🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 5 🦕

[ELM7]

On to thread 5 Ladies!

@Annny27
@Nuggetlover27
@27DONFIN
@Babyghirl

Please tag anyone I’ve missed from the old thread.

I’m currently enjoying my first glass of wine in about 10 weeks. Will happily give up alcohol for a baby but no baby I need alcohol 😂

Really hope that’s the start of a BFP for you @Babyghirl let us know when you test in the morning.

@Annny27 Sorry it looks like AF has arrived.

@Nuggetlover27 Fingers crossed for a positive FW

@happygolucky20 sorry you find yourself here 💕 personally the best thing I did was stop using ovulation tests I felt it was just another daily reminder that it wasn’t happening for us and feeding into the feeling of being consumed by it all. I just go by CM and a week after my period I try make sure we dtd ever 2nd day.....not that it’s having much luck for us. But I don’t feel as emotional all month. Our Gp was the one who said to stop the tests and my partner agreed x

@happygolucky20
My advice throw them out I have fell 4 times nt using them I have lost all 4 but the relax approach is the best thing you can do if u want to track take your temp I'm so sorry you find yourself here amoung the nut house but it's the best house you can be the support is amazing xx

Thank you @27DONFIN and @Babyghirl. We threw the tests out this month and wont be repurchasing.

Can I ask @27donfin, how long have you been trying? We fell first month with the baby we mc'd so I am just so confused why after 8 months we are still not pregnant. Everyone just keeps saying "just relax, stop trying and it will happen" - how? How do we do this? haha

@babyghirl I am so sorry for your loses!!! Some months I am "relaxed" well I think i am :) I think I am for the first week and then that last week before the AF i become focused on it again.

@happygolucky20 I fell after 3 months the first time.....and now 15 months later and no bfp! It can really vary :(

@babyghirl haha the suspense 😂 I just cant face another negative so dont want to teat anymore haha

@27donfin yep when my boobs deflate I am always expecting af!

@27DONFIN sorry AF arrived. Hope you are doing ok.

@Babyghirl as wrong as it sounds glad AF has arrived for you as it’s a reset for you.

@Annny27 really hope AF doesn’t show and that you get your BFP in the next couple of days.

So I had my phone call with Gynaecology Dept yesterday and quite honestly was a waste of time and felt really shit afterwards. She didn’t listen at all and just kept saying that we’d conceived twice in a year so no fertility issues I kept correcting her and saying it took 8mths the first time and over a year the second time and she didn’t have DH SA results so has no idea if there are any issues there.
She also was very matter of fact that the double uterus does increase chance of miscarriage but that there is nothing they can do about it even saying if we were to have ivf we could still just end up miscarrying. She also said they could do a MRI to check exactly what my anatomy was like (as not sure I have 2 cervix) but she was like what’s the point as we can’t do anything about it. So just made me think what’s the point in trying if we will just loose the baby every time.

The only thing she did say was to loose weight (which I’m already working on having lost 2 and a half stone in the last 6mths) and to take 150mg aspirin a day (everyday) as that can help reduce the risk of miscarriage. Plus folic acid despite me telling her I’d been taking it for the last 2 years (I was talking to myself it felt like)

Sorry long rant. x

@happygolucky20
When people said to me relax it will happen I use to laugh but I can honestly say it really did from my loss in oct 219 I temp and that to August 2020 and stopped I fell the month after and lost on Oct again from I lost fell again in Jan I never took temp or anything so hand on heart I can say the relax approach is the best way to go it's hard been there 4 times but I will be taking the relax approach from now on in xx

@ELM7 omg Iv frustrated for you just after reading that. Where are you left at now? Waiting on sperm sample results? 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Well done you that’s brilliant. I’m trying to do the same don’t want to go back to gp and be told no can’t help till you lose weight struggling to get to my first stone tho hoping in the next two weeks I will have.

@happygolucky20 we too fell pregnant first month trying and I mc at only 6 weeks. I was so upset we had told my mum I was pregnant which I was so scared to do as we aren’t married and my mum is very traditional and devote catholic after the initial shock she was great we went out for dinner talked all baby things then we went back to her house and I went to the toilet and the bleeding started. This was August 2019 and as yet Iv never fell pregnant again. We haven’t tried consistently each month since then. I didn’t handle it well I had suddenly lost my dad two months before hand and it was all just too much. I was all for keep trying straight away I just wanted something positive to happen but my partner said no he didn’t think it was healthy for me and so we waited till the start of last year. We started having some tests at the end of last year but when my partner got his results the gp said to bin the tests stop tracking and just have regular sex and give it a year. So that’s what we are doing. It’s definitely helping me as I was so consumed all of last year snd it was affecting our relationship. We also bought a puppy last year and he’s been the best distraction from it all x

@27DONFIN she just written us off and said keep trying.
DP had his SA done in Nov the month we conceived so our GP has his results but they didn’t seem to have them at the hospital. I’ve asked him to call GP and asked him to get the numbers as we think they said that one was a bit low but they were like it doesnt matter now as I was pregnant. I’ve got him on vitamins and he is trying to loose some weight with me.

Ahh good luck on the weight loss. It’s so hard and takes so long sometimes but slow and steady is the way to go. x

@ELM7
Sorry bot the gynecologist how rude of her to say all that, deffo nt nice hear that she could of been more helpful in the matter hope you can change and fine someone else willing to help I knw they see it every day and hear it all the time but everyone is different and still need to be treated so. 💚💚

@ELM7 yeah felt like it took a lot longer to get my partners results plus with males results I feel it depends who you speak to on how they interrupt results. Some say certain measurements are good another says they should be better it’s a mind field

Bfn at 15dpo. So over this!

Period will probs arrive tomorrow 😥

@ELM7 that's really rubbish how dismissive they are! It can totally help to get a diagnosis because atleast then if you do ivf they will have a better understanding if theres 2 cervixes/ a complete split!

Sorry that they were dismissive :(

Oh @Annny27 I’m sorry it was negative.
I was so sure you were going to be getting your BFP this month. Sending big hugs. x

Thank you 💚 @ELM7 I feel totally hopeless tbh

I am having the tubes test next month. They say ring on first day of period but tempted to ring today as I know it's coming tomorrow now

Okay had a massive cry, burst a blood vessel in my eye (joy) haha

I am thinking I have endometriosis tbh (see @fizzl.....I have moved on from ovarian failure now;) 😂)

But it's not normal to have spotting or stuff like that for so long!

@Annny27
So sorry it was a nagitive phone them today and book it in fingers crossed that if you get the tube test it happens for u after as I have heard so many positives from people who got it done, I think my fertility specialist might say to me but getting it done to look inside my urters more than anything else 💚

@Annny27
😂😂😂😂 I just think my urters is hopeless llf but going to mention at my app bot midwife telling me I had a heart shape uterus to c if that could be the cause cause if the baby in plants in the dip no blood flows there as its dead tissue.

@ELM7 sorry to hear how rubbish they were!! Is there anyone else you can see instead? I changed hospitals after my first miscarriage and the care at the second hospital was miles apart from the first ones who were rude and dismissive of me.

Really struggling with my second miscarriage I’m coming up to a year from when we decided to start TTC and it just feels so unbearably sad. I hate the fact they just say “bad luck try again” I need something to work on/feel like I can improve even though I know misscarraige isn’t caused by anything we do. It’s just such a confusing time, so many emotions and so overwhelming. I’ve ordered some different fertility supplements, the wild nutrition ones. The nurse mentioned I had PCO although another said she didn’t think it was PCOS, so I’m just going to treat myself as if I do have PCOS and really clean up my diet, less white carbs, more vegetables. It’s making me feel a little more in control.

I’ve got some roses arriving today to plant in rememberance of the two babies

@Annny27 so sorry it’s a bfn 💕 at least when it starts it means you’re a step closer to some more tests which hopefully will have some answers for you c

@Babyghirl I took one of these a day
www.hollandandbarrett.com/shop/product/holland-barrett-vitamin-b6-tablets-100mg-60000650

Then also took the Seven Seas trying for a baby tablets. I put my DP on the Wellman conception tablets and told him not to have any more than the recommended 14 units a week of alcohol! Again I have no idea of any of these are what did it!

Also the B6 I took all the time, before and after the BFP ❤️

@terribleimagination
Thank you very much will have a look and get myself some anything to try and help the progesterone levels. Hoping the fertility consultant will give me progesterone at my nxt app to take following a bfp also think he will give me clomid to help with egg quality 🤞🙏 💚.

@Annny27 sorry to hear about the bfn :( Don't give up just yet though. I had my tube checked in January and just a little warning as I was completely unaware (!!!) it is quite painful so have some painkillers to take and defo take a pad for after. I had no idea and almost went in skipping as I was so excited to have the test, I was adamant my tubes were the issue, that I went into a bit of shock after. Drove home from London on my own thinking "how/why did I not read up on this" haha

@MrsF111 sorry to hear you are struggling today.

Does anyone else take B Complex? Since our mc I have spotted super lightly for five days before my AF (never happened before) and read that it helped with that too...So far I am 48 hrs late on the spotting, AF should arrive at the weekend. The consultant we saw said it was nothing to worry about but seems a bit strange that we got pregnant first time and now we cant and I have this bizarre nothingness spotting - who knows!

@mrsF111
Sorry to read your struggling today big virtual hugs to you 💚
@happygolucky20
I was just reading up on vitamin b6 and some where saying it stopped the spotting also helps with progesterone if it's low that's why u could be spotting because of low progesterone have a read on it 💚

Period arrived literally an hour after POAS 😂😂😂

I am always so hormonal and dramatic about ttc when she arrives and then I slowly get over myself!

So I rang the clinic they said I can only get the test this month on the 8th april...Way after ovulation OR I can try again next month and hope they can offer me a pre ovulation hycosy? So that atleast we dont have to miss a month of trying. What would you ladies do?

@happygolucky20 I also now only get 5 days of spotting since my miscarriage! Crazy isnt it. What is the vitamin b stuff?

@babyghirl that's interesting about the heart shape uterus! Yeah I am a bit cheerier than this morning now haha!

@27donfin thanks lovely - looks like we are cycle buddies!

@mrsF111 I have slight pcos but because I ovulate regularly they said it's not concern but it's a good idea to clean up diet :D I will be doing the same

@Annny27 did you have blood tests done? I’m wonder about getting some done. They found cysts when they were doing my last scan, and my cycles are 38 days! Been on my health kick since Monday and I’m feeling better about it today. Looking back I realise some days I live mainly off carbs, toast for breakfast, sandwich at lunch and pasta for dinner with either a cheese or tomato sauce!! Which is ridiculous as I love to cook, I’ve just got into bad habits.