TTC after miscarriage

[lamby12]

Hi just wondered if anyone had any experience of continuing TTC after miscarriage. I had a loss at 5/6 weeks recently. The bleeding has now stopped (about 3 days clear) and I'm starting to feel back to normal physically. Emotionally I'm gutted as we have been trying for so long and a few close relatives who know have said we should wait a while to recover emotionally/physically.
Whilst I agree, I've also read that you're most fertile after a miscarriage and it's taken 18months of inconsistent ovulation/low hormones for me to get pregnant. I don't want to miss what could be an increased chance when my odds are low ordinarily.
The hospital said I should wait until a normal period for dating reasons only, they said nothing about risk of infection or complications getting pregnant straight away. I have no idea when I would ovulate (if) now.
Any experience out there?

Hi @eloiseislost thank you, sorry for your loss last month, I totally felt the same as you. Fingers crossed that your first full cycle is successful now. And yes I am so glad we've tried now, otherwise the 2ww becomes the 6 week wait I suppose!

I've had a tiny bit of bleeding yesterday and today, after DTD last night. Maybe it was too soon? It didn't hurt or anything, and the blood is only when I've wiped the following day, both at lunchtime ish so not straight after (we DTD the evening before). Strange, did anyone else have this after miscarriage? I've never bled after sex before, wondering if things are just more prone to being irritated?

@Emmav2020 welcome and sorry for your miscarriage previously and that you are going through it again. How far were you?

I have been taking seven seas TTC supplement for.. 18months?! Near enough every day. In November we had a consultation with a fertility expert to kick things off privately. Whilst waiting for tests and things which will take place over the next few months she straight away recommended vitamin d (oral spray 3000 m/I, the brand is better you and you can get it off Amazon)
I've also been taking vitamin c and e daily as I read a study where they were proven to increase progesterone which I'm lacking in. Anyway, I don't know if they've made a difference or if we would have fallen pregnant last month regardless.

@CookieMonster3001 thank you so much. It's good to hear from others that didn't wait either - hopefully you won't be waiting too long before you get a peak OPK! I'm hoping my bleeding properly stops soon. It's light and only there when I wipe but definitely still there unfortunately.

@lamby12 thank you - still bleeding but I got a negative pregnancy test today using a CBD so at least that's something. Just got to wait for the bleeding to stop now. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Thanks @RBCoxie so my spotting has stopped now and seem to be ok, keep getting a lot of pain it's almost like painful ovulation. I did a bit of Googling last night and found quite a bit about painful ovulation after miscarriage. Will be interesting to see if anyone else has this?
I usually get a few cramps but this has been intense, very much just on the right side and on and off. I'm hoping I've ovulated now because it's been awful!

I did CBD this morning and got a negative. So at least I know I'm on a clean slate now, if I'm lucky enough to test this month I'll know there's no left over hcg.

Fingers crossed for everyone. X

@mummytocrazy1 I am so sorry to hear that, that must have been awful. How are you feeling now? Has things subsided a little? I would consider calling 111 if its still so heavy!

@lamby12 going by what a lot of people have said, generally people seem to have ovulated a week later than normal so I am hoping I get my peak at the back end of this week! Still DTD when we can just to make sure there is always some sperm in there! Strange about the bleeding during sex, I have never had that either... what DPO are you? Is it possible it could be implantation? You are right though, it could just be a bit of irritation. I have heard that ovulation is more painful after a MC and I have noticed I keep getting sharp pains on my sides and I think its my body trying to ovulate but then it fails, so I imagine when I actually do ovulate, its probably going to be noticable pain (Sometimes I dont notice it if im busy)

@eloiseislost I am so sorry to hear about your loss fingers crossed you get your sticky bean soon too!

@emmav2020 I am so sorry for your 2nd loss, that must be heartbreaking! In regards to supplements, I am just taking folic acid, Vit D and Omega 3 (I also usually take evening primrose oil up until ovulation, but I havent done that this cycle)

@RBCoxie waiting for the bleeding to stop was the most annoying! My bleeding generally stopped after 5 days but I was spotting brown blood for a while after.

Still negative OPKs and no sign of ovulation, but hoping its the back end of this week now as I have such a busy week, I already know trying to DTD is going to be stressful if I get a peak!

@CookieMonster3001 sorry you haven't got your peak yet, I'm always an 'early' ovulate-er within my cycle, so don't have to usually think about it. It must be like TWW in some ways waiting to ovulate! I hope it comes soon for you.

I didn't have any more bleeding, I think it could have been ovulation bleeding. Definitely not implantation as I'm pretty sure I ovulated on Saturday just gone. So painful ovulation after miscarriage defiantly seems to be a thing! I suppose it helps knowing when it is.

I'm only 2dpo now already feeling like this will be a longgggg TWW. I think I put so much focus on whether or not to try this month it feels like in my head because we tried it must of worked?! Silly because I'm clearly not super fertile thus far. Fingers crossed this is our month everyone. X

@lamby12 ahh its driving me up the wall to be honest!! And then I read on a forum last night that this girl after her miscarriage ovulated, but none of her OPKS were positive so she didn't realise she did and still somehow managed to fall pregnant... so I am not putting too much trust in my OPKS at the moment! And weird how you mentioned about a little bleeding..because I have just come back from a walk and had a tiny bit of spotting on my underwear and we had also DTD Saturday and Sunday. I have been cramping here and there so I am half thinking its just an irritable cervix or that I could have ovulated and its not shown up in OPKS. I guess I will find out over the next couple of days if my temp goes up. I would normally ovulate CD 12 so fairly early and I am currently on CD15... this cycle is defo dragging!!

How old is everyone, if you don't mind me asking?

@CookieMonster3001 ahh I hope you are!
Some months I really haven't known I've ovulated and haven't had a positive OPK so I don't think they are foolproof by any means. I've never done temps because I'd forget, but that's supposed to be a better method. It's only since I've been taking vitamins that I've had lots of EWCM (weird link!) but I assume it's because they are helping boost the right horned and the EWCM is by far the most obvious sign for me now.

I'm almost 30, I have one DC who is nearly 2.5, we didn't try properly for DC1 - I just came off the pill because we were ready and it happened within 3 months, no tracking or TWW stuff, I wasn't paying much attention at the time. Now that we've been trying for 18months for #2 I'm paying lots of attention, it's all consuming! X

*boost the right hormones, I mean!

@lamby12 that is one thing I have never really had, EWCM, and I was taking evening primrose oil for that as its suppose to help but never noticed much difference. I always get watery CM instead (But I recently read that both are fertile and it just means I have more water in my body - makes sense as I drink about 3litres of water a day!)
I'm 33 (34 this year). I do worry I have left it a little late sometimes! This will be my first child and me and OH foolishly thought that although we know it can take some time, that it would happen first time anyway! When we got pregnant it was our 3rd month of trying. I defo know what you mean though, and especially now after the mc, I feel like getting pregnant and worrying about my fertility is literally on my mind all day long! Its exhausting! Especially when you then think I would have been past 7 weeks this week. If the spotting is ovulation I will be happy as I will have DTD 3 times in the run up.

@CookieMonster3001 fingers crossed! It sounds like if you have ovulated or are about to you have done it at the perfect time!
We did it twice before ovulation, which is what happened last month when we were successful so let's hope.

I know what you mean it's amazing how time goes so slow (TWW) yet so fast when the time TTC starts clocking up. This time last year we'd been trying for almost 6 months and I was starting to get a bit worried but was certain we'd have a baby in 2020. Now here we are in 2021 still at square one. I know we are incredibly lucky to have DD1, but in some ways since we've decided we want another (18m ago) I feel like the stress of TTC distracts me from her and sometimes feel guilty and like we should give up. THEN I feel guilty because I really want to give her a sibling. Can't win!

I never had much EWCM until the last few months of taking vitamins, so maybe that's helped.

I was reading a study about how the time immediately after miscarriage is super fertile so let's hope there is some silver lining for us.

Hey, I'm so sorry for your loss x

When I had an early mc they told me the advice to wait 3 months was actually outdated and now they encourage women to try sooner because you're actually more fertile. But as long as you're ready I would try or wait, whatever you feel is most important.

GL x

Hi everyone.. hope it's ok for me to join. I had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago at 8 weeks. Bleeding stopped a week later and we DTD a couple of times before ovulation.. weren't overly ttc again.
So looking some reassurance I still haven't had a period. It's been 2 weeks since I ovulated as I was tracking so decided to take a pregnancy test just to see... And I'm getting lines 🙈 quite a faint line on the clear blue but darker on the strip..... I dunno if I want to believe I'm pregnant again?? eeeek. Attached a pic

@CookieMonster3001 yeah the waiting is really frustrating! Hope you don't mind me asking, but did you wait for the spotting to stop too before you DTD or just the main bleeding? I'm so light now I'm not even sure it's worth me putting a pad in but OH is concerned that it's not technically fully finished.

I'm 28 and trying for baby number 1. Really good to know about the OPKs - I don't think I'll rely on them too much this time round.

I found preseed helped me - I didn't have much EWCM too and used preseed the month I fell pregnant. Going to be using it again this month for sure!

@Hopefulmummie I'm so sorry to hear about your MC - it's tough! Thjs definitely looks like a positive to me! Did you take a pregnancy test at the end of the miscarriage? I would keep testing every other day and if the lines get darker I would think you're going in the right direction! Keeping absolutely everything crossed for you!

@Hopefulmummie I'm very sorry for your loss. 💔
Did you take a pregnancy test after the bleeding stopped to make sure it's negative? And how did you track ovulation?
Your tests look definitely positive and I think it's very likely you are pregnant again! To be on the safe side though, I would contact your GP and explain and they will do bloods to determine whether it's a new pregnancy or residual HCG from the previous one. Best of luck, fingers crossed for a sticky bean! 🌈 🤞🏼❤️

@RBCoxie @eloiseislost yeah I took multiple tests and was more or less negative. The last test I took there was a slightly visible line but was very very faint I took as negative. I can't see how the lines would be darker 3 weeks later. Yeah I will maybe contact GP to see if they would do bloods. I'm going to take another test in the morning as this were afternoon tests..I haven't even told OH yet as there is still some doubt in my head x

@eloiseislost tracked ovulated by LH tests and got my peak 2 weeks ago

@Hopefulmummie I totally understand feeling cautious. I know I would feel exactly the same way. The fact that you've had negative tests and a darker positive test 3 weeks later is definitely a good sign - especially as the timings add up too. Tentative congratulations! x

A little update ladies, I have been bleeding since the 1st Jan, found out on the 29th dec it was a blighted ovum, on sat passed it was awful, I felt like I was in labour, and was toilet bound for almost 2 hours, so def think that the sac passed, I'm still bleeding and have another few large clots, I have no idea how to estimate ovulation cause of bleeding for this amount of time, I should now be 13weeks pregnant, i cant help but wish the miscarriage happened earlier cause it feels like so much time wasted when I could be trying again, I do have the tests for ovulation but I never got a peak before, ohh and I'm 31 and been trying for 13 months for baby number 2, DS has just turned 3.

I really hope u ladies get ur positive soon, and I hope the TWW goes by super quick for u :)

Thanks for all the advice ladies, it's so nice to have so much support on here.xox

@Mummyto1crazy1 im in your exact situation now, still bleeding from the misscarriage. Huge clots on sat and scan booked for this friday morning. I nearly passed out sat morning from all the blood. Im also 31 and have a son who is 11. Im not going to DTD till after I've got a negative. Any supplements your taking? X

@Emmav2020 it sounds like we are on the same path atm, unfortunately.. I was the same on sat, it was horrific, I was close to having to go to hosp, I'm hoping the bleeding stops soon, I think 11 days is enough, I'm so fed up of it, that's good u have a scan on friday so u can be sure everything is okay and there is nothing left over that could cause infection, I think I'm going to wait until I get a negative also, I'm going to take tests every couple of days so can monitor if the line gets fainter, xox

@Mummyto1crazy1i thankfully staryed bleeding Thursday and its easing of slightly now so not been to long. Yes i was the same on sat i rang my sister to come round as i felt faint dizzy and sick. Been on the sofa ever since. Xx

@lamby12 hopefully!! We will find out soon enough, but it could just be my body playing tricks on me! Who knows!

@Hopefulmummie I am sorry for your loss!! I can defo see the lines on both of those! Fingers crossed this is a sticky bean for you!!

@RBCoxie Yep I waited for about 2 or 3 days after the spotting stopped. Timing for me was quite well actually as my spotting stopped on Sunday and I had a scan booked in on Monday to check everything had passed (which it had), we then went on to DTD on the Wednesday. I was super nervous about an infection, but have been absolutely fine! I heard good things about pre-seed, but I opted for conceive plus, and the first time I used it was the cycle we also fell pregnant so we have continued to use it!

@Mummyto1crazy1 oh you poor thing, that sounds so horrible. I really hope the bleeding stops soon for you. I would wait until the bleeding finishes and then do a HCG test to make sure its negative and then just start tracking your ovulation from then.

@Emmav2020 I am so sorry you are also going through the same thing. I hope you both start feeling a bit better soon and the bleeding slows down and stops.

Morning everyone. Took tests again this morning hoping for a darker line... It's slightly darker than yesterday but part of me still doubts this is a new pregnancy. I know it probably is but I can't shake the doubts

@CookieMonster3001 ah that's really useful to know - thank you! I think I'm going to do the same thing. I'm still super light today - never has a bleed this light before! Driving me insane. On day 10 of bleeding now - I know it's not a lot in the grand scheme of things and people have it worse but I just want it to stop! Yeah I've heard good things about conceive plus too - think both of them are really useful.

@Hopefulmummie there's definitely a line there! Could you get some of the clear blue digital ones with the weeks and test over the next couple of weeks - if the number of weeks increases, it'll definitely be a new pregnancy.

@Hopefulmummie congratulations! You cannot deny that, maybe worth getting in touch with the dr to confirm and put your mind at ease?

@RBCoxie yep totally understand how you feel, especially when all you want to do is get going again! Feeling like that right now with my ovulation. CD16 and still no sign of anything! Would have normally ovulated 4 days ago. Fingers crossed I get something in the next couple of days.