some of the meanest responses ever! Never again!

I also understand about the BFPs. There was quite a flurry so if it’s a bit like salt in the wound there’s no shame in stepping away for a bit. Self-preservation is the most important thing!!

Acupuncture changed my life. Seriously!! Xx

@KatRee I can totally understand that your head is spinning. What was your AFC?
I have low ovarian reserve so you can come to me if that ends up being the case- I hope not though 🌸

That’s brilliant @notyetamumbuttrying, so exciting and I really hope it works out!!

@Geriatric1234 It has thanks, I phoned my cousin that evening to clear the air about everything. We would never want to lose each other over this! My parents still not happy unfort. But I’ll be going to the wedding! I was so overwhelmed by the number of responses though, I had over 250 messages by the time I arrived at work! Found all the input very useful and I got off very lightly compared to some of the other AIBU threads where the comments can be savage!!

@GuessHowMuch so very sorry for your early loss, that's very tough. Hope you are ok x

@Marvellouslymadmum do you also use OPKs? That's v confusing! I'm useless at BBT so no pearls of wisdom, I'm afraid 😬 hopefully it becomes clearer soon.

@notyetamumbuttrying that is SO exciting!! Keeping everything crossed for the next two weeks for you. Did you have full ivf or mild, natural etc? Xx

@Misty84 thank you 😊 I never saw your AIBU thread. What was the title? I'm glad you've cleared the air and that you're going.
@ElsieG3m thank you 😊 full ivf so have been injecting for weeks now and had all the scans, egg collection and now on the pessaries. It's been a long slog but hopefully worth it!

@notyetamumbuttrying oh bless you that is one tough slog. Really wishing you all the best and hoping for good news in a few weeks' time xx

@ElsieG3m thank you 😊 🤞🏾

Ffs well after a faint positive this morning I've started spotting 😩
My head is all over the place, on one hand I'm thinking it could be a positive sign of implantation but I also know that today (CD25) is a common day for AF to start but on the shorter months it's usually when I've ovulated earlier too. AF is usually around 13 DPO, today is 10 DPO.
I know that only time will tell, I will do another test in the morning and see if bleeding develops.
I just feel gutted though, I know I shouldn't as it's not conclusive but similar happened a few months ago, faint positives and then started my period.
On the other hand I bled for the first few weeks of being pregnant with DS, that's why I didn't find out until I was 7 weeks, I kept thinking period was about to start.
I've had to just take myself off to my bedroom for some peace and quiet, DS is autistic/ADHD and I usually have all the patience in the world for him but he's on a high today and the talking is incessant, if I hear another "Mum when can we do X,Y&Z" again I'm going to scream! I have too many thoughts going round in my head to deal with more questions. I just need quiet to deal with all these thoughts and feelings 🥲

@Magnum99 oh lovely, I'm so sorry, that's really difficult. You don't know yet that it's bad news - it could be a little breakthrough bleeding. I hope you can have a quiet cup of tea for a bit and allow yourself some time. Just wait and see what happens - it might be good news in the end especially if this happened in your first pregnancy. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

Urgh @Magnum99 that’s really discombobulating. Hope you’ve managed to get 5 minutes peace to mull things over. Time will tell but it sounds like it isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Xx

Exciting @notyetamumbuttrying!! Xx

How are you doing @Noodella18? Xx

@notyetamumbuttrying Did they grade the embryo that they implanted? (apologies if I’ve got the terminology wrong here🙃, just wondering if you know what the quality is)

@Magnum99 So sorry. It’s so difficult with early testing, can really get the hopes up😔I hope there’s still a chance for you🤞

@Marvellouslymadmum @KatRee @ElsieG3m well ladies it must've been an evap line cause AF started this morning! Cramps and all. Feeling ok about it. At least I didn't go out and spend more on tests! And I hate being in limbo so on to the next cycle I guess..

@notyetamumbuttrying that’s so exciting! I so hope you get some good news in a couple of weeks. How are you feeling? I think I’d probably have trouble sleeping too!

@Misty84 glad you’re doing ok. There were loads of BFPs and, on the one hand, it’s great because it gives you a little bit of hope, especially seeing people that have been struggling get a BFP. But it’s also a total head mash and leads to lots of different feelings. You’re still on a journey that, no matter how resilient you are, can have a really negative impact on mental health. I’m sorry things have been hard 🌷

@Magnum99 hope you’re doing ok. Must be really worrying.

So sorry @Farfaraway1 - TTC is rubbish 😔

@Farfaraway1 oh I'm sorry - that's rubbish 😢 a chemical maybe? So sorry again x

@Misty84 no you're completely right and yes they did. It was top quality hatching 5AA!! So they were pleased with that. I'll ask about the others on tomorrow's call.
@Farfaraway1 aw sorry AF started, never gets any easier!
@GuessHowMuch thank you! Feel ok at mo thanks. Managed a nap earlier! How are you?

@notyetamumbuttrying That’s fantastic that it’s top quality! What’s your secret, any tips for us?😉

As I was saying earlier I’m not even sure I’ve ovulated this month due to no bbt rise, but I don’t have the energy to get worried about it, as IVF is starting in 2 months anyway. They can try and sort all my issues out! I’m looking forward to someone else being in charge!

So sorry @Farfaraway1. It’s so cruel xxx