TTC after miscarriage

[lamby12]

Hi just wondered if anyone had any experience of continuing TTC after miscarriage. I had a loss at 5/6 weeks recently. The bleeding has now stopped (about 3 days clear) and I'm starting to feel back to normal physically. Emotionally I'm gutted as we have been trying for so long and a few close relatives who know have said we should wait a while to recover emotionally/physically.
Whilst I agree, I've also read that you're most fertile after a miscarriage and it's taken 18months of inconsistent ovulation/low hormones for me to get pregnant. I don't want to miss what could be an increased chance when my odds are low ordinarily.
The hospital said I should wait until a normal period for dating reasons only, they said nothing about risk of infection or complications getting pregnant straight away. I have no idea when I would ovulate (if) now.
Any experience out there?

@kat1112025 Hi!! So sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I can just imagine how stressful it must be being pregnant again and worrying so much. I pray you have a long healthy pregnancy! And thank you for your success story, it really is so lovely hearing people getting pregnant after a mc! We didnt wait for my period to come back and decide to start trying straight away, as my bleeding had stopped after 6 days and had got a negative preg test. Ultrasound showed no evidence of a pregnancy so felt comfortable enough that it would be OK. My ovulation was pushed back a whole week though. Im keeping my fingers tightly crossed!

@absy welcome! Sorry about your miscarriage, mine was at the end of Dec. It must have been heartbreaking going through IVF and then mcing. I think you are right about mindset as it can be so easy to work ourselves up only to be disappointed, I know I have done it so many times and most likely will happen this month too! I have also done similar to you, in the sense that I am trying to eat as healthy as possible and stick to my normal training regime (I stopped when I fell pregnant and during the TWW for that cycle as I was scared). Fingers crossed you get your BFP very soon!

Its 8DPO for me today and I am having varying symptoms. Whilst I am conscious that some of my symptoms (if not all) are similar to the month I fell pregnant, I am trying my best not to get my hopes up. I woke up this morning feeling very queesy (something I never got last time, and have never experienced in my TWW). Eating a little helped it but its been coming and going in short waves all day today. I thought my breast pain had eased off, but I seem to be getting sharp stabbing pains again, backache again, mild dull cramping and my head just feels a bit heavy, like I could go for a nap. My CM has also been incredible wet these last couple of days. Yesterday I had a huge gush of creamy (slightly tinted yellow) and gluey CM.

Really hoping this month is our month! 3 more days until I can test.

Hi guys, I've just joined!
I'm 24 years old and I had my first pregnancy end at 12 weeks miscarriage on 30th September 2020, and now I just birthed another miscarriage at 12 weeks again!

It's my second miscarriage in a row, and I'm a healthy 24 year old with no underlying medical conditions nor a history of health conditions.

Has anyone heard similar stories of anyone in their 20s or have any tips other than to see a specialist? X

Thanks cookie monster. How are things going now?

My period did arrive, which was disappointing but ok

Hi everyone!
Sorry to hear you got your period @Absy that can be so gutting.

@haidri I don't suppose this helps at all, but my mother in law had 5 miscarriages before she got pregnant with my husband. Back in the day when fertility investigations weren't a thing.

I at least don't have to stress over the TWW this month as due to flat out exhaustion for both parties, we didn't even come close to hitting the mark! 🙄

So that's month one post miscarriage out, will have to see if month two fares any better?! At least it's all statistical data to gauge my new cycle. 😁

Hi, can I please join too? I’m sorry to hear all of your stories. Hopefully we can support each other. I miscarried at 5 weeks in January and I’m just about to get my period. I feel devastated that I’m not pregnant (several negative tests) - even though I convinced myself we weren’t trying too hard this month as it is ‘better’ to wait for a normal AF. How sad I am has really taken me by surprise. 😭 I just want to curl up and ignore everything.
Sending hugs of solidarity.
I don’t think lockdown helps...

@AmyFr take all the time you can to process this and cry your heart out. This is your time to heal for you & your body.

@haidri Thank you. 🤗 it’s so hard, isn’t it?

Hi Ladies! Sorry I have been a bit absent!! AF arrived yesterday (2 days early). Gutted is an understatement, but I tried my best not to get my hopes up too much for this cycle and hopefully fingers crossed for Feb for us all!

@Absy sorry AF arrived! I am doing surprisingly well and in some way feel reassured my period is back so things are going back to normal, hoping for a Feb BFP though! How are you doing?

@haidri I am really sorry to hear that lovely. I have only had the one mc so cant advice (Plus I am 33 so a lot older!) I think they do say though that should you miscarry again you will be in the investigation zone. I am praying you have a healthy pregnancy soon!

@AmyFr I am sorry for your loss! I know how you feel, I thought with everyone talking so much about being extra fertile after mc that we would fall again with no problems but it didn't work out that way. From reading loads of threads, it more people seem to fall pregnant after in their first cycle after they have had their first proper period. Be kind to yourself and take time to look after yourself. Going through a mc is so hard, much harder than people realise I think!

Hopefully Feb is our month :)

@AmyFr it's a mental toll

@haidri sending you hugs 🤗

@CookieMonster3001 I’m sorry AF came. It is such a rollercoaster. I hope you are right though and February is our month!

@BellaBella36 I love the positivity of statistical data! 😆 I am temping and find it interesting. So, I guess, one more month of data for us, and hopefully we can all have February BFPs.

I’m so glad I found this group. Miscarriage is so hard. TTC is hard. I took too much for granted! 🤦‍♀️

Hope everyone has nice weekends. A takeaway here, I think. With AF on the way, I am eating my feelings completely.

🤗

I am so intriguied as to what my cycle will do this month. I didnt ovulate till CD18 thr month just gone which was a week late. Hoping they go back to my usual 27 day cycle and I ovulate CD12 again!! CD4 tomorrow and my periods almost finished. Wasnt as bad as I thought (or heard) it would be, and planning on starting the opk testing from weds/thurs.

When are you ladies due to ovulate?

Hi @CookieMonster3001 so sorry AF came for you.

Welcome to the others on the thread, and sorry for what you've been through with miscarriage. I'm glad you have found the thread useful, I only started it to ask a question about TTC after miscarriage so it is nice it's turned into a supportive thread.

I am now on cycle 2 following the miscarriage, should be ovulating about now but I have a feeling this may be an anovulatory month as I have zero signs of ovulation and just a weird feeling.

I have been taking seven seas TTC for the past 18 months but couldn't get hold of them when I ran out last week so I got pregnacare. Immediately gave me fluorescent urine (which I've read is common) but also lots of weird tummy gripes. I got seven seas again and switched after 5 days but now I'm worried it's buggered things up this cycle as no EWCM and I normally get loads. I've read it can extend your cycle, I feel like it's thrown me off a bit.

I had some bad news this week, before the miscarriage I had AMH and a fertility scan following our first private consultation. The scan was apparently all good and I got pregnant following it. I hadn't followed up the AMH because I am still waiting for standard blood tests and swab test from the GP (which the consultant requested) before we go back. I asked them to email the AMH and it's devastatingly low. From what I have read online at 29 it should be somewhere between 20-50 and mine is 2.7. The only commentary on the test sheet says 'very low' and in reference to IVF 'reduced response expected'. I've gone full on back into grief over the miscarriage because I feel like it could have been such a miracle to have conceived now. I had been good the last few weeks getting on with things after a long chat with my mum about 'no need to rush, it'll happen' mentality. I feel like that's been blown out of the water.

We didn't DTD on Friday as I was really upset even though I am expecting to ovulate this weekend. Yesterday I basically pretended to OH I was all fine and feeling relaxed about the result until we spoke to the consultant so I could pretend I was in the mood for DTD last night. Even though this result means I have horrendously low egg reserve I don't want to miss a month (even more so now).

I am calling the consultant tomorrow to arrange the final few tests privately (the GP won't right now) so that we can have our next consultation and understand the options fully. We can't really afford anything right now so it will be credit card and loan if we have to do IVF which feels stressful.

@lamby12 I’m so sorry to hear all of this. It must be incredibly stressful. I suppose it is hard to wait, but see what the consultant says as other factors may be more important. I did a brief search to find out what AMH stood for and did see something that said vitamin D can help increase levels. Perhaps get some to go with your vitamins. Hang in there until you speak to the consultant. It is clearly not impossible for you to get pregnant without IVF too, and the consultant may have other ideas or things to recommend. Sending you a big hug. Be kind to yourself.

I’ve still not got my AF (due yesterday). Feels like it is imminent. Tortured myself with internet cheapie tests and line eyes but I know there’s nothing there. I just want my period so I can move on to next month. I think this one will be bad as I’ve had awful back ache with pms. Hopefully today. I hate having a bit of hope / delusion. I think having the miscarriage has made me so desperate to just be pregnant that being late isn’t helping. 🤦‍♀️ I was really upset Thursday but I had accepted it. Hurry up now!

@CookieMonster3001 I normally ovulate day 17 ish so I am currently looking at mid February - you will be almost done with your TWW! Fingers crossed your cycle is normal for you this month! Glad AF wasn’t too bad as well, and that it’s almost over for you.

Hope you ladies are doing something nice for you today. I really think lockdown makes all of this so much harder as it is so much easier to obsess!

Thanks @AmyFr. I'm on vitamin d already - it was one of the things the consultant said in our first appointment. So in addition to the seven seas I'm on vit C, D & E. I have read that vitamin D helps with egg quality too so fingers crossed. I don't think there's any way to actually increase AMH I think AMH is the egg quantity but doesn't tell you the quality. So hopefully there's still good ones there.

I am trying to come back up from it to just get on with things again. Otherwise I'll literally just be down and worried until we speak to the consultant which could be weeks.

Sorry you're waiting for AF, I know what you mean about torturing with tests, some months I've logged them all in my app then looked back and been like did I actually test every day for 5-6 days?! But when you're in that headspace waiting for AF it's the worst. There's a weird hope with keeping testing isn't there. Sorry you're in that awful bit of the cycle.

Totally easier to obsess in lockdown, 2020 has made it all so much worse - it's been all about lockdown and TTC and not much else!

@lamby12 so lovely to hear from you. I am so sorry to hear about ur results. I have to admit I do not know much about AMH but hopefully further appointments and support from the specialist can help. I have heard about coQ-10 being really good for eggs but I think its more quality of egg rather than quantity like vit D. And whilst this is terrible to say as you are still grieving, you can still get pregnant which is a positive!
I 100% understand what you mean about lockdown making it worse, i feel like I am constantly thinking about TTC, but I have decided this month I am really going to try hard to not think too much about it and focus on other stuff. I have started reading more these last couple of days which has helped as usually before bed id be on my phone googling all sorts of things, now i am trying to avoid it.

@AmyFr 🤞 i do ovulate my normal time, but not worried too much if i dont, its just the idea of having to continue dtd regularly until we hit that peak and the longer it drags out the harder it becomes to doing it!! Who knows our TWW might end up overlapping!

Got into doing some baking recently which has kept me occupied on the weekend. Planning on making some cookies today with OH as a treat for dessert!

@lamby12 That’s a lot of vitamins! I think you’re right; staying in the headspace of getting on with things is all you can do. Be kind to yourself too if you have a wobble. Waiting - for consultant, AF, all of it - is difficult. It seems to be made up of waiting.

@CookieMonster3001 enjoy the cookies! I love how thematic that is with your username! I know what you mean with ovulating late - you do get a bit exhausted 😂

I’m going for a wet walk with my friend to pick up some glasses from specsavers 👓 something a little bit different! 😂

Hi everyone,
Sorry to jump on the post really late. Never posted on anything like this before but I wanted to say how reassuring and nice it was to read through all your comments and realise I’m not alone.
I had a MC at just over 5 weeks early January. It took us 10 months to conceive and with excitement we’d told most family and friends so to then go on to miscarry was absolutely devastating. I was told to wait until after my first period to try again by the EPU but I waited until I had a negative pregnancy test ( was so reassuring to hear some of you say you were relieved to see a negative it’s such a strange feeling to want a negative for once and then I felt sad that I got it even though it was a good thing? ) I then ovulated on day 14 and am now 10 dpo. Took a test yesterday and it was a BFN and I was crying and really upset. I feel like I’m reliving the MC all over again and like lots of you I really thought I could fall again straight away. I know it’s still early but I don’t think this month is my month. Sorry to ramble but just wanted to say how nice it is to hear people going through exactly what I am and know that I’m not alone. Sending you all lots of positivity and thank you x

@SG121 hey! I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Just wanted to say I'm in a very similar situation so you are certainly not alone. I had a MC at 13 weeks early Jan (and also told most friends and family!) and was given the same advice by the EPU - it all happened quickly for me so we tried again after a negative test instead. I'm also 10DPO today and no sign of a BFP either which I'm finding difficult. I also feel like I'm reliving the miscarriage and so it's a difficult day. I'm writing today off - we're getting some nice food in and having a very relaxing day. I thought it was our month too and I feel like that's naturally put a lot of pressure on us. We will get there - we will have our rainbow babies 🌈 x

@SG121 Thinking of you. I felt like you on Thursday. It is so hard. Be kind to yourself. 10DPO is still early too - and if you tested yesterday it is so early either way. I do know what you mean too about the relief of a negative afterwards. So strange.

This period of time after MC is crap. I cried a lot on Thursday. I think the desire to be pregnant is just so much stronger when you have that sense of what you have lost, and know it is possible too.

@RBCoxie Sorry to hear your experience too. I’m so sorry. Be kind to yourself today. Know 10DPO is early too. 🤗

I have just started a little bit of spotting so I think this is my AF now... onwards and upwards!

@RBCoxie I am so sorry to hear that - I definitely agree it puts so much pressure on ourselves and you read that many people become pregnant straight after and I personally know a couple of people who did so to be brought back to negative tests again is really rubbish. It doesn’t help that PMS and early pregnancy symptoms are so similar! I had a good day today though too - went out and enjoyed the snow! It’s hard to not be obsessed so to have a good day is fab and we definitely will get there - thank you for replying x
@AmyFr it is really rubbish isn’t it- sorry you felt the same. I felt like I was okay until I had the negative test yesterday and then I was brought back to it all. I 100% agree that the desire to be pregnant is stronger after knowing you can - I feel even more desperate than I did before because I know my body can and I definitely feel a sense of loss. Thank you for replying x

AF arrived today, finally! Feels like a rubbish one, but at least it is here and there’s no “what if?” 😞 onto February! I think I ovulate on the 16th...

Hope you ladies are ok today.

Hi SG121

So sorry to hear about the miscarriage and the BFN. If it makes you feel better, I had a call with our fertility consultant a couple of weeks ago, and I asked him if it can be easier to conceive after a miscarriage, and he said yes. I should start ovulating soon. I’ve had some spotting which I’ve never had in my life, so I spoke to the GP who said it can take a couple of months for the cycle to settle down.

Hi, Really sorry to jump on this post very late. This is the first time I am posting in a forum like this. I had my miscarriage in October 2020. I was 9 weeks when I got heavy bleeding and found out baby had only 6 weeks growth. Absolutely devastated. This is my second baby and I’m trying after 6 years. EPU told me to wait for one period and TTC later. I wanted to feel emotionally better so I left november and december. I am TTC this month and 3 days left for my period, i’m getting bright red blood. So probably i am going to get AF.

I normally have a 28 days cycle and I think I ovulate around 14th or 15th day. I tried on 9th and 11th day. I cannot understand why I didn’t conceive. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

@NS15 I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage and experience, as well as imminent AF. Be gentle with yourself; it is so difficult emotionally TTC after a loss.

From a cycle point of view, are you tracking ovulation with LH tests, or temping? It might be that if you ovulated slightly later, you missed the window. The best day to DTD is the day before you ovulate too, so CD 13 or 14, which might help if you’re sure of when you ovulate.
I think so much of it comes down to luck. Our timing was right and we didn’t catch. It’s hard. 🤗

@AmyFr Sorry that this month wasn't your month - yes at least you can stop wondering now and at least your cycles seem to be back to normal. Eat a load of chocolate now!! Reading and having the support off you girls has really helped me so thank you x

@Absy Thank you so much - yes I've read that too - the EPU gave me some leaflets to take home and they suggested that it can be easier too - I think that's why it was even harder to see the BFN because I'd convinced myself I would fall again straight away. 11dpo today and going to wait until either AF or test again after 14dpo - but not getting my hopes up as symptoms don't seem to be the same as when I did conceive. Hopefully your cycle settles soon! Sending love x

@NS15 I am really sorry to hear about your loss. I am also waiting for AF and I'd be due in 3 days too and I am feeling PMS symptoms. Same as Amy suggested - are you using OPKs? I use clear blue and that always seems to work for me. It is difficult when you feel like you haven't conceived the first month after a loss when you TTC again - trust me I feel like this right now!! Again I agree with Amy, I do think it's luck. I wasn't expecting to catch the month I did but now after a loss and knowing it's possible I am expecting a BFP so to not have it is upsetting. I hadn't commented on anything like this before but this thread in particular and commenting has really helped me this month so hopefully it's helped you in some way x