TTC after MC - October 2020 (Thread 14)

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Thanks @AlisonT13, it actually went up to 0.77 this afternoon, so relieved its showing some sign of increase!

Hi @RubyRainbow16 sorry your joining us. Its normal to obsess I think, I certainly do no matter how many times I tell myself not to!!! Hope you have good news soon :)

Hi @Watermelonsugar10 I'm one month behind you, mine was July but I'm still in the TTC club as well so didn't happen straight after for me either, we will get there! I keep telling myself if it happened once it will happen again, we can do it, positive vibes!!!

@familybythesea congratulations!!! Please don't feel unsure about sharing your good news, that's why we are all here isn't it, to pick each other up after our bad news and wait for that BFP!!! So pleased for you

Hello,
How you don’t mind me jumping on. I had a Chemical pregnancy in July and feel like this month could be the month. I had a very faint positive on a clearblue fast and easy test this morning. Does anyone know the miu of this test as I’m struggling to find out?

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@familybythesea congratulations 🎊 thank you for sharing this with us. Stuff like this is always reassuring

Also guys I wanted to share my opks which I've been doing. My LH surge was meant to happen on 24th according to my apps and so on. But this doesn't seem like a peak but there is an increase. Any thoughts on this. I have been doing multiple tests on some days. Is this my peak. Or do I keep testing

I did have mild twinges and ewcm as well around the same time which is now changed to more white (sorry for tmi)
Any thoughts on this?

Thank you very much @HappyVibes, @MSG92 and @Furbsies. Much appreciated. I hope you’ll be sharing good news too soon.

@HappyVibes - yes of course! I had a missed miscarriage discovered at 12 weeks at the beginning of March this year. I had the surgical management and I’ve been ttc since. I also had two CPs, but both times they were VERY faint tests and I was already bleeding by then so they weren’t confirmed. Interestingly I noticed my RHR before ovulation only went down to pre-miscarriage rates this month, so whether my body finally reset itself I don’t know! Last month I took pregnacare, B6, ubiquinol and vitamin C, but had a weird cycle and period so this month just did folate (metafolin), vitamin C and vitamin D.

I’m hoping my results from the clinic come back very soon just in case they found anything and I need to take action - I don’t want to risk anything going wrong more than I have to! They did offer a 6 week scan so fingers crossed I get that far.

@familybythesea - congratulations! I got my BFP on Sunday and have an EDD of 8th July. So we’re pretty close together I think. Still feeling pretty anxious atm, not only because of my MMC in April but also because I had a chemical in July at CD26. I’m now CD 27 and just did a CB digital which came up with Pregnant very quickly and then 1-2 weeks, which is right.

To those asking about whether stopping testing etc is helpful, I think it varies from person to person. I had given it all up and thrown everything out because I felt that it was taking over my life. We had resigned ourselves to no more babies and were even talking about adoption. Due to me being ill with an ear infection and DH being away, we only dtd once mid-cycle this month on day 12 and bingo. I had noticed a lot of EWCM that day though. On the other hand, I know that 10 years ago, I would not be giving up on the OPKs etc. There are lots of people on here who swear by them and also things like pre-seed, which can’t do any harm.

@WatermelonSugar10 - I remember feeling the same as you when I didn’t get instantly pregnant after my MC. The midwives at the EPU and various other medical people had all said so much about the increased fertility window that I was really disappointed not to fall easily within the first two months. I know it happens to some people but many I know and lots on here (me included) have taken longer. There is no ‘normal’, just what’s right for your body. Don’t give up hope!

@Furbsies I’m not an OPK expert but I’d guess maybe keep testing and dtd if you can - do you sometimes have a longer cycle? Maybe you’ve been gearing up to ovulate but not quite there yet. Your temp hasn’t risen yet so I’d say hopefully it’s on its way?

Hi All,
Hoping to join this group for some support or I’ll lose my mind. I had a MMC at 11w 4d in August baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks since then I have been devastated. Like many here it’s been first month trying and now nothing since. I have in the weeks since been told I could have endometriosis and I have a low egg reserve.. it’s been a lot to take in and I’m losing hope for another positive in the future with all this news😢

@Chickoletta congratulations to you too! And yes, very close - EDD 9th July for me. I hear you though - I can already feel the worry starting at the back of my mind, but I guess it helps to have a healthy dose of realism to protect our hearts a tiny bit. Wishing you a very healthy 9 months!

@Furbsies sorry I’ve just realised those weren’t temps on your other graph - shows I know nothing so hopefully someone else will have better advice! Mine went up and down a bit before I did get a peak though.

@familybythesea no worries lovely. Just so happy to hear your story and it offers me so much hope!!

@Furbsies Looking at your graphs & hearing about your CM, I think you may have had your peak on the evening of 24th, but not tested. I would continue testing for a few days just for extra reassurance. Xxx

Hi @WaitingforBFP sorry you're here. If it hapenned before there is every chance it will happen again, optimism initially, this is only your 1st month TTC since MMC so give it a chance, I hope it works out for you

@HappyVibes in that case I'm covered on all bases regardless. Hopefully that was it.

Thank you though and will keep testing.

Ah good luck @Furbsies now in the TWW we are buddies hehe. I got my peak on the 23rd, so we are one day apart 💓

Thanks @MSG92 sorry I meant we got pregnant first month of trying and now nothing since it’s a bit disheartening but trying to stay positive

Hi @HappyVibes. Been away into the new forest. Was lovely. Just got my first flashing smiley so looks like I’m entering FW. Glad I’ve had lots of R and R 🤣. Going to need it. Where are you in cycle?

@Jazper bleeding in early preg is common. With my first baby, I had a significant bleed (two tampons of red blood) at 5 weeks. Thought I’d lost it. Went for a 5.5 week scan and no HB as too early. I too had that 2 week wait that you have. It’s such a hard and long wait! But you must be positive. They will definitely see a heartbeat in two weeks. It will he the best feeling ever. Hang in there- remember she said no reason to see why you’d be miscarrying. X x

Aww sounds lovely @RichmondLady1981 Yay to the FW! How do you guys approach FW?

Ah I’m 3DPO so soon to be in the cray cray stage 🤣Determined not to be though this month. Just feel so realistic but still optimistic so I’m just a lot more of the other will happen when it happens kind of mindset at the moment. Xxxx

@familybythesea huge congratulations!!!! That amazing news!

Did you do anything for your short LP? Very promising as mine is quite short. X

@WatermelonSugar10 I had a mmc in Feb, and only just got a bfp the cycle just gone, it was 7 months, but 8 cycles due to how short they were at first after mc.

@familybythesea congratulations! Wishing you a happy/heathy/as anxiety free as poss 9 months. I’m currently in the high level of anxiety stage so am doing everything I can to keep distracted!

Thank you ladies, that is all so reassuring.
Congratulations to all the positives today! Amazing news and fantastic dose of hope.
Sorry to ask, but can someone list all the little codes I’m clueless what Bfp even stands for and EWCM? Sorry new to mumsnet chat.
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@HappyVibes yes!! When are you planning to test or are you planning on the full TWW?

@watermelonsugar10 BFP is big fat positive for a positive pregnancy test and ewcm is egg-white cervical mucus referring to the discharge that happens around ovulation time

Bfn is negative.
Rhr is a new one for me.
DH is darling husband I think and oh is other half

DTD is doing the deed.
BD is baby dance. Both referring to same thing.

Those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head

@watermelonsugar10 ooo forgot TWW which is two week wait