TTC after MC - October 2020 (Thread 14)

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@Furbsies I might try and hold out for the full TWW. I have said this many a time before though & never actually made it haha. How about you? Xxx

Well for me i have a gynae virtual appt on 3rd Nov which is 9dpo i think so i might test then. But almost tempted not to because AF isn't due till 7th nov...

I've not decided. This month. I think I'm gna take each day as it comes. Just got my fingers crossed xx

@Furbsies thank you!!!

@WatermelonSugar10 and @Furbsies rhr is resting heart rate xx

@familybythesea huge congratulations 🥳❤️ Hope it’s a sticky bean for you xxx

@Tink20058 and @2020wish how are you both doing? X

@Pugprincess sorry haven’t been on at all. Been flat out working on the wards over this second lockdown plus moving house... extremely exhausted but only 6 weeks left til I am off for shielding. I’m 18 weeks now and so far so good. I’m having a little boy!!! How r u? Pregnancy still going good?

@MichT4 @VP91x @chloedancer897 how r u all getting on?

@Pugprincess I’m good Thankyou 29 weeks now so feel like I’m on countdown I feel huge and uncomfortable but loving it💗💗 I have scans every 3 weeks now so feels like little milestones to get to, How are you doing? Xx

@Pugprincess and @RichmondLady1981 in response to your messages yesterday and everyone that's also taken the time to reply, thank you for your messages of support, as reassuring as they were, the bleeding turned pink last night... my gut is telling me something isn't right. I've got three children and I was sick as a dog with all of them by this point. Not a hint of sickness so far. My boobs aren't as sensitive. I don't feel as bloated as I did a week ago. I'm waiting to miscarry and it's absolute agony. I know the nhs won't see me unless I'm bleeding too heavily or pain is unmanageable. So basically, I've been told to wait it out at home. Should I book another private scan for the weekend? If (when) it confirms an issue, then the nhs will surely see me to help manage it? Will they?? Xx

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@Jazper oh I'm so so sorry that the bleeding seems to be progressing. Did they outright say they wouldn't see you? You're entitled to care, so if the bleeding has progressed from what you initially went in with then they should see you. Why don't you physically go back into the early pregnancy unit and see what they say? It would be cruel for them not to do anything at this point to see what's happening xx sending you so much love xx

@VP91x it wasn't the early pregnancy unit I went to, I just booked a private scan. Following that, I spoke to the local midwife (I have her number but haven't booked in yet) and she said that unless bleeding is heavy or I need pain management, I wouldn't be seen and would just be told to take a follow up pregnancy test after the worst of the bleeding...

@Jazper oh sorry I didn't realise it wasn't at EPU! Fuck, no way. That can't be right!? They can't just let you potentially miscarry without being seen. I would go down to EPU anyway don't ring in case they try and fob you off and forget what the midwife has said. Just say your bleeding is progressing and you're in pain (sounds shit to lie but, needs must) and hopefully they can scan you to confirm and offer you management from there xxx

@Jazper sorry to hear this but I still have hope all will be ok 🤞🏻 I would book a private scan so I could have a partner with me myself. X

@Tink20058 @2020wish great to hear from you both and glad things are going good with you guys. I’m 15+4 and feeling flutters! Got a private scan on Sunday for more reassurance as someone I know has just lost hers at 17 weeks (stopped growing at 15) so it just sets my anxiety off even more x

@Jazper how many weeks are you?

@Jazper I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My heart goes out to you. If you call EPU (assuming you don’t want to go in) they might be able to at least give you some advice. Thinking of you.

Aww bless you lovely, that must be so worrying for you @Jazper I wonder how you feel about booking a private scan? If they saw that it was MC, then you’d have a right to to EPU. You may have the scan and all is fine. But I do completely understand that we know our own bodies & you do sound like you need reassurance one way or another as it mustn’t be nice waiting with that worry. Sending you lots of love
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@Bellabubble thank you - I hear you on the anxiety and keeping distracted is a good idea. It’s tough though isn’t it! Congratulations to you too!

@RichmondLady1981 thank you lovely! I’d tried B6 and C last month for the short LP but it didn’t make any difference. When I saw the gynaecologist last week she said it really wasn’t anything to worry about and was normal. What is yours now?

@HappyVibes got my fingers crossed for you - hope the tww goes quickly for you!

Thank you all for your advice. As it happens, I can't do anything for a couple of days as we have my OH's grown up daughter over. I'm just going to have to act as though everything is normal until Friday morning. If it's not obvious by then, I will decide what to do.
@MSG92 I should be 7w2d but measured a week behind at a private scan on Sunday.
@HappyVibes as above. I've had one private scan. They have asked to rescan me to check growth a week on Saturday (13 days from the last scan) but as the bleeding has progressed, I just feel I need to know one way or the other. I'm sure just one week would be enough for a heartbeat to be seen?! For ref - I measured 5w6d and she saw a flicker of what she thought was the hb but couldn't say for definite.
@familybythesea hear your advice, thank you, just can't help but think they'll just fob me off.

@Jazper oh lovely I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this
I know it's different depending where you are but I was always told EPU wouldn't see you if before 6 weeks. If I were you I'd call them and just give them your LMP date as then you are over 7 weeks and they should absolutely see you. I also agree with @VP91x, say you are feeling pain - needs must to get you seen. They should be looking after you and can't just fob you off.
Failing that, a&e and they would probably send you to EPU anyway?

Please keep us updated

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@2020wish @Tink20058 @Pugprincess so lovely to hear your updates. Glad all is going well and @2020wish, how exciting a little boy!

Thanks for checking in on me - I am fine thank you. Still impatiently waiting, and hoping for good news before the year is out. Ill start OPKs soon, last month my Ava detected 'a change in my parameters' and predicted my FW perfectly so I'm hoping for that again so I can take some guess work out. Keeping everything crossed that my due date month will bring me some joy instead of just heartache 🤞🏼🤞🏼🌈🌈

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After having a few faint positives yesterday I've started bleeding 🤕 unfortunately this seems to be another chemical

@re6ecca - sorry to hear this. Have been where you are. Look after yourself.

@Jazper - if you ring the EPU, tell them that the pain is one-sided. This is apparently something that they can’t fob off due to risk of ectopic. I know it’s crap to have to ‘lie’, but you deserve to be seen.

@re6ecca ah I'm sorry :( this whole TTC is ridiculous, it would be so much easier if we were more oblivious like they were hundreds of years ago and just realised we were pregnant when a bump started to appear!! I hope you are OK.

@Jazper do you need any involvement at that stage? I'm not sure I only made it to 6w when I started bleeding but I just gritted my teeth and went through it at home, if you feel you need to confirmation go for your scan, it'll help you "close the book" this time round if that is what's happening. Still got fingers crossed for you though

It's not really that @MSG92 , I hate wasting NHS time and would always try to not to. If it would just start and happen, I would absolutely manage it at home. It's more that this has been ongoing since Friday and although it turned pink last night, I've had no more since. I know in my gut it's not right, but I really don't want to have to make it to the dating scan to be told that. My OH is so much older than I am, we just don't have time on our side to waste. As awful as that sounds, I'd love for this baby to be ok, but if it's not, I just want to move forward and get on again... thank you for your advice and keeping your fingers crossed for me xx

Thank you @Chickoletta and @MichT4 , I have decided I will get the family visit over with and if no progression by Friday when she goes back, I will contact the doctor and push for a referral to EPAU. That will give things chance to happen at least.

So sorry @re6ecca 😥 I really am. I never thought making a healthy baby could be so hard xx

@Jazper could you not speak to your gp they maybe able to do blood tests to see it’s hcg is progressing? Epu was the same with me when I miscarried in April was just told to take another test in a week’s time it’s like you are stuck in limbo, really hope your ok xxx

@Jazper I'm so sorry this is happening to you but all is not lost. Please try to stay positive (easier said than done). Have you done a pregnancy test? At least if it's positive, it'll give you some hope until your scan at the weekend. I think early pregnancy services are useless. It's obvious they are oversubscribed and understaffed but I've heard them so many times tell people they can't change the outcome so what's the point but they don't think of the person on the other side of the phone as a mother with a baby inside her.

@re6ecca so sorry AF has come for you. take it easy on yourself. I always use AF coming to get in a hot bath with a new bath bomb, have a good cry and then get myself prepared for the next cycle xo

@Tink20058 @Pugprincess @2020wish it's so lovely to hear from you guys! I'm glad everything is going well for you all 😊

@2020wish a boy!!! How excited is your daughter to have a little brother? Oh my word!!!
I thought I wasn't ovulating due to my temps and had bloods done and my progesterone is fine so again I have no answers. We discussed it the other day and we are going to stop TTC. If it happens, then how amazing would that be? But if not, I've resigned myself to the fact that it may be a pipe dream. It's been a tough decision and one I've been mulling over for a while but I think you have to draw a line at some point. Fertility services here still haven't recommenced since covid so the chances of me getting it in the next year are slim anyway but I'll keep myself on the list just in case. Otherwise I plan to just linger on this thread to celebrate with everyone else 😊