TTC after miscarriage

[lamby12]

Hi just wondered if anyone had any experience of continuing TTC after miscarriage. I had a loss at 5/6 weeks recently. The bleeding has now stopped (about 3 days clear) and I'm starting to feel back to normal physically. Emotionally I'm gutted as we have been trying for so long and a few close relatives who know have said we should wait a while to recover emotionally/physically.
Whilst I agree, I've also read that you're most fertile after a miscarriage and it's taken 18months of inconsistent ovulation/low hormones for me to get pregnant. I don't want to miss what could be an increased chance when my odds are low ordinarily.
The hospital said I should wait until a normal period for dating reasons only, they said nothing about risk of infection or complications getting pregnant straight away. I have no idea when I would ovulate (if) now.
Any experience out there?

@AmyFr sorry I’m only just reading this. No I booked a private scan - I did enquire with doctors when I told them I was pregnant but they said they normally only do early scans from NHS with recurrent m/c. I don’t mind paying for it privately - I am sooo nervous and anxious and feel like I’ve already waited ages for it! Yeah I would definitely speak to work if you’re that spread out. They should be able to put in your risk assessment how they’ll minimize contact etc. How are you feeling? X

@SG121 I’m ok thanks. Nervous. I feel bloated (not helped by excessive eating but maybe if all goes well future nausea will help this). My boobs are sore. I’m taking these as good signs. I think I will feel better if I start to feel sick in the next few weeks 😂 I was quite sick with my daughter so kind of expecting it... we will see! How are you feeling?

I hope everyone is doing ok. Sending hugs to you all. 🤗

Well I think I'm out.
We dtd last night; I woke up this morning spotting 😒
Deflated.

I did take a hpt, a very faint line came up as the dye started to rise but it had gone after a couple of minutes; although it looked more white.. I guess maybe an evap. I took a couple of tests last week too and they showed this also.

Nevermind.
Good luck to you all ❤️ x

Hi ladies,

@jodielouise26 sorry you think you're out, did AF arrive? Hope you're ok.

@AmyFr I'm glad you're doing ok.

We had our consultant appointment at the start of this week and it was quite grim to be honest. Basically all my results were awful - low AMH, low follicle count, low in every hormone that's important for fertility... she basically thinks I'm having premature ovarian failure. No reason why and it can't be reversed, she didn't advise spending more testing finding out why she just advised IVF ASAP. So... that's what we're doing.

We've got our plan all set up with the finance company, chosen a 2 cycle plan, next appointment in 2 weeks at which point we'll find out the next thing to get started. Weirdly exciting?! Because we're finally taking control. But also terrifying because of what it will involve physically, mentally, and of course the risk it may not work.

In all of this planning I forgot I'm in the TWW. About 8/9dpo now. I now know the likelihood naturally is low though so I'm fully expecting AF.

@jodielouise26 oh I’m sorry to hear you think you are out. You never know though... I hope you’re ok.

@lamby12 I’m sorry to hear that. Premature ovarian failure is so unfair, especially after what you have been through, but I’m pleased you have a plan with IVF, and put everything in place to start soon. I will have fingers crossed for you! Sometimes a clear plan can help you mentally. Sending hugs.

@AmyFr @lamby12 I'm okay Thankyou :)

AF arrived.. 😒 onto the next month 👍🏻

Hope you're both okay x

Hi Everyone, hope your all OK? Everyone's journey sounds so up and down. Who knew ttc would be so hard! I had a miscarriage in October 2020 at 12 and a half weeks. It had taken 11 months (and a huge toll on my mental health!) unfortunately my bleeding didn't stop so had an MVA in November. Because of the lengthy process I only had 2 weeks of not bleeding and then my period returned in December I've had a 44 day cycle and a 31 day so very erratic. I'm just not sure what to do next I was thinking of having some bloods don't with the GP because it feels like ages now but then its been 2 (coming up 3) cycles.
I do feel so so fortunate I have a 6 year old DD and she took 15 months but the age gap is forever getting bigger and annoyingly so are we haha! Why is it so hard? I tracked last month got a postitive opk day 14 or 15 DTD loads.... Nothing. This month haven't even had a positive OPK. I'm fed up sorry for the essay!

@Emilu89 I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve been going through, and for your loss. I don’t think it can hurt to ask for bloods. You will have had so many hormones and the body can take such a long time to regulate. I hope you get a positive OPK soon, and that the doctor can help too.
🤗

Hi All
Hope nobody minds me jumping on this post. I have been reading through the thread and you are all so lovely and supportive, I am so sorry for everyone's losses.
I have now had 3 chemical pregnancies in a row and am currently 6dpo to see what this cycle brings - I am extremely nervous.
I had to self refer to a private clinic as my GP wouldn't help me as I already have a healthy 3 year old girl. I have been prescribed cyclogest pessaries to starting using when I next get a BFP but I am scared to use them as they don't sound pleasant 🥺 all my tests came back fine and the consultant just said try these and see as they won't do any harm 🤷‍♀️

Hi everyone and welcome to newbies. I'm sorry if I am ignoring a couple of previous comments here but I really need help....!

So we have had a bit of a emotional week and a half as some have read, now almost 2 months after the most recent miscarriage I found out from private consultant I am having premature ovarian failure and to do IVF ASAP. A few a few hectic days of thinking and financial considerations we have decided to go for it and I have our plan ready to go after our next consultant appointment (next week). The week has been all about ready about ivf, planning what healthy changes I can make etc. I haven't thought about the TWW because we now have a plan for the next few months around starting ivf.

I realised today I'm on CD25 and I'm normally 22/23days max, so I got a test from Morrison's and I am not sure if there's a faint line. I really really am not sure because I always see imaginary lines and I am not sure if I am just creating some fairytale where I get a positive right before we start ivf... I need an opinion!!! Photo attached.

I have tried to take it so the phone shadow isn't on the test window. I think I am 10dpo.

Ok the more I look at the real test the more it looks like a clear line. We dtd 4 days before I ov'd I think, I didn't even think we were in with a chance this month?! Literally since I did the test I now have period pains and a feeling like there must be some blood there.... is that psychosomatic!! I am not getting even vaguely carried away yet. More tests needed and very much need to prepare myself for bleeding. X

I’m normally sucky at trying to see faint lines on MN, but this time I definitely see a line. It’s faint but it’s there.

I hope this is good news for you @lamby12!

Could you go to the doctor and have a blood test done?

Hi @Icklemissgem

Welcome!

I unfortunately have a lot of experience with cyclogest. It’s not pleasant, but they’re doable (better than injecting progesterone). I would just recommend either going for the back entrance or wearing pantie liners if you go for the other entrance

Thanks @Absy feeling really on a knife edge expecting blood any minute. I did another test yesterday aft and it was also faint positive. I am going to get some FRER today.

I had pulling weird pains last night in my lower stomach so I'm hoping that's a good thing, it didn't feel like period pains. Eeeeeek so scared about another early loss.

Thank you for the lovely message and welcome @AmyFr this seems a lovely thread of people (despite the topic!)
@lamby12 good luck lovely this sounds positive. I'm excited for you to get your FRER's so keep us posted. Sadly we've been robbed of the pure excitement but as hard as it is take it one day at a time for now and for every day let yourself be excited for the present time! (easier said than done!) X

Thanks you @Emilou89 I know exactly what you mean about being robbed of the excitement, it's now just worry and anxiety as we know what can go wrong. I feel like I'm slightly more mentally prepared for it going wrong this time, but it's easy to say that.

I got my FRER today. Quite a strong one with lunchtime diluted wee so I'm happy with that. At the moment I'm just thinking small aims - like get to Friday which will be 4 weeks.

Everything crossed, good luck everyone. X

@lamby12 oooh this is amazing!!! Fingers crossed for you! I am just over 5 weeks now (and starting to feel it with the fatigue!). I’m so pleased for you. Crossing all my fingers!

I am still scared each time I wipe...

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And welcome @Icklemissgem I hope they help. Bless you for going through so many. I will have fingers crossed for you.

Thanks @AmyFr I have been thinking about it a lot today, keep trying to stop obsessing. I'm really trying not to let myself get too whipped up in it and seeing it as just one step on a long road, trying to see it more as a scientific process than an emotional thing this time, I know that sounds weird but if we do ivf (which is the next step) then we would still have this really fragile wait, if it worked, to get to 7 weeks which is when you have a scan from ivf. So, I'm trying to just see it as a process like we would if it were ivf.

I don't know if that makes sense. My heads all over the place. Just want to get to Friday for 4 weeks then I'll feel great if I can get past 5 weeks which was when I lost last time. We have consultant appointments and ivf information session over the next few weeks and I'm still keeping it all in, going (virtually) to it all as I think that's my coping mechanism this time. Planning for 'afterwards' on the assumption it won't last. That sounds really pessimistic but it's the mindset I need this time to protect myself.

I'm so glad you're still doing well and that you've started to feel some symptoms now, that must be reassuring. X

@lamby12 crossing everything for you but a strong line is definitely promising.

@AmyFr thank you, hoping this month is my month, currently 8dpo and waiting to test in a few days and if BFP will start the pessaries and keep fingers and toes crossed 🤞🏻 can't deal with a 4th one 😩😩
Congratulations on your BFP xxx

Thanks @Icklemissgem

I hope you're doing ok, I was sorry to read about your 3 chemicals, that's so awful for you and especially as they can't find anything wrong. The pessaries sound promising, so hopefully you have no problem getting pregnant and it's not long for you before you can try these.

I am worried about another chemical because after my blood tests the private consultant said I am low in progesterone and my hormones aren't coordinating well to support early pregnancy. So I'm not taking anything for granted. A nice strong FRER this morning so I'm happy that it's getting darker. This happened last time though!

@lamby12 thank you, I actually got a vvvvv faint line on a test this morning so will start the pessaries tonight and am just hoping they work - I can't deal with it a 4th time 😞😞

Wow that is a very strong line so it definitely looks promising. Crossing everything for you this time around - let us know how it's going xx

@Icklemissgem oh great that's promising that you've just had a faint line. Good luck with the pessaries, I really hope that they work for you.

This is such a painful wait to see if things will continue isn't it. X

Hi @lamby12 those look like strong lines!

Is the consultant able to give you any progesterone to help out?

Today has been a bit rough. I’m in the 2WW. I think everything went well, but I think that every month. I found out another friend is pregnant. I’m really happy for her, but I just feel like it’s unfair. We had talked about falling pregnant before and she was always saying things like “oh yes, I think I’ll have another child” whereas I was always more circumspect, never wanted to assume that it was going to work out. Another friend had a baby on Monday so it literally feels like everyone around me is falling pregnant and not me. I feel I have to tell DH about her, but I know he’ll be upset.

@Absy I'm sorry about that. It's really tough other friends announcing. I feel like a lot of people around me are having babies too (5 friends/family in May) so I know if this one doesn't work out I'll really struggle in April and May.

I don't think I can get anything via the GP as the GP hasn't 'officially' diagnosed anything and hasn't really been helpful. The private consultant we are seeing independently has been the one that has said she believes there are issues with my hormones. We have an appoint with her about our stating IVF next (when I will be 5 weeks if I make it that far) so I'm keeping the appointment in. For the reason that it may not work out this time and also because I want to ask if there is any suggestion to support the early pregnancy.

Do you think I should speak to the GP? I'm not sure if they would suggest anything because it was my private tests and much more complex hormone blood tests that suggested problems in the consultants eyes. I actually tried to speak to the GP about the results and they seemed about bit out of their depth to be honest. So I feel like I just need to hope on this one probably. X