TTC after miscarriage

[lamby12]

Hi just wondered if anyone had any experience of continuing TTC after miscarriage. I had a loss at 5/6 weeks recently. The bleeding has now stopped (about 3 days clear) and I'm starting to feel back to normal physically. Emotionally I'm gutted as we have been trying for so long and a few close relatives who know have said we should wait a while to recover emotionally/physically.
Whilst I agree, I've also read that you're most fertile after a miscarriage and it's taken 18months of inconsistent ovulation/low hormones for me to get pregnant. I don't want to miss what could be an increased chance when my odds are low ordinarily.
The hospital said I should wait until a normal period for dating reasons only, they said nothing about risk of infection or complications getting pregnant straight away. I have no idea when I would ovulate (if) now.
Any experience out there?

@Icklemissgem sorry on the pessaries I should have said SHE BELIEVES (this particular consultant) that there is no evidence they work. Not that there is no evidence. I think lots of doctors prescribe them.

@lamby12 I think do what you want to do in your gut. If they don’t do harm, then it can’t hurt, but see what the consultant says. It might depend on levels in different women.

Thanks. I am trying (and failing) to chill out. I was so calm and blissfully unaware of all of this in my first pregnancy... 🤦‍♀️

Hey, just checking in

@lamby12 are they cyclogest? It’s something that they routinely prescribe if you have IVF to take them after the embryo transfer to around 12 weeks.

@AmyFr I hope you manage to distract yourself! It’s exhausting being constantly on edge

I now have a date for IVF which is good news. I got quite emotional with the nurse explaining that I was on the same protocol and why I was going through everything again.

Hi @Absy

I think so, I get to speak to the consultant tomorrow about them. This is the consultant we're planning IvF with - I kept the appointment in in case things end early as you have to wait months for each one. Anyway I find it odd that she's says she doesn't believe they work as I also thought this is what they give during IVF. When I asked about medication, I just meant whatever they give to support early pregnancy in IVF because she spoke about this as one of the benefits of IVF. Hopefully we'll get to the bottom of it tomorrow.

When is your date for IVF? How are you feeling about it?
Obviously if my current pregnancy doesn't work out then I'll have to wait for things to return to normal but I'll take some comfort in knowing everything is as ready as it can be for IVF.

Today is the day I miscarried in the last pregnancy, it started about lunchtime. I'm feeling super nervy today which is know doesn't make much sense! X

Hi @Absy that’s good you have a date. It must have been hard to go through it all with the nurse though. Thinking of you. It is such a difficult process (understatement!). I hope you’re doing ok.

@lamby12 how are you today? How did the consultant appointment go? And it’s normal to feel nervous when a key date pops up. At least you are past yesterday now. 🤗

I had my scan - 6 weeks and 3 days... there’s a little heartbeat and everything looks fine! Which is SUCH a relief! I had a little cry when they showed me and the sonographer printed off a picture of the little bean / blob! So fingers crossed all continues to go well. I’ve not had any more spotting so that’s good.

Hi @Absy so pleased with your scan result that's excellent news, you must be delighted!!! Was in just an external scan or internal to see the heartbeat?
I am due to have the first scan a week tomorrow which will be 6 weeks. I'm going to check with them if they will do internal if they can't see everything (it's private) otherwise I'll just be worrying if it can't be confirmed.

We had the consultant appointment today. She as very helpful and obviously I hope we don't need to see her again to start ivf but everything is ready if we do. I'm taking some tiny tiny comfort from knowing the back up plan is ready. She didn't advise the pessaries for progesterone. She explained that in ivf when they take the eggs out the body's progesterone drops because the eggs are gone, that's why they give it artificially in ivf to put the balance back. She said there isn't any evidence of benefit giving it outside ivf so I am happy to go along with that.

Just aiming for the next milestone of the scan next Friday now, I really hope we get there.

Such good news on your scan, you must be delighted. X

I’m starting in about a month so I’m going to try and be really healthy and what not, get my body ready for IVF and pregnancy. I’m also going to see if I can start seeing a counsellor again. I was seeing one (different issue) when I had the miscarriage, and she suggested coming back when I start IVF as it can trigger so many memories.

@lamby12 I hope you get to feel a bit less anxious once you pass the date. Are you able to have an early scan?

@AmyFr that must be such a relief! Hope you’re feeling good

Sounds like you are in a good place looking forwards @Absy everything crossed for good luck for you. Is this your first cycle of ivf?

I have a scan booked 1 week today, 6 weeks, so that's my next milestone mentally. I just hope beyond hope I get there. I'm feeling so nervy and twitchy because as we know it can all be taken from us at any second. I did a CBD weeks indicator this morning and it said 3+ which is good because one week prior was 2-3 weeks so I hope I'm past the stage of a risk of a chemical now... hopefully. But there is still early miscarriage of course. Just hoping and praying whilst trying not to think about it....!

@Absy oh that’s good you start in a month! Hopefully also with more things to distract you as things open, and I hope counselling helps too. I don’t think it can hurt to have things in place. Your hormones will be in overdrive too so you need to look after yourself.

@lamby12 bless you! That’s good! Yay to 3 weeks plus!

Yes, so relieved! You can even see a very tiny little tadpole shape on the scan pic!
I’m just exhausted. Emotionally but also physically now. I remember this tiredness...

Sending you all hugs 🤗

Thanks @AmyFr have you had many other symptoms up to now? It's worrying when you have symptoms like pain isn't it but then worrying when you don't!

Was your scan just external or did they have to do internal?

X

They tried external but needed to do an internal :-)

I just have boobs hurting on and off, the tiredness, and now nausea is building. I’ve gagged a few times but not been sick. I’m also definitely off some foods. I keep getting wind and slight back ache 😂 How about you?

@lamby12 it’s actually my third. First - my DS , second was successful but I had a miscarriage and now this is another try. I had kind of hoped that I would conceive without having to go through it again, but it is what it is

Good luck @Absy. When do you start the treatment?

How is everyone?

@lamby12 have you had your scan? Hope all is well.

@Icklemissgem thinking of you and hope you’re ok.

I feel so so sick. Evening sickness for me.

Morning ladies ☺️

Hope you all had a lovely Easter 🐣

How is everyone? It's been a while since the last post.

As for me I got my BFP 😁 holding off telling the OH until Sunday (his birthday) hoping this one sticks for me 🤞🏻

Hi ladies, I really hope you don’t mind me joining? I’ve been scrolling through threads to try and find answers. I had a miscarriage 15 days ago at 5 weeks 5 days. Scan confirmed, bled heavy for 3 days, hcg levels were down to below 2 at hospital so no trace left and all pregnancy tests were negative. Was keen to ttc straight away so began taking opks a couple of days later knowing my hcg levels were practically non existent. I have irregular cycles but on average around 35 days. I am currently cd 15 but have been having positive opks for the last 8 days straight.. I’m so confused. My apps guess I should ovulate on Monday or Tuesday next week. I don’t have any hcg in my system but why the constant positive opks? I use the cheapies. Desperate to know when it’s a true positive and try again. My partner lives an hour away at the moment so ttc is hard, anyone know why I would be getting so many positive opks?? Xx

@LaraWilliams so sorry to hear of your loss.

Have you tried taking a pregnancy test? The only time I had blazing positive opks (when I wasn't supposed to be ovulating) I was infact pregnant.

Sending you lots of positive baby vibes 🌈✨

Thank you lovely. I havent taken a for a few days no but I did take pregnancy tests last week just to check there was no hcg left over causing the positive opks.. they were negative last week so I’m guessing they still would be. It’s only been 15 days since miscarriage, I don’t think one would show positive anyway?? Xx

@LaraWilliams heyy i was in your position in jan and im currently 12 weeks pregnant now suffereing terrible sickness day and night, and already been in hospital on a drip. At my dating scan they think i got pregnant a week after my misscarriage so you possibly could be oregnnant again. Xx

[quote Emmav2020]@LaraWilliams heyy i was in your position in jan and im currently 12 weeks pregnant now suffereing terrible sickness day and night, and already been in hospital on a drip. At my dating scan they think i got pregnant a week after my misscarriage so you possibly could be oregnnant again. Xx[/quote]
@Emmav2020 hi! No way?! First of all congratulations!!! Secondly sorry about the sickness.. my friend is the same at the mo.. in and out of hospital on drips :( but lastly.. did you keep getting the positive opks? Any other symptoms? Thanks so much for replying xxx

Definitely negative pregnancy test (even if I did try and make myself see something!) so I’m really baffled with the opks

I'm pregnant again after a miscarriage in February. I waited until HCG was practically negligible before trying again and I think (?) I conceived around 20/03 but I'm not sure as I haven't had a period between miscarriage and getting pregnant again.

Naturally I'm living in terror every time I wee. Checking for blood, feeling anxious it will happen again. I can't shake myself out of it. Last time I was around 6 weeks ish before MC occurred.

@NatMoz congratulations.. I know what you mean. Must be scary but I’m sure everything will go well for you. Did you use opks at all? Xx

@LaraWilliams Actually no I didn't as I struggle with ovulation tests and forget/can't understand what it says/never saw a line.

Instead we just had sex every day after the miscarriage bleeding stopped. We got a bit bored and moved to every other day and when I got some goo/discharge in my knickers went back to every day for a bit and it seemed to work!

We did the same thing the last time I got pregnant as my ovulation day must be later than I would expect it to be (?).

Either way, not the most scientific from a tracking perspective but seems to be the most effective for us!

Well congratulations!! I hope I can be in the same position soon. I’m still getting positive opks and now have a really heavy dull achey feeling down there which could be ovulation, could be period.. I genuinely have no idea??!!

So after all my positive opks this last week which both lines were the same colour, 16 days after my miscarriage I’ve had this positive which is way darker than the control line.. do u think maybe this is the one??